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Origins And Legends

2012-01-18T11:00:00.000-05:00

Many of our modern popular wedding traditions have their origin in times past. Here's a sampling.

The Bridal Shower tradition has its roots in the 1800's. The story is told of poor a miller who fell in love with a wealthy maiden. But, the father of the maiden was against the marriage. He refused to provide a dowry for her, and a bride could not marry without a dowry. The story goes that the bride had generous friends who "showered" her with so many gifts, they could forego the missing dowry.

Why "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue?" The "old" was usually a personal gift from mother to daughter, a symbolic piece of wisdom for married life. The "new" symbolized the new family being formed by the marriage. "Borrowing" is especially important since it is to come from a happily married woman, thereby lending the bride some of her own marital bliss. "Blue" has two traditions, ancient Roman maidens wore blue on the borders of their robes to denote love, fidelity and modesty, while Christians associate it with the purity of the Virgin Mary.

In very early days, fathers would offer daughters as peace offerings to warring tribes. Because of the hostility, the families were placed on opposite sides of the church so the ceremony could proceed without bloodshed. The ceremony united the two warring factions into one family, and the danger was resolved. Today, family members still sit on opposite sides.

Because the early Anglo Saxon groom often had to defend his bride from would-be kidnappers, she stood to his left, leaving his sword-arm free just in case. The "best" warrior in the tribe stood by the groom and was responsible for helping defend the bride, should the need arise. Thus we have the placement for the best man.

Ever wonder where the phrase "tie the knot" comes from? Supposedly this also goes back to early Roman times. The bride would wear a girdle that was tied in many knots, which the groom had the "duty" to untie. As a side note, this can also refer to the tying of the knot in Handfasting Ceremonies, which were usually done without the benefit of clergy.

In early times the bride had to be carried over the threshold because she was (or was pretending to be) reluctant to enter the bridal chamber. In those days, it was considered ladylike to be hesitant at this point. Another legend has it that the bride was carried over the threshold to protect her from any evil spirits which might be lingering there.

The term "Honeymoon" also originated centuries ago. It was the custom for couples to get married beneath a full moon. Then they would drink honey wine for thirty days in a row, to foster good luck. This created the term honeymoon.

The wedding cake originated from the ancient custom where a loaf of wheat bread was broken over the bride's head to symbolize hope for a fertile and fulfilling life. The guests ate the crumbs which were believed to offer good luck. The custom found it's way to England in the Middle Ages where guests would bring small cakes to a wedding and put them in one large pile. The bride and groom were expected to stand over the cakes and kiss.

Loud noises were said to drive away evil spirits, and during the ceremony the guests would make noises to keep the evil away. Today, it's traditional that the bridal party honk their car horns and drag rattling tin cans while leaving the ceremony.

Kathryn Lemmon, Wedding Zone Staff Writer

Rehearsal Dinner Ideas

2012-01-11T11:00:00.000-05:00

Traditionally, on the day before your wedding, the festivities get started with a rehearsal. Over time, this function has split into two separate events, a practice session along with a meal. The meal brings together close friends and family, generally the same people who attended the rehearsal, plus appropriate others.

Is a rehearsal of the ceremony really necessary?

Although a formal rehearsal of the ceremony is not required, most officiants will want to take a run through of the full program. Those included would be the bride and groom, their parents, the wedding party and any readers/singers. The officiant will give everyone their cues for the next day, so things will go smoothly. Knowing where to stand and what to do will ensure everyone is a fraction less nervous at the wedding.

What if we can't use the wedding site for the rehearsal?

Ideally, you should have the rehearsal at the wedding site. This can be especially valuable if there are young children in the wedding party. Sometimes however, the requirements of the site do not make a rehearsal feasible. A rehearsal can be done in someone's home, or in just about any large space.

What's the function of the rehearsal dinner?

After the rehearsal, everyone gathers for a celebration dinner, where the bride and groom are the center of attention. In this less-formal setting, family members meeting for the first time can mingle and get better acquainted. Unlike the Big Day, the bride and groom are under less pressure and have more time to talk with relatives in a relaxed fashion.

Once everyone has arrived and is seated, either the bride or groom should take a moment to welcome their guests with a few heartfelt words and thank them for attending.

Numerous toasts are usually part of the rehearsal dinner. If you need someone to start the toasts, the groom's father is a good choice.

Who should be invited to the dinner?

The rehearsal dinner guest list should include immediate family, (parents and siblings) wedding-party members and any spouses and significant others along with the parents of any child attendants. You should invite the officiant and his/her spouse to the dinner, unless it's a civil service. If you have out-of-town guests who have already arrived for the wedding, you can invite them to the dinner portion of the evening.

Who handles the costs of the dinner?

The groom's parents traditionally paid, but these days it can be hosted by anyone. No matter who hosts, be sure they are involved in the entire planning process.

Is it necessary to send formal invitations to the rehearsal dinner?

No, engraved invitations are not necessary, unless you're planning an event as big and formal as the wedding reception. For most couples, word-of-mouth or simple phone calls are fine.

When is the rehearsal dinner?

Often, this event is on the eve of the wedding, however it could be anytime during that day, as in morning, noon, or evening. The term "dinner" is used loosely.

Where should the dinner be held?

Where you hold the event will depend on the number of people you expect to attend and the costs involved. The options are wide open, from a casual barbecue in the backyard to a table for twenty-five at the local country club. Keep in mind, relaxation and chatting are high priorities at this event. The location should also be convenient for out-of-town guests, who may not be familiar with your city. Provide a detailed map if necessary.

Should I handout gifts during the dinner?

In addition to family members meeting each other, the dinner provides an excellent opportunity for the couple to hand out their attendant's thank-you gifts. Chances are, this setting will be much less hectic than the reception and can make the gift giving more personalized. The couple should present their parents or anyone else who was an important part of the wedding process, with a token of appreciation.

Kathryn Lemmon, Wedding Zone Staff Writer

Floral Traditions And Trends 2012

2012-01-04T11:00:00.000-05:00

Nothing quite captures the romance of a couple joining together in matrimony like the beauty and sensuous scents of nature's magnificent creations, flowers. But, more than just decoration, flowers set the tone and make a personal statement about the couple.

For centuries we have associated different flowers with the emotions which underscore the union of two souls - the rose has always symbolized the love between two individuals, for example. Blossoms and greenery have adorned churches, homes, gardens and parks, enhancing the backdrop where lovers wed.

But, the bridal bouquet remains the real focal point for the bride and the florist. Strict rules about bouquets have all but vanished, leaving brides free to design any sort of arrangement they prefer. Flowers are no longer limited to white or cream, although pale blossoms are often chosen because they fit the spirit of the occasion and don't draw attention from the bride. Fall weddings inspire even bolder palettes. For example, burgundy roses arranged with pale, peach-colored blooms make for a stunning and very romantic bouquet. Other color additions include a touch of blue or lavender. Lilacs and hydrangea are popular choices. Red roses and poinsettias remain popular for holiday weddings.

One recent trend has been to simply hand-tie a mass of like-colored roses with ribbon so they look graceful, yet unpretentious. This simple, elegant look has been extremely popular for the past several years and gives the bride more of a natural appearance, as if she just stepped from the garden.

Another new approach is a herb bouquet. An herb bouquet, which also contains flowers, might include a combination of sage, lemon balm, lavender, rosemary, orchids and twigs. It smells lovely and will make a wonderful keepsake.

Experts say the choice of your wedding bouquet depends a great deal on the style of your gown. For instance, a bride dressed in Victorian-inspired white lace might select an old-fashioned cluster of sweetheart roses and violets for the bouquet. On the other hand, a bride in a country-style gown might want a more casual profusion of wildflowers and daisies. The most traditional and formal bouquets, however, are usually all white. However, white bouquets can include a bit of fern or ivy for color. The bouquet size should also be in proportion to the bride. Too large an arrangement will overpower and clutter the look of the bride.

Florists advise against making a firm decision on flowers too early in the planning process. As the bride will probably attend weddings and get many ideas from wedding publications, it can be premature to select flowers a year in advance. Color schemes change and ideas change often over a year's time, which can lead to confusion. Four to six months prior to the wedding is usually a better time frame.

It's helpful to a florist if the brides bring in photos (or other visual aids) of the floral arrangements they like, as well as samples of dress fabrics of the bride and attendants.

Florists are now seeing a trend toward having flower decorations at all phases of a wedding, from the ceremony to the reception. Some florists will move flower arrangements from the ceremony sites to the reception sites, then rearrange existing displays into centerpieces or use them to embellish doors, tables, stages, or other areas.

Bridesmaids, mothers, the groom and groomsmen should all wear flower styles which match the theme of the wedding and the bridal bouquet. Bridesmaid flowers should not upstage the bride's ensemble, but it is recommended that the maid of honor have a larger bouquet with a distinct arrangement.

Most popular flowers are associated with a desirable quality. The list below includes some flowers and their special meaning.

Apple Blossoms - good fortune
Baby's Breath - pure heart
Bluebell - constancy
Blue Violet - faithfulness
Daffodil - joy
Gardenia - joy
Gladiolus - generosity
Iris - wisdom
Lily of the Valley - happiness
Magnolia - nobility
Orange Blossom - purity and fertility
Orchid - beauty
Rose - deep love
White Daisy - innocence

Kathryn Lemmon, Wedding Zone Staff Writer

Happy New Year 2012

2011-12-28T11:00:00.000-05:00

We hope everyone enjoyed the Holiday Season. We wish all our fellow wedding professionals and engaged couples a happy, healthy and prosperous 2012!

DIY Wedding Favors 2012

2011-11-30T11:00:00.000-05:00

Many brides and grooms want to thank all their wedding guests for attending their special day. One way that they do this is by sending home their guests with wedding favors. Unfortunately, many wedding favors fly under the radar and sometimes guests forget to take them home with them. If you are planning to have wedding favors at your wedding, be sure to impress your guests with a favor that will not be soon forgotten. Here are a few DIY wedding favor ideas that will be sure to please you and the rest of your wedding guests as well...

Pre-Packaged S'mores

In clear plastic containers, have separate boxes for the graham crackers, marshmallows and chocolate pieces. Package each up individually and have one nest on top of one another. Wrap with a decorative ribbon, for a wedding favor that guests will be sure to enjoy!

Flowers, Plants, or Sunflowers

Send guests home with a token that can be enjoyed for years to come. Pre-packaged sunflower seeds or even bulbs placed in special packaging would be an ideal favor, as guests can take these gifts home and have them grow with love. You could have blooms that are already established, planted in decorative containers with a special note from you to your guests decoratively attached to the container.

Customized Stationary

Leave a lovely stack and beautifully wrapped set of monogrammed stationary at each guests' place setting. Personalize each notecard with your new initials and be sure to include envelopes as well. Guests will be sure to use this thoughtful and personalized gift!

Scented Candles

This favor idea is ideal for those having a beach wedding, but would also be perfect for those couples that enjoy candles as well. Place a scented votive candle into a mini pail. Attach a lovely personalized label on the outside of the pail. Have your name and wedding date prominently displayed on the label. You can even customize the color candle to what color dresses the bridesmaids wear. Or you could even choose a scent that you both enjoy to share with your guests.

Jar Gifts

This idea of giving your wedding guests jar gifts has many possibilities! You can simply jar just about anything. Package cookie mix in a clear Mason jar, make a candle within the jar, insert cupcake mix, granola, homemade jam or even hand salve. Personalize the jar with decorative ribbons, color coordinate the jars with your wedding colors, and event attach a personalized recipe if what you packaged needs directions.

As you can see, there are many wedding favors that aren't quite traditional, but do make a big impression with guests and leave a lasting impression with them as well.

About the author: Amanda Cooper is a freelance writer for Wedding Favours Kingdom, which carries an array of wedding accessories, wedding favors and even Christmas Favors. Amanda is a contributing writer for other wedding, travel and home-related websites. When Amanda is not writing, she enjoys reading.

How To Add Music To Your Wedding Ceremony

2011-11-23T11:00:00.000-05:00

The importance of your wedding ceremony music should never be underestimated and it is worth spending some time choosing the right songs and music to fit.

Music is a key part of creating an atmosphere and also to fill in those moments when there is a lull in proceedings. Whether you go for pre-recorded or live music it is a great way to personalize your ceremony and set everyone up for the celebrations to come.

With a religious ceremony it is often traditional to have live music, perhaps from an organist, choir or string quartet. You may find you are restricted more on choice with a religious ceremony than you would be with a civil one so you should always run your ideas past your officiant first. With a civil ceremony they must not be any religious references or themes so do check the lyrics on any songs before you add them to the list.

At a civil ceremony it is usual to have a CD player or set up your MP3 player. A civil ceremony is typically quite short so live music may not really be a cost effective choice unless you book them to play at the reception too. Do consider the size of your venue as well, a small venue may not be able to accommodate several musicians as well as all your guests, whilst a large venue and a CD player combination may leave guests at the back struggling to hear! Ask to check out the acoustics when you visit and talk with the officiant about your options.

Finding your perfect music….

There are many CD’s and downloads out there which have compiled the traditional and popular choices for wedding ceremony music and some couples may find their officiant will present them a list of ‘approved’ music and songs to choose from. However, you do not have to go down the traditional route or keep everything classical – think about how your song choices will personalize your ceremony.

You will need to pick music for when you walk up the aisle (processional), when you go to sign the register (interlude) and when you walk back down the aisle as man and wife (recessional). There maybe time constraints to consider however, particularly with a civil ceremony in a register office so do ask how long each piece of music should be.

On a final point you may have favourite tracks or music that you think will fit perfectly in your ceremony, however many have come unstuck with unsuitable lyrics suddenly becoming immediately obvious the moment a track is played on the day! Always check out the lyrics and any alternate meanings before making your final choices – just in case!

About the author: Georgina Clatworthy is a featured columnist for 1Wedding Source and wedding guru helping brides-to-be with their wedding planning. Although she is not associated with Los Willows, she can recommend them as being a stunning San Diego wedding venue.

DJ Value Tips

2011-11-16T11:00:00.000-05:00

10 Tips to Get the Most Value for Your Wedding DJ Dollar

"Price is what you pay. Value is what you get." - Warren Buffett

In this economy, brides and grooms want to get the most value for their money when selecting their wedding DJ. Since DJ rates are determined by a DJ's experience, level of service and quality of equipment, there is little value in hiring the least expensive DJ you can find. Phoenix AZ DJ Billy James offers 10 tips to help you get the best value when hiring your wedding DJ.

1. Travel Time - Most DJ's would rather travel minutes rather than hours to get to your reception. Select a DJ who is located close to your venue and then ask if the reduced travel time could result in a reduced rate.

2. Prime Time - Saturdays are prime time for weddings. If your wedding will not take place on a Saturday, your DJ may consider a reduced rate if it is requested.

3. Number of Hours - Most wedding receptions do not last more than 4 or 5 hours. If your cocktail hour will take place on a patio or foyer, the venue's house system can often provide the background music. Hiring your DJ for an hour of dinner music and 3 hours for dancing may be sufficient. A DJ's 4 hour rate is usually less expensive than a 5 or 6 hour rate.

4. Number of Guests - From a DJ's perspective, a low-key reception for 50 guests has less stress and requires less equipment than a high-powered reception for 200. If you are having a small, simple reception, ask if your DJ will factor that into his pricing.

5. Venue Access - Experienced DJ's love venues with easy access to load their heavy equipment in and out. If your reception venue does not involve parking garages, stairs or elevators, ask your DJ if that advantage can be reflected in his rate.

6. Agencies - Some excellent wedding disc jockeys are represented by agencies. However, when you hire a wedding DJ through an agency, the rate you are quoted will be used to compensate several people. Dealing with a DJ directly, rather than through an agency, may better your chances of getting more entertainment value for your money.

7. Upselling - Some DJ services charge extra for dance floor lighting, wireless microphones, extra speakers, etc. This is called up-selling. You will get more value if you hire a DJ who includes these extras at no additional charge or is willing to give you a lower rate by eliminating these extras.

8. Credit Card Processing - Most professional DJ services accept major credit cards. However, it costs the DJ money to process a credit card. Ask about a discount if you are willing to pay by check or cash.

9. Feeding Your DJ - Catering Directors will often ask if you'd like to provide a meal for your DJ. If you feel that's appropriate, ask for a vendor discount (or box) rather than including the DJ as part of your guest list. A professional DJ will not have time to sit down to a full course dinner and you'll save $$.

10. Don't Be a Bridezilla! - If you are a fun person and easy to work with, then ask for the "I'm not a Bridezilla" discount. You may get one :)

About the author: Phoenix Wedding DJ Billy James is an experienced musician, professional DJ and Master of Ceremonies

A Wedding Date To Remember 11/11/11

2011-11-09T11:00:00.000-05:00

Vegas weddings and weddings around the world skyrocket on 11/11/11

It's a day that comes only once every 100 years - 11/11/11. And in Vegas, that means throngs of lovebirds are flocking to chapels to get hitched Friday. "We're surrounded by hundreds of couples who want to get married on 11/11/11," said the Rev. Charlotte Richards, owner of Little White Wedding Chapel on the Las Vegas Strip. The chapel has 200 brides and grooms who are either getting hitched for the first time or are renewing their vows. In addition to a beautiful ceremony, Richards said she is offering bridal flowers and dog tags that have the 11/11/11 date inscribed on them. Many couples booked their special day two years in advance. At least 75 additional staff members were needed to accommodate the demand at Little White Wedding Chapel. "We have 17 ministers, limousine drivers, greeters, videographers," Richards said. In 30 of the weddings, an Elvis impersonator will serenade the couple. Closer to downtown, the Viva Las Vegas Wedding Chapel is equally abuzz. It has 190 weddings booked, with the first starting at midnight. That means about four weddings every 30 minutes throughout the day, with only a couple of hours of down time for a break. General Manager Brian Mills calls his establishment "The Fun Chapel." Couples can have Blues Brothers or Marilyn Monroe impersonators as officiators. They can also have a Camelot-themed wedding or one with an Elvis impersonator, complete with a 1964 pink Cadillac convertible that drives the couple down the aisle. The couples include 18- and 19-year-olds; military personnel who are about to get deployed and want a quick wedding; and some who are renewing their vows. "Part of the thrill is that it'll be a day the couple won't forget -- as in it will be easy to remember your anniversary," Mills said. He said he's already looking forward to 12/12/12.

These unique wedding dates became popular at the turn of the century with 1/1/2001. The most popular was 7/7/2007. If you would like to have your wedding on a unique date that comes only once every century, next year will be your last chance! Start planning your 12/12/2012 wedding today...

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Appreciation Gifts For Your Bridal Party

2011-11-02T11:00:00.000-04:00

When a newly engaged couple begins to plan out their wedding, typically they choose a few close family members or friends to stand by them while exchanging their vows. The bridal party can be as large or small depending on what the couple prefers. No matter the size of the bridal party, their assistance and support with the wedding is priceless. To show how much you appreciate them participating in your wedding day, give them a gift that they will truly never forget. Here are a few fabulous ideas for the entire wedding party.

Gifts for the Entire Wedding Party

Personalized Beverage Coozies - Have your bridal party drink in style with their name and their role in your wedding displayed on the outside part of the coozie. This is a perfect gift and it can be used well after the wedding is over.

Personalized Shot Glasses - Cheers! Personalize beautiful shot glasses with your bridal party's name and your wedding date. Make them feel extra special by getting Bridesmaid, Groomsman, Maid of Honor or Best Man engraved on the shot glass as well.

Bridal Party Baseball Caps - Are you really in to sports and want to try and incorporate that into your wedding festivities? Shower your bridal party and family members with baseball caps! From the Father of the Bride to your Best Man, these bridal party baseball caps will surely get everyone's spirit soaring!

Engraved Key Chains - Have your bridal party remember how appreciate you are of them every time they get into their car with a engraved key chain depicting their name and a personalized message from you.

Monogrammed Stemless Wine Glasses - Surprise your bridal party by giving them a beautiful set of monogrammed stemless wine glasses. Perfect for both the bridesmaids and the groomsmen!

Gifts Just For The Bridesmaids

Monogrammed Compacts - Show those special ladies in your bridal party that they mean so much to you, by gifting them with a beautiful compact! Every time your bridesmaids search through their purse for their compact mirror, they will be sure to think of you!

Wedding Day Accessories - Give your bridesmaids something that they will cherish for years to come, a beautiful jewelry set, which they can wear on your wedding day. Earrings, necklace and a bracelet would be a thoughtful and gorgeous way to say thank you to your bridesmaids.

About the author: Amanda Cooper is a freelance writer for Wedding Favours Kingdom, which carries an array of wedding accessories, Wedding Favours, and candle wedding favours. Amanda is also a writer for other travel and wedding-related websites. When Amanda is not writing, she enjoys cooking for friends and family.

Live Wedding Music

2011-10-26T11:00:00.000-04:00

How to book a wedding band

The one way to guarantee a memorable end to your wedding is day is to hire a live band. The live atmosphere is an excuse for people to get up and dance to the music, even if they're usually not the type. Whether it's motown, swing, pop/ or rock you're into, then you'll most certainly have been browsing on google and found it a little overwhelming. With so many bands to choose from, all at different prices and many appearing to be similar at what they do, it can hard to pick the right band.

Most people haven't really ever had a reason to book a wedding band before, so if you're not sure how it works, hopefully this article will give you a point in the right direction! I'm going to take you through the process of how to find a wedding band, some guidelines about the wedding reception running order and some things to think about before hiring a band.

Where do I start?

Before booking a band, you obviously want to hear the music that you like so if you're looking for a swing band, the easiest thing to do is type it in Google and see who comes up. Of course, it's difficult to know how good a band is live but their demo's, website and photos are usually a good indication of how serious a band is. If a band's been together for 8 years and are coming up at the top on Google, they must be doing something right. If you want to be 100% sure about a band you either need to watch them play live or book through a reputable entertainment agency. Watching a band play live first isn't as easy as it might sound because event bands very rarely play in public. Hiring a band through a music agency means they've been checked out and are up to a high standard. Remember, you usually get what you pay for!

Booking your Band

Once you've found a band you like, make an inquiry sending over the date, location of the wedding and rough timings. Most bands will quote for 2 x 45 minute sets or 3 x 40 minutes. If the band is available and you want to go ahead, the band or agency will send over a contract, which would be signed by yourself and the band. A deposit of around 20% - 30% is usually required to secure the booking.

Payment

With the deposit paid, you'll be expected to pay the remaining fee to the agency a few weeks before the date or alternatively you may need to pay the band on the night, it all depends on the route you've gone down.

Article submitted by Adam Mezzatesta

Selecting Your Attendants

2011-10-19T11:00:00.000-04:00

How do you pick your bridesmaids and groomsmen?

Why is it that wedding planning always seems to bog down when it comes to planning out the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen to have in the ceremony? Even if a couple can agree on the number to have, how do you decide which people you should ask to be your attendants?

These questions have been asked by nearly every bride for the last 50 years (or at least as long as women have been planning their own weddings). While the question of who to have as your wedding attendants is a little harder to answer than the number you should have, both questions have fairly simple answers.

How Many Attendants Should You Have?

When it comes to the number of attendants that should be in your ceremony, there really is no “right” or “wrong” number. However, it is with a sigh of relief that most brides hear that there is a general rule of thumb regarding the number of attendants, and that it is based off of the size and formality of your wedding.

- Large and/or Formal Weddings (200+ guests). For large and/or formal weddings, it is generally accepted that between 6-10 bridesmaids and an equal number of groomsmen will be in the ceremony.

- Semi-Formal/Medium Sized Weddings (100-200 guests). For Semi-Formal and/or medium sized weddings the standard rule of thumb is between 1-6 bridesmaids and an equal number of groomsmen.

- Casual / Small Sized Weddings (under 100 guests). For Casual or small sized weddings having just a best man and maid of honor is acceptable, though 1-2 additional sets of attendants is not unheard of.

- Second Marriages. Normally for second marriages there are no attendants, though those with children may choose to have them as part of the ceremony.

How Do You Choose Your Attendants?

Deciding who to ask to be your bridesmaids or groomsmen can provide even more headaches, especially if you come from a large family or have a large number of close friends. Again, thankfully, tradition has a few thoughts on the matter.

- Selecting your maid of honor/best man. Selecting a maid of honor or best man is actually fairly simple. A best friend; someone special on whom you can depend is the traditional choice for a maid of honor or a best man. While many times it is a friend, you can also choose a brother, sister or even father or mother to fill these roles.

- Selecting your bridesmaids/groomsmen. Selecting your bridesmaids and/or groomsmen is a more difficult task, especially if you have a large number of friends or family. But traditionally choosing close friends or family members who are close to you is an acceptable way of choosing your bridesmaids or groomsmen.

While choosing the number of attendants and deciding who those attendants should be can be a sticky point in your wedding planning, hopefully knowing what the traditionally accepted numbers and choices are can help you in smoothing out the details of your big day.

About the author: Sarah Rigos is founder of the leading cash registry, Starlight Registry.

Theme Wedding Ideas

2011-10-12T11:00:00.000-04:00

Theme Weddings: how to make your special day even more special.

Weddings are events often organized with respect for tradition: religious ceremony, white wedding gown, fine banquet and so on. But behind every ceremony, there are two people, whose desires and personality may lead to the wish to give their wedding a touch of uniqueness and personalization. A good way to do that, without giving up traditions, is to plan a theme wedding.

Theme weddings can be of many different kinds. Here you are some examples, to be inspired from:

Beach Weddings

For people who love the seaside and want a young and fresh wedding, a wedding on the beach can be the perfect option. The idea is a good fit also for low-cost venues, as luxury restaurants and expensive decorations can be replaced by a rich buffet and simple but colourful flowers.

History-inspired weddings

A Medieval, 9th Century or Gone with The Wind style wedding: a multitude of ideas comes from history and there’s almost no limit to what it can suggest to make your wedding very original, especially if you choose the right location to increase the effect. Try to think, for example, to a Roman-style wedding in Rome, with the Coliseum as a perfect background.

Fairy tales inspired weddings

A wedding venue good enough for a princess: which girl has never thought about a wedding in a castle? Hotels and restaurant located in old restored castles are not impossible to find, especially for wedding venues in Italy and in France.

Personalized wedding venues

A theme wedding does not necessary need a huge effort. A wedding venue can be personalized also thanks to a few simple details. A good idea could be to pick up a specific theme according to the bride’s style, like a colour or the favourite flower, and choose the decoration according to this choice. Other original and simple ideas to give the venue a personal touch could be to write your own wedding vows or to organize special activities to entertain the guests.

Planning a theme wedding can be very complicated. For this reason, it could be a good idea to hire a professional wedding planner, especially if you choose to celebrate your wedding abroad. Involving friends and relatives could be also useful, so that they can enter the “themed” atmosphere in the best possible way.

Whatever support you decide to get, the most important thing to remember is that who has to make the final decisions is the couple. This is what really makes a wedding personalized.

Article submitted by Dimple Lalji

Special Ways to Remember Your Loved Ones on Your Wedding Day

2011-10-05T11:00:00.000-04:00

A wedding day is a once in a lifetime event and will be cherished for many years to come. We are surrounded by our loving family and friends who wish us the very best of what a marriage has to offer us. It is also a time for reflection and a time to assess our lives and where we would like to head into the future. But often times looking back in order to plan the future, means that we come to the realization that there are loved ones which are no longer here with us. Although this may be sad that they are unable to physically take part and attend your wedding day, there are many special ways to remember those that are no longer with us.

A Verse, Hymn or Song

No matter where you have your wedding ceremony, a specific and special verse, hymn or song can be read or sung as an acknowledgment to those loved ones that have passed. Have this moment incorporated into your actual ceremony and have it stated in the wedding program the reason and importance of that verse, hymn or song.

Candles

Just like the bride and groom light a unity candle together to recognize their lives coming together as one, set aside a unique candle lighting ceremony for your loved ones who are no longer with you. Lighting a pillar candle on both the bride and the groom's side of the altar can signify those lost loved ones. Ask others to help you light various tea light candles at the ceremony site, each candle then representing a loved one that has passed.

Dedicate a Poem or Story or Share a Memory

Although the center of attention is primarily placed on the bride and groom on their wedding, those that wish to share the spotlight with the loved ones who are no longer with us, often dedicate a poem or story or even share a memory of that special someone. This can spoken to those attending the wedding ceremony, or spoken by a guest attending the ceremony or the bride and groom can decide to share the poem, story or memory with everyone by inserting into the wedding ceremony program. This would be a lovely dedication to show how much you miss your loved ones and would be an ideal time for other guests to reflect as well.

About the author: Amanda Cooper is a writer for Wedding Favours Kingdom, which carries a large selection of wedding accessories, Wedding Favours, and candle wedding favours. Amanda is also a writer for other home and wedding-related websites. When Amanda is not writing, she enjoys spending time with her family and friends.

Groom’s Survival Guide

2011-09-28T11:00:00.000-04:00

Now while you might well be wondering how one apparently small question could have such massive repercussions just bare in mind what this day means to the lovely lady in question. Most guys have never really given much thought to their future wedding but for many women it is a day they have pictured from their earliest memory. When you were scuffing your new school shoes chasing a ball your bride-to-be was already dreaming of her future Prince Charming (although at the time he was probably wearing a cape rather than your favourite trainers and T-shirt). It’s an over used phrase that it’s the most special day in a girl’s life but it is true. And what’s more she expects it to hold the same significance for you. So while she’s buying a newsstand’s entire stock of wedding magazines and showing you the 27 different ways she’s thinking of wearing her hair she’s hoping that thoughtful look on your face relates to your own ideas for the wedding rather than whether you’ll get to sneak out for a quick 18 holes this weekend rather than go to yet another wedding fair. Oh yeah… and she’ll wear a dress that will cost the price of a small family car. And then never ever wear it again.

Communication is key. Despite your beloved now having turned into bridezilla, in the words of Rudyard Kipling you need to “keep your head when all about you are losing theirs”. She IS going to get stressed. She IS going to get upset. You WILL have arguments concerning the wedding day. All this is perfectly natural and doesn’t mean you love each other any less it just means you’re planning a wedding and researchers say this is one of the most stressful events in a person’s life, especially for the bride.

One of the biggest complaints brides have is that their husband-to-be doesn’t seem to get involved enough or show enough interest. Yes there is an impossible list of questions to get through; What kind of flowers? What colour tie? What gifts do you get the bridesmaids? Should you sit Cousin Albert near the door in case he has one of his “moments”? While it’s true that what font you use on the place settings isn’t going to end world hunger or bring about piece in the Middle East these small details can make all the difference on the big day so get involved. Your wedding should be an extension of your personalities with all the quirks and idiosyncrasies that make the two of you so different. That doesn’t mean you have to dress as Smurfs or walk down the aisle to Iron Maiden but it means you should both be have a say in how you want the day to play out.

But you will need help to. Any bride has a whole support network buzzing around her keen to help out at every step and dress fitting. Us guys are never quite as willing to look for help but it’s not a bad idea to have someone on hand you can call when you need to head on a “fact finding mission” of you own to the nearest watering hole. Make sure your best man is the right man for the job who will sit with you and help you let off some steam when you need and also be the kind of friend that can help take some of the load off your shoulders when it comes to researching cars, musicians, DJ’s, etc.

So don’t just sit back ignoring the chaos, it isn’t going to go away and you’ll only add to the bride’s stress levels and if you bury your head for too long you might wake up on the day to find you’re travelling to the church in a pink stretch limo in a lime green suit. Make decisions, enjoy the process because despite some of the potential sticking points it should be enjoyable. After all this is going to be the most significant day of your lives, it’s your big day too.

Article submitted by Kye Harmon, www.simplythebestgroom.com

Tips For Attending A Bridal Show

2011-09-21T11:00:00.000-04:00

I've done my share of bridal shows over the last 10+ years. Here are a few helpful tips for newly engaged couples to take to their next bridal show.

1. Register Early

Most bridal show producers give you the option to pre-register online, much of the time with free or discounted admission. Take advantage of early registration to make entering the event run smoother. There are usually longer lines when you register at the event.

2. Bring Your Fiance And...

You should definitely bring your fiance to the show. Other people to consider taking along would be your parents, siblings, maid/matron of honor. You don't want to drag out too many people, just those that are important to you and/or are helping pay for the wedding.

3. How To Avoid Writer's Cramp

Be prepared... many vendors offer contests and promotions and will ask for your information when you visit their booth or table. Save time and avoid hand cramping. Get stickers or labels pre-printed with the following information: YOUR NAME, ADDRESS, PHONE #, EMAIL ADDRESS, WEDDING DATE. You can get stickers made at a very reasonable price at your local Staples, Office Depot, etc. If you're computer savvy, you can print labels on your home/office printer. I've also seen a number of brides-to-be bring a self-inking rubber stamp, which is also a great idea and available at a very low price at your local office supply store.

4. Booking A Vendor At A Bridal Show

The best thing about attending a bridal show is that you can meet face-to-face with several wedding vendors in a short amount of time. Depending on the show, there will be anywhere from a dozen to over a hundred exhibitors. Be sure to visit every vendor. Many will offer special discounts that are only available on the day of the show. Bring your checkbook, credit card or cash so you can take advantage of these savings. Ask questions... the vendors are there to help you plan your special day.

5. Arranging Your Day

Be prepared to spend anywhere between 3 to 5 hours at the show. The agenda varies from show to show, but most of the time you can expect to find food / dessert samplings, live entertainment and a fashion show. Dress comfortably and wear comfortable shoes.

6. You've Got Mail

Set up a separate wedding email account for all your wedding planning adventures. Stay organized and keep your wedding emails separate from your personal emails. Whether you provide your email address at a bridal show, online or anywhere else, you will definitely see quite a few emails in your inbox from wedding vendors and other wedding related services. Check your wedding email account frequently and take the time to read each message to find special deals and money saving offers. When your wedding is over, delete your wedding email account, done.

7. Find A Bridal Show

Search for Bridal Shows in your area in our wedding planning guide. Have a great time and enjoy the show!

Submitted by Joe Tortorello, Site Administrator

KDLT News Anchor Surprise On-Air Marriage Proposal

2011-09-20T11:05:00.000-04:00

Jennifer Hudspeth, a news anchor for KDLT in South Dakota, was surprised by her boyfriend, Nate Johnson, with a marriage proposal during a live newscast. Hudspeth is also known for her Miss Minnesota 2007 victory. KDLT is an NBC affiliate television station. No word yet on a wedding date.

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Engagement Ring Shopping Tips For Men

2011-09-14T11:00:00.000-04:00

Let's face it - when a man walks into a jewelry store to purchase an engagement ring, beads of sweat may form on his forehead within minutes. Most men can become easily overwhelmed if they have not been regularly peppered with engagement ring styles, diamond cuts, and favorite designs from their fiancée.

Here are some shopping tips for any guy looking to make the perfect engagement ring purchase sometime in the near future:

Listen Up

Almost all women will drop hints at some point on what type of engagement ring they want to wear on their perfect day, as well as the rest of their lives. Some hints are subtle and some are as obvious as the tattoo on Mike Tyson's face. Keep your eyes peeled and your ears open when the hints start dropping. If you pay attention to your significant other at all, you'll know a hint when you see one.

Learn about Color, Cuts & Clarity

There are many different parts to a diamond engagement ring that determines its value and price. The diamond might look sparkly and beautiful, but until you completely understand the mechanics behind a diamond you can't be too sure what you're really getting. Let's talk about the famous four Cs: color, clarity, cut, and carat. Color is based on a specific grading system, which starts at D, which are clear, colorless stones, and goes all the way to Z, light yellow or brown stones. Diamond clarity is graded similarly to identify any blemishes and imperfections - the less inclusions are in a diamond, the rarer and more expensive it is. Grading ranges from flawless to included (I3).

There are many beautifully cut diamond shapes, from marquis to emerald to round to princess to cushion - this decision can be difficult. Try to sneak a peek into your loved one's jewelry box. Is there a theme? This is another time when hints will come in handy. Additionally, some cuts by their nature (round, cushion) will cast a more sparkly glow.

Carat is simply the weight of your diamond. Of course the bigger you go, the more expensive the stone will get. However, remember that a smaller stone of great brilliance, clarity, color, and a finer cut will be more expensive than a larger diamond of less quality. Your jeweler will be able to show you any paperwork for the particular diamond you're shopping. If the shop refuses to, or doesn't know their diamonds' specs, shop elsewhere.

Many Metals

Don't forget to consider which precious metal you want securely holding that diamond. You can choose from yellow gold, white gold, rose gold, platinum, or even palladium, if you can find it. Platinum is the rarest, most expensive metal of the group, but you really do get what you pay for. When platinum scratches, it's simply displaced, not worn down or lost, like some other metals. It also feels nice and heavy. Palladium is in the platinum family of metals, but it's not as rare, and is a lot less dense of a metal, so it's lighter. It's a good metal if you like the look of white gold but don't like the price of platinum. White gold is very popular in engagement rings lately, but yellow gold is classic, and is making a strong comeback. Rose gold is more of an acquired taste, but as with everything, the metal you choose will depend on your fiancée's personal taste. Does she wear gold- or silver-tone jewelry more often? This should be obvious; if it's not, just ask.

Shop Around, Stay Organized

Don't run out and get the little blue box that's marketed so well, because all you will be doing is paying for a brand name. Take your time and make your rounds between your nearby jewelry stores so you can accurately compare diamonds. Map out a group of online and offline stores you want to visit and keep tabs on what you find. Most guys find it easier to compare prices online before making a purchase, whether it's from a brick and mortar store or an online jeweler. Keep a notebook or spreadsheet of all the pricing and technical specs of the engagement rings you like.

Get Online

There are a tremendous amount of websites, images, and charts to help you learn exactly what you need in order to purchase the right engagement ring. Some websites even allow you to build your perfect engagement ring and see what it looks like immediately.

Customize Your Own

If you have exhausted all your local jewelry stores, you might want to explore customizing a ring online. A customized engagement ring could allow you to get exactly what you want without having to guess. If you have a design or gemstone in mind, you can save lots of time by creating it online, then simply sit back and wait until it arrives in the mail. Reputable online companies will give you easy returns if you're not happy or if the ring wasn't what you were expecting.

Shopping around for an engagement ring doesn't have to be an immensely complicated process. With a little patience and planning, you'll find the perfect ring for your future wife with ease.

About the author: Eva Viane works at the extraordinary, customized jeweler Gemvara, located in Boston, MA. Gemvara offers high-end, fully customizable jewelry hand-crafted by some of the world's most talented jewelry designers. Each piece is customized to the client's choice of gems and metals. The stone and band possibilities are simply endless. For more information please visit our website.

Honeymoon Registry Trends

2011-09-07T11:00:00.000-04:00

Couples are now registering for honeymoons and 'life experiences', rather than the traditional china and crystal.

While on their honeymoon in the Poconos, Josephine and Robert Wilson of Princeton, NJ paused to take a picture -- in front of an inflatable raft on the Lehigh River, smiling big.

(Photo courtesy of Josephine Wilson)

Josephine Wilson, née Hearn, admits it was a corny photo.

But she captured the moment for her thank-you cards. Because without her godparents, the newlyweds wouldn't have been able to afford that river rafting trip. The trip was the wedding gift for which she would be writing to say "thank you."

Before their wedding on June 4, the Wilsons had lived together for more than a year. They already owned most of the traditional items found on a wedding registry. And the ones they didn't have, they didn't really want.

"We're never going to use the salad forks," Josephine Wilson said.

So the Wilsons didn't make a traditional registry. Instead, the couple turned to Honeyfund.com, a website that helps couples register for "experiences" on their honeymoon. Through the site, well-wishers can finance some aspect of a happy couple's honeymoon, big or small: Everything from airfare to peanuts during the flight, massages, candle-lit dinners and snorkeling lessons can be gifted.

The Wilsons are far from unique. Registering for honeymoons, "experience gifts" and other items more practical -- and even more fun -- than, say, a cake platter, is something more and more contemporary brides and grooms are experimenting with.

Eleven percent of marrying couples now register for honeymoons, 16 percent for movies, music and games and 20 percent for sports gear, according to the Knot Market Intelligence 2010 Bridal Registry Study, which was done by the popular wedding-planning website. A small number even registers for pet-pampering.

Why the shift? The average age of a bride is now 29; the average groom, 31. Most of these not-quite-youngsters have been living on their own, and for much longer than the engaged couples of generations past.

So, wine glasses? They've already got those, thanks.

"The trend is more of a lifestyle registry; outdoor gear, sports gear, stuff that pertains to their lifestyle, because chances are they have plates, forks and knives," said Amy Eisinger, associate editor at WeddingChannel.com. "They are not looking to fulfill (the) same needs as people who are moving out from parents' " homes.

It's not a universal movement yet. Couples' top three choices of retailers to register with continue to be Bed Bath & Beyond, Target and Macy's. Even couples who also register for honeymoons or experience gifts normally make a small traditional registry, so as not to offend guests.

And, of course, even those who already have a house or an apartment full of stuff can use wedding gifts to kick their style up a notch. "Many couples who have already lived together are using this as a chance to upgrade to cohesive sets," Eisinger said. "But registries are letting couple's personalities shine through. If a couple registers for camping equipment, and they love to camp -- most likely every time they use it they will think of you.

"If it's honeymoons, you get to help them remember their special time."

On the Honeyfund, the Wilsons registered for things such as gas for the drive, a bottle of champagne, the cost of staying at a romantic cabin, lift tickets, a wine and cheese tasting and bike equipment.

The Wilsons received most of their Honeyfund contributions from their younger friends, while the older guests tended to purchase crystal and china.

"Couples are using online a lot more while planning a wedding," Eisinger said. "Now you can have a universal registry, and I'm even hesitant to say if honeymoon registries existed 10 years ago. Only in the past five years has this stuff really surfaced."

Michael Gleeson and Andreea Vasilescu, who married on July 17, were reluctant at first to try the Honeyfund, but when their friends registered for it, they thought it was a "neat alternative."

Once the duo decided what they wanted to do -- take a honeymoon trip to Greece -- Gleeson wrote up the descriptions of what they hoped for and posted them on Honeyfund.

"Greece isn't necessarily cheap," said Gleeson, 37, who lives in West New York. "We weren't sure if people would go for it."

"But we had to add more things because they all were purchased so quickly by our guests," said Vasilescu, 30.

The couple didn't feel comfortable asking for hotel or airfare from their guests, so they asked for dinners at local restaurants, a Santorini sailing trip and a snorkeling trip in Mykonos, among other things. The newlyweds did not ask for anything they couldn't have purchased on their own, they said, but the gifts helped ease the cost of the trip.

"We are not the most traditional couple -- we have a groomsmaid," said Vasilescu. "For us to have to have something different, like a honeymoon registry, it's not a surprise to either of our parents. We tend to make things up as we go and what works for us."

Article by By Meredith Galante/The Star-Ledger

(Newsfeed, www.nj.com)

How To Stay Your Wedding Dress Weight

2011-08-31T11:00:00.000-04:00

Congratulations on your wedding! We hope it was the most beautiful day of your life and everything you hoped for it to be. And hats off to your success in “Operation Lean Bride”…we’re sure your struggle paid off and you looked fabulous in your white dress. We believe every woman deserves to learn the secret of staying at her wedding dress weight, so read on!

According to Lona Sandon of the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, newlyweds often put on 10 pounds right after saying “I do.” It’s hard to sustain your vision-in-white status after weeks and months of restricted eating. Once on honeymoon, it’s party time, with delicious food, drinks, and cakes at the center of your celebrations. And after returning home, you’ve got those new Cuisinarts and blenders to keep you in a food-focused mode.

So what can you do? It’s time to abandon the roller coaster of dieting that takes you from starving to feasting. Instead, here are some tips to help you formulate your own healthy approach to eating that keeps you healthy and looking great for the rest of your life, like so many of our successful clients.

Important Note: When it comes to burning fat, all foods are not created equal. In fact, by incorporating these fat-blasting foods, the pounds will peel off faster than you think.

1. Unsalted nuts- just by eating 3 ounces, you can lose an inch off your waistline per month! Nuts contain a lot of protein and healthy fats, which help eliminate the unhealthy fats.

2. Fish & other seafood- high in protein, low in saturated fat….you stay full up to two hours longer than you’d normally do. Fish and seafood increase leptin levels, a hormone that diminishes those powerful pangs of hunger.

3. Avocado- not only does it contain Omega 3’s, avocado contains Omega 9 fatty acids, which attack your fat reserves for energy, thereby revving your metabolism.

4. Coconut- this helps the liver metabolize up to 30% more fat! The triglycerides and fatty acids keep you fuller longer and also stimulate thyroid activity, thus spiking fat metabolism.

5. Leafy Greens- anything dark green is your friend. They’re loaded with antioxidants, vitamins, and fiber—beneficial for digestion—which protect against cancers, cataracts, heart disease, and memory loss.

6. Oats- commonly labeled as a “no-no,” oats is actually a whole grain packed with fiber, making you feel fuller longer. It also lowers cholesterol and decreases fat in the blood.

7. Cayenne- spice is nice! It lowers blood sugar levels, curtails insulin activity to keep your metabolism on fire, and helps you eat less. If you have a love-handle problem, you’ll want to use this quite a bit.

8. Cinnamon- this is both an excellent spice and sugar substitute. In fact, foods with cinnamon metabolize sugar 20 times better than food without cinnamon!
9. Turmeric- used in Indian cooking, this spice is full of beta-carotene, which protects the body from free radical damage that cause aging, decreases the rate at which fat is stored, and has anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial properties.

10. Finally, Beware Low-calorie Snacks & Artificial Sweeteners—synthetic fat and sugar substitutes actually pack on pounds!

Article by Michele Risa, Health Consultant, Weight Loss & Anti-Aging Expert, Kundalini Yoga Instructor, www.beyondbodymindspirit.com

Making Out Of Town Guests Feel At Home

2011-08-24T11:00:00.000-04:00

Having your family and friends share your wedding day with you is such a special gift. Many guests travel extremely long distances to make sure that they do not miss the nuptials. As the bride and groom, it is up to you to make sure that out of town friends and family feel as if they were at home. There are many special ways to show them how much your appreciate them being there. Here are few ideas on how to make your out of town guests feel special.

Hotel Accommodations

Although most couples can't afford to pay for all their guests' accommodations, you can find out what types of discounts hotels in the area may be offering. If you will be having a large number of out of town guests, some hotels can block off rooms and offer you a discount because they know that the rooms will be filled. Or send your guests information on hotels, bed and breakfasts and other accommodations that are in the vicinity of where the wedding will be taking place. This way guests have a choice of where they would like to stay without having to do all the research.

Welcome Basket

Once guests arrive at their accommodations, have a special welcome basket waiting for them. There are a number of items that you could include in the basket:

- Bottle of wine along with a pair of glasses
- Information about the area
- List of places they can go and visit
- Disposable camera
- Schedule of wedding-related events taking place
- Box of chocolates
- Thank you note appreciating your guests for traveling to your wedding

Take the extra time to make your family and friends feel welcomed.

Rehearsal Dinner and Post Wedding Day Brunch

The rehearsal dinner is primarily for all the people taking part in the wedding. However, more and more couples are including those guests that have traveled some distances to be there for them. By inviting out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, couples get to spend more time with those that have made an extra effort to be there for them.

Sometimes the day after the wedding, the groom's parents host a brunch for the wedding party. This would be another great opportunity to include those out of town guests and to invite them to come along as well. Not only could you get a couple more great pictures with those family members and friends, but you could talk all about how beautiful the wedding was before jetting off on your honeymoon.

About the author: Amanda Cooper is a contributing writer for Wedding Favours Kingdom, which carries an array of wedding accessories, wedding favours, and candle wedding favours. Amanda is also a writer for other home and travel websites. When Amanda is not writing, she enjoys spending time traveling and spending time with her family and friends.

Top 10 Reasons for Getting Married in Aruba

2011-08-17T11:00:00.000-04:00

Falling in love again, what are you to do? Get out your passport and book a vacation to Aruba! Traveling is always fun and exciting. Getting married while you are traveling is more than just icing on the cake. An Aruba all inclusive wedding will be an unforgettable experience for you and your wedding guests.

The top 10 reasons for getting married in Aruba are:

1. Perfect Resort Settings - Aruba resorts offer a wide range of ceremony options from elegant ballroom to sandy beach. Aruba’s opulent high-rise resorts and casual beachfront low-rise resorts are complemented by the natural beauty of turquoise Caribbean waters, pristine beaches and stunning panoramas.

2. Perfect Weather - Aruba’s residents and visitors are blessed with clear skies, bright sunshine and cooling trade winds practically every day of the year. Sunshine, warm temperatures, cooling trade winds, brilliant sunsets, and a location at southern fringe of the hurricane belt take the worry out of planning your special day.

3. Safety - Feel secure in one of the safest destinations in the Caribbean. You are safe and secure at all times.

4. Perfect Natural Settings - Aruba provides couples with many unique and unforgettable wedding venues, whether its barefoot on the beach, hidden coves, natural bridges or underwater reefs. Touring and exploring Aruba's unique terrain is both fascinating and fun. This small desert island contains vast contrasts including a leeward coast of marshmallow-soft beaches lapped by calm Caribbean waters, a rugged brush-covered desert interior, and a northeast wind-whipped coastline punctuated by inlets and cliffs and beaten by angry surf.

5. Convenient Airlift - With direct air service and hubs at major airports throughout the US, you, your bridal party and guests can easily travel to and from the island. The Queen Beatrix Airport has won international awards for facilities and services and provides pre-clearance of US Immigration and Customs on flights returning to the USA.

6. Conveniences and Comforts - Aruba is a modern island with fabulous shopping, state-of-the-art communications. Shoppers will find an enormous selection of international brand name products and prices that are 10 – 35% lower than those in the United States.

7. Island Hospitality - Aruba’s people are friendly and helpful. Hotel staffs are professional and well-informed. You will be received with warmth and appreciation and handled with care all during your stay.

8. Civil Marriages - Civil marriages are now possible in Aruba, and take place in the Civil Town House.

9. Religious Ceremonies - As long as you plan in advance and submit the necessary documentation, Catholic, Protestant, Episcopalian, Methodist, and Jewish religious ceremonies can all be conducted on-island.

10. Wedding Planners - Independent and resort wedding planners provide valuable advice about documentation and legal matters as well as coordination on the ceremony day. Every minute detail about the ceremony and reception can be arranged, from officiator, witnesses, flowers, mementoes, gifts, and wedding certificates, to limousine service, photography and video, rehearsal dinners, wardrobe, and personal attendants - even a butterfly release!

Article submitted by Jennifer Brown, Aruba all inclusive, Aruba resorts

Memorable Music For Your Wedding Day

2011-08-10T11:00:00.000-04:00

Impress your guests and make your wedding day even more memorable by choosing a variety of unique music! It's not just your typical DJ turning out the latest hits at wedding receptions anymore. Jazz bands, professional singers and pianists are just a few ways that couples are making their wedding day have that extra special touch. Here are some other wedding day music trends that are becoming increasingly popular.

Ceremony Music

The most important part of any wedding day is the actual ceremony and the exchanging of vows. To further enhance that special moment and the time leading up to that, set the mood with an exquisite instrumental ensemble or even a soloist. A harpist, a flutist, a violinist, or even a small group of musicians would be a beautiful accent to any wedding ceremony as guests begin to enter the venue. Conclude the ceremony with more instrumental selections played by live musicians. Remember that most musicians can play a wide range of music from classical pieces to today's pop songs.

Cocktail Hour Music

The cocktail hour is an ideal time to change up the music from being strictly instrumental to selections that are more upbeat. Depending on your preference of music, a small jazz ensemble may be what you are looking for. Not only does jazz music still carry that touch of class, but it is lively and perfectly sets the mood for the wedding reception to follow. If jazz is not your style, perhaps a singer soloist accompanying a pianist would better suite your needs. Although live musicians aren't inexpensive, the impact of live music truly makes the occasion extra special and makes it worth the cost.

Reception Music

Typically at most wedding receptions, people tend to want to get up and dance the night away. With a mix of slow and fast songs this can easily get people up and celebrating. At most wedding receptions, a DJ is the choice to provide music throughout the night. However, more and more couples are opting for a live band and a DJ. There are many types of bands that specialize in a variety of music such as: country, ethnic music, pop, rock and other genres of music. When the live band needs to take five, the DJ typically steps in to change up the music. Some couples even commemorate their heritages and have Irish Step Dancers or even an Oompah Band make a special appearance during the reception.

As you can see, there are many music choices available to those couples getting married. Having music that fits both the event and your style is important. Make your wedding day extra special by adding unique and special music to your celebration.

About the author: Amanda Cooper is a freelance writer for Wedding Favours Kingdom, which carries a wide variety of wedding accessories, beach wedding favors, and personalized cards. Amanda is also a contributing writer for other wedding and home-related websites. When Amanda is not writing, she enjoys spending time reading.

Seven Budget Ideas For Your Home Reception

2011-08-03T11:00:00.000-04:00

Some newly-weds struggle to afford a wedding with all the trimmings, or prefer to spend the bulk of their wedding budget on an exotic destination wedding and cut costs on their reception. Others are simply more comfortable with a more intimate home reception. Whatever your circumstances, if you’re looking for a cost-effective way to entertain your wedding guests at home, here are a few ideas:

1. Leverage friends and family

Your friends and family are probably itching to get involved with your wedding plans and you might be surprised at what they come up with to help with your home reception. Perhaps an uncle has a huge deck that he is willing to let you use or maybe an aunt is a closet wedding cake decorator. Are there any talented DJs or musicians in your extended family? If you are worried about coming up with enough to eat, your guests could supply food in lieu of wedding gifts.

2. Keep the numbers down

Most home receptions are limited in space and facilities so you will probably need to keep the guest list down to provide a comfortable and enjoyable environment for both you and your guests.

3. Host a barbecue

In the summer months, barbecues are simple to prepare and cook and popular with almost everyone; just be sure to include some vegetarian options.
Renting a party tent is a great home reception solution, especially if you can’t rely on the weather. You can also rent tables and chairs if you are short on seating options.

4. Put on a slide show

Slide shows, whether using the traditional or modern digital format, are a popular form of entertainment at home receptions.

5. Use budget decorations

As long as you stick to a chosen color theme, almost any kind of decoration can be made to tie in and enhance the overall effect. Hang paper lanterns from the ceiling and place tissue pom poms on tables. Silk flowers can be deceptively realistic yet cost a fraction of the price of real blooms. Display them around the home in simple glass vases for a chic, minimalist effect.

6. Lighting options

To light up the evening for dancing, you won’t need to bust the bank on expensive deck or garden lighting. Instead, get out your Christmas lights and buy some cheap tikki torches. If you do decide to get in extra lighting, consider renting a generator to cope with the electricity demand.

7. Think creatively

Whether you are on a budget or not, making a home reception work for you relies upon knowing what guests expect and how to tailor that to your home. For every challenge there is sure to be a solution if you look for it. For example, you could buy a cheap Styrofoam stand or a kitchen tea cart trolley for serving coffee, tea, desserts or other reception offerings. These carts are ideal because because they are portable.

We all live within a budget. Choosing to have a home reception would be the perfect solution to having a memorable wedding, without the cost! Go ahead, use these ideas and you will not be sorry!

About the author: Romona Weston and her family lives in the beautiful Amish countryside of Lancaster County, PA. She loves everything about weddings, and is often helping brides as their wedding planner. She is a mom to 7 beautiful children and a wife to a wonderful man. In her spare time, she loves to hike, write and organize. She owns a review blog on the best stainless steel top kitchen islands carts and wood kitchen cart. As a researcher rather than a seller, she presents an unbiased view of products.

Explore her reviews at http://www.kitchencarts360.com

Including The Groom In Wedding Planning

2011-07-27T11:00:00.000-04:00

For much of history, the bride has been getting most of the attention and doing most of the work when it comes to wedding preparations. Now, with many Americans getting married later in life and gender roles becoming more flexible, more grooms are getting in on the action. If you're a couple that leaps over tall stereotypes in a single bound, the husband-to-be may already have started practicing his calligraphy and flower arrangements. For the rest of us, these are some suggestions for areas where the bride and groom can share in the wedding planning or the groom can take the lead.

Drafting a Budget: Planning your budget together is one of the most important steps to get your marriage off to a healthy start. You need to be able to talk about money openly and compromise successfully, especially if you tend to have different financial styles. Plus, debt can make it harder to begin your new life together so two heads are better than one for finding ways to economize. Make a line item budget and agree on spending limits. If the groom is financially savvy, he may want to look for the best deals on setting up a credit card and back account devoted exclusively to your wedding transactions.

Making a Guest List: Your guest list is one of the biggest factors in your budget. By taking a coordinated approach, you can help make sure you both feel like you're getting a voice in the matter and including the people you value most. Of course, you'll both be picking your attendants too and briefing them on the expectations.

Setting up Your Gift Registry: You both have a big stake in the gifts you receive so the groom needs to give his full input. Maybe you'll be more excited and knowledgeable about the kitchenware while he can weigh in on the electronics.

Negotiating Contracts: When you both find the venue you love, one of you can take the lead in negotiating the details of the contract. If your husband-to-be is more assertive than you, he may be able to knock the price down a bit. After he warms up, he can apply the same skills to the rest of the vendors you'll be working with.

Making Travel Arrangements: Some men seem to view travel as a competitive sport anyway when it comes to identifying what airline everyone is flying on and how long it takes them to drive from Atlanta to Tallahassee. A groom like that may be dying to take charge of the logistics for out of town guests.

Selecting the Entertainment: Other men shine on the creative side. Once you decide what kind of music you want, he can narrow down a list of finalists for you both to choose from.

Wedding preparations are more meaningful if both the bride and groom get fully involved. Be respectful of each other's opinions and work with your individual strengths whether you're adept at designing websites or fluent in composing toasts. Hopefully, you'll be working together as a team for many years to come, so use your wedding plans as an opportunity to practice collaborating.

About the author: Andrea Boley is a writer and blogger with www.storkie.com. She has been writing articles and blogging for over 10 years and is always happy to share her passion for life and experiences through her work. Her educational backgrounds in psychology and journalism have given her a solid foundation from which to draw experience and expertise in an array of topics.

Insane Marriage Proposal

2011-07-20T11:00:00.000-04:00

This is a crazy marriage proposal. This guy really took the plunge. Brooke watches as her fiance falls off a building 4 stories down to one of the craziest marriage proposals ever!

A marriage proposal on a roof patio with a happy couple and their friends seems to turn into a tragic accident.

Unique Ideas For The Ceremony

2011-07-13T11:00:00.000-04:00

Unique Ideas to Make Your Wedding Special – Part I – The Ceremony

When planning your wedding the couple should decide if there are any unique ideas that they would like to incorporate in their wedding to make it special.

Are there any family traditions or special items that you would like to have incorporated in the ceremony? Some of these items may include:

Symbols of Remembrance

A remembrance for family members who could not attend the wedding (i.e. deceased parents or grandparents.) You may wish to include a candle or pictures of them in the location where there ceremony will be held. Another option may be for the bride to carry a locket with the pictures of those who are remembered on her bouquet.

Another great option is to include music that has sentimental meaning to the family. For example the “Ave Maria” may be a lovely choice for before the ceremony if your grandmother loves that song.

Symbols of Unity

Unity Candle Ceremony uses two taper candles with a large pillar candle (the unity candle) in the center. At the beginning of the ceremony a representative from both the bride and grooms family light the two taper candles. Later in the ceremony (usually after the vows and ring are exchanged) the bride and groom will use the two taper candles to light the large pillar candle to create on flame on the “unity candle”. Brides and grooms can have the Unity candle decorated with their wedding date, picture or another inscription.

Unity Sand Ceremony is an elegant alternative to the Unity Candle Ceremony, Using different color sands the bride and groom alternately take turns filling a Unity Vase. After the ceremony the bride and grooms can take the case can be taken to the couple’s home as a decoration and a lasting reminder of that special day.

Wine Ceremony another alternative to the Unity Candle Ceremony. After the exchanging of rings the celebrant pours wine into a goblet. The celebrant may then say “This “Cup of Life” is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share together the fullness of life. As you drink from this cup, you acknowledge to one another that your lives, until this moment separate, have become one. Drink now, may the cup of your life be sweet and full to running over." The celebrant will then hand the glass of wine to the groom who will drink from it, then pass it to the bride who will drink and pass it back to the celebrant. The celebrant will then say “As you have shared this cup of wine, so may you share your lives. May all the sweetness that it holds for you be the sweeter because you taste it together. May you find life’s joys heightened, its bitterness sweetened, and all of life enriched by God’s blessings upon you.” Couples may also want to personalize what the celebrant says instead of using the verbiage listed above.

Arras ceremony (Coin Exchange) which is popular in Latin American weddings. During this ceremony the Godparents or sponsors of the couple will place pillows on the floor for the couple to kneel on, hand the couple a bible and coins in a treasure box. A cord, called el lazo, is placed around the couple to signify they are bound together for life. The groom gives the bride 13 coins Arras) as a symbol of sharing his prosperity with her.

Rose Ceremony is held toward the end of the ceremony. Bride and Groom exchange their first gift to each (a rose) other after being announced husband and wife. A nice touch is for the couple to present their mothers with the roses during the recessional out of the ceremony.

Other unique ideas

Face your friends and family for your ceremony instead of having your back to them.

Have close family or friends read the poems or readings at your ceremony.

Include your children in the wedding ceremony. Include them in an event such as the Unity Sand Ceremony, Rose Ceremony or exchange a piece of jewelry with them such as a necklace or ring.

For non church weddings have some fun!!! Give your wedding party score cards and let them score your first kiss (you could also use this at your reception with your kisses at the reception or your first dance)

Above all else make the wedding ceremony as much about you as a couple as possible. The music, the ceremonies and the people who take part in the ceremony should all be a reflection of you as a couple. Enjoy the process of selecting all these details, not only will you enjoy the day more. But, your guests will also appreciate sharing this special day with you too!

Submitted by Jamie Lynn Shurtleff, weddingsbyjamilynn.vpweb.com

Wedding Vendor Scam

2011-07-06T11:00:00.000-04:00

Beware wedding vendors! This scam has been around for a long, long time. The scam artist usually contacts you by email, however, I've heard a couple stories where victims got contacted by phone. Here is the latest wedding planner scam e-mail that showed up in our inbox a few days ago.

Greetings,

My Name is Engr. Danny manslow,I am looking for an experienced wedding planner who will handle my wedding and arrange dinner for a group of people who will be attending the wedding ceremony. twelve guests will arrive few days before the wedding day.The wedding is to hold on the 7th September 2011 and 70 to 90 guests are expected to attend.

You are to arrange for Videography, Music Entertainment, Photography, Officiant/Priest & Church, cake, flowers and hall. If there is any of these items that you cannot handle, you let us know so that another company can handle it. As i do not know what the guests might choose for their meals and drinks,i will make a prepayment as initial deposit for this booking via my credit card once availability is confirmed by you. All checks and balances will be made with you on 20th September 2011 which is the final day of the booking, Get back to me with your response as we don't have much time left so that we can process our accommodation also within the region more convenient for you and us.

Best Regards,
Danny.
Address:13 Croft Rd, Leicester LE4 1HA, United Kingdom

NOTE" REPLY TO *********@gmail.com

If you get an e-mail like this, you can report it at http://www.ic3.gov/complaint/default.aspx

How Much Does A Wedding Cost 2011

2011-06-29T11:00:00.000-04:00

Cost Of A Wedding

Brides.com and TheKnot.com recently released the results of their wedding industry studies for 2011. Brides.com had nearly 3,000 participants that were surveyed between April 15 – April 28, 2011, while TheKnot.com surveyed nearly 19,000 participants in 2010 to come up with these wedding industry statistics. Let's take a look at both studies.

The average cost of a wedding, including total wedding cost with average costs for the reception, engagement ring, photography and videography, live band, flowers (and decor), wedding rings, ceremony site and wedding gowns are outlined above. Also included are the costs for the rehearsal dinner, disc jockey, limo/transportation, wedding cake, ceremony musicians, invitations, favors and bridesmaid dress.

Key Statistics (average % from both studies - Brides.com/TheKnot.com)

The average length of the engagement is 14.5 months. 15/14

The average number of wedding reception guests is 147. 152/141

Destination weddings are becoming increasingly popular (19.5%). 15/24

December is the most popular month of the year to get engaged (17%). 18/16

Key Statistics (from Brides.com)

Many couples are blending old with the new.

More couples are preserving traditions like the first dance and cake-cutting.

Less sit-down dinners and buffets, more continuous cocktail hour and passed hors d’oeuvres.

The bride buys the wedding dress 9 months before the wedding.

The typical wedding party consists of 4.5 bridesmaids and 4.5 groomsmen/ushers, 1 maid/matron of honor and 1 best man (total: 11).

Couples spend $582 on gifts for each other. The top gift from bride to groom is a watch and the top gift from groom to bride is jewelry.

The favorite gift for bridesmaids is jewelry, the preferred gift for groomsmen is liquor related.

63% of brides-to-be provided input on their engagement ring.

21% of brides-to-be selected the engagement ring themselves.

Nearly 10% of all weddings have a “man of honor” or “best woman”.

Most couples register for wedding and shower gifts (93%).

The cake cutting is still a very important tradition (92%).

The majority of weddings have a maid/matron of honor (91%).

9 out of 10 newlywed couples are going on a honeymoon (91%).

9 out of 10 couples incorporate the first dance into their wedding (90%).

Friends usually pay for the bachelor and bachelorette parties (88%).

The bride and groom have a rehearsal dinner (87%).

Many grooms are still selecting a best man (87%).

Toasts are still an important part of the wedding reception (87%).

Brides wear something old, new, borrowed and blue (84%).

Friends pay for the bridal shower (72%).

Brides and grooms are paying for their honeymoon themselves (68%).

More than half of the wedding parties include a flower girl (62%).

Brides-to-be are the primary contributors for the bridesmaid’s luncheon (60%).

The groom's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner (60%).

The bride's parents are primarily focused on paying for the wedding reception (58%).

Less brides and grooms are tossing the bouquet (68%) and garter (57%).

Brides-to-be are the primary contributors for the wedding ceremony (57%).

Brides-to-be are the primary contributors for the wedding weekend (53%).

The ring bearer will be present at 5 out of 10 weddings (53%).

Nearly half of all couples wed in the city or town where they currently live (48%).

Brides-to-be are the primary contributors for the post-reception party (47%).

Brides will box up their dress and pass it on (45%).

The bride and groom have an engagement party (35%).

More newlyweds are having a post-reception party (24%).

More brides and grooms are having a wedding weekend (22%).

More couples are using mobile apps to help plan their wedding (20%).

Photos booths are becoming very popular at weddings (20%).

Brides and grooms are using social media apps to plan, shop and/or register (17%).

More couples are getting married by a friend or family member who got ordained for the occasion (14%).

Couples make charitable donations on behalf of their guests (11%).

Key Statistics (from TheKnot.com)

The average wedding spend per guest is $194.

20% of brides are spending more than $30,000 on their wedding.

12% of brides are spending more than $40,000.

The bride's average age is 29 and the grooms average age is 31.

Hawaii has the most casual weddings, while Northern/Central New Jersey has the most formal weddings.

New York City Tri-State Area, New Jersey and Rhode Island brides are the biggest wedding spenders.

New York City is the most expensive area ($70,730) and Utah is the least expensive area ($13,214) to have a wedding.

More couples are living with each other before marriage (74%).

The most popular wedding color is white/ivory (43%).

Purple is the new popular color (21%).

June is the most popular month to get married (15%).

Most Expensive Areas for Weddings (TheKnot.com)

New York (NYC/Manhattan): $70,730
New York (Long Island): $51,811
New Jersey (Northern/Central): $49,347
New York (Hudson Valley): $45,695
New York (Outer Boroughs): $44,718
Rhode Island: $41,169
New Jersey (Southern): $36,694
Pennsylvania (Philadelphia): $36,294
California (Santa Barbara/Ventura): $36,233
Massachusetts (Boston): $35,458
Illinois (Chicago): $35,389
Connecticut: $35,197
Florida (Southern): $33,810
California (Los Angeles): $33,745
Washington DC Area: $33,727

Source: Brides.com, TheKnot.com

Submitted by Joe Tortorello, owner and site administrator at www.weddingzone.net, a popular Wedding Planning Guide online since 1997.

New York Becomes the Sixth State to Legalize Gay Marriage

2011-06-24T22:00:00.000-04:00

ALBANY, N.Y. – DEVELOPING: New York has become the sixth state to legalize same sex marriage after a vote Friday night ruled in favor of the measure. Once Gov. Andrew Cuomo signs it into law gay weddings could begin 30 days after.

Leading up to this vote a veteran Republican senator had told The Associated Press he would vote yes on gay marriage, which apparently gave the measure the support it needed to become a law.

Sen. Stephen Saland says he has long been undecided. He voted against a similar bill in 2009, helping kill the measure and dealing a blow to the national gay rights movement.

Before he announced his intention, 31 senators were in favor, one short of a majority. Since they all still voted that way, and after Gov. Andrew Cuomo signs it into law, New York will officially become the sixth state, and by far the largest, where gay marriage is legal. Gay marriages can begin 30 days after the date that Cuomo signs it.

Republicans in the New York Senate agreed Friday to allow a full vote on legalizing gay marriage, setting the stage for a possible breakthrough victory for the gay-rights movement in the state where it got its start.

Senate Majority Leader Dean Skelos had said that the bill would go to the floor and be brought up for an "up or down vote." It would be a "vote of conscience for every member of this Senate," Skelos said.

The heavily Democratic Assembly has already approved one version of the measure and was expected to easily pass the new version that contains more protections for religious groups that oppose gay marriage and feared discrimination lawsuits.

Democratic Gov. Andrew Cuomo, who campaigned on the issue last year, has promised to sign it.

Though New York is a relative latecomer in allowing gay marriage, it is considered an important prize for advocates, given the state's size and New York City's international stature and its role as the birthplace of the gay-rights movement, which is said to have started with the Stonewall riots in Greenwich Village in 1969.

The effects of the law could be felt well beyond New York: Unlike Massachusetts, which pioneered gay marriage in 2004, New York has no residency requirement for obtaining a marriage license, meaning the state could become a magnet for gay couples across the country who want to have a wedding in Central Park, the Hamptons, the romantic Hudson Valley or that honeymoon hot spot of yore, Niagara Falls.

Gay-rights advocates are hoping the vote will galvanize the movement around the country and help it regain momentum after an almost identical bill was defeated here in 2009 and similar measures failed in 2010 in New Jersey and this year in Maryland and Rhode Island.

The sticking point over the past few days: Republican demands for stronger legal protections for religious groups that fear they will be hit with discrimination lawsuits if they refuse to allow their facilities to be used for gay weddings.

Now, all 32 Republicans have approved stronger religious protections.

New York, the nation's third most populous state, would join Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont and Washington, D.C., in allowing same-sex couples to wed.

For five months in 2008, gay marriage was legal in California, the biggest state in population, and 18,000 same-sex couples rushed to tie the knot there before voters overturned the state Supreme Court ruling that allowed the practice. The constitutionality of California's ban is now before a federal appeals court.

While court challenges in New York are all but certain, the state -- unlike California -- makes it difficult for the voters to repeal laws at the ballot box. Changing the law would require a constitutional convention, a long, drawn-out process.

Movement on the bill comes after more than a week of stop-and-start negotiations, rumors, closed-door meetings and frustration on the part of advocates.

Online discussions took on a nasty turn with insults and vulgarities peppering the screens of opponents and supporters alike and security was beefed up in the capitol to give senators easier passage to and from their conference room.

(Newsfeed, Associated Press)

What He's Really Thinking Before The Wedding

2011-06-22T11:00:00.000-04:00

Groom Musings

The thrill of engagement can quickly turn to anxiety: Now we must plan the wedding. While many brides-to-be have their noses in flowers, grooms often have one eye on the checkbook. (“$850 on invitations?” as one man I know shouted about the expense.) But cost is not the only pre-wedding concern. Here's what newlyweds, a couple men with nuptials this fall and some guys who've been married for a while say really goes on in a man's mind before the wedding.

Conversation Starters

"Can we talk about something else?" Getting married is big news, but not necessarily the only thing a guy wants to talk about. “It was a little awkward [telling everyone], 'Hey, we're engaged!' But Facebook made it easier," says Brad, 27, who married last Memorial Day weekend. "Then I couldn't wait for it be over so people can start asking me about other things. I wondered what would change once we were married. Turned out, nothing—just titles."

Planning Perils

"Why does it have to be so complicated?" Apparently guys can't just nod their heads and smile during preparations. "Wedding planning is the worst," says Greg, 29, who will be married this October. "Deciding on the tables was way more complicated than I imagined,” Brad recalls. "Figuring out who can or should sit with each other was like planning an Israeli-Palestinian negotiation."

Family Matters

"I hope that everyone will just be civil." Every family has its issues; ideally differences will be set aside on the big day. "I was worried about the families getting along at the wedding," says Brad. “Especially because my parents are divorced and their families don't get along well. Add another family in the mix and it could get messy.” For Dave, 29, his fears were realized: “I prayed that my [divorced] parents wouldn't make a scene. They did. Come wedding day, my mom refused to be in some family photos with my dad."

Must Be Dust

"I can't cry." Ravi, 30, married two months ago, reveals what many of the other grooms probably think too. “I was flat-out afraid of getting a little too emotional during the ceremony. My brother-in-law told me how his brother was a slobbering mess at his wedding, and I did not want that to be me.”

Boots Knocking

"Someone will inevitably hook up." There's just something about weddings that makes people take off their pants, which is fine with the grooms, as long as it doesn't end messy. "I can envision a couple of pairings that might want to have some fun together," says Greg. "I can also envision a few that could end badly."

Game Time

"I hope my team's not playing." Sports fanatics aren't any less invested in the wedding, but they would just prefer that a big event doesn't kick off while they're at the altar. "I checked the sports calendar when we were picking the date," says Brad. "We ended up with the weekend of the PGA Championship, but I decided that was OK. Plus, we would be done by Sunday afternoon, so I could watch the end of the final round."

Down the Hatch

"How much should I drink at my wedding?" This is a question Greg asked himself, with his wedding only three months away. "I don't want to get bombed and either make an ass out of myself or forget part of the night.” Brad echoes the sentiment: "I thought, Better make sure I don't get too drunk. You don't want to be 'that guy' at your own wedding." "But then again," says Greg, “all of these other people are drinking on my dime. … Why should they have all the fun?”

Making The Rounds

"I want people to know I appreciate them being here." Some guests come a long way for the wedding, many of whom the groom doesn't often get to see. "I wanted to make sure I spent some time with each guest," says Sean, 31, married this past April. "I still managed to mess it up. At the rehearsal dinner, I made it to two out of 11 tables. At the wedding, I made it to maybe five out of about 18.”

Is This Registering?

"I hope people buy from the registry." "Please, I beg of you, don't go off the grid and buy us a crystal candy bowl for a gift," says Ben, 32, who will be taking the plunge soon, speaking to the imagined cavalier gift-giver. "There's a reason we didn't put it on our registry in the first place. I would likely end up putting coins and paper clips in it and wish you had just followed simple protocol.”

List Service

"I wish I could invite everyone." Most guys grapple with the difficulty of narrowing the invite list and the associated cost of having everyone they desired attend. "Do we have to send one to that relative no one likes who won't come anyway?" Brad asks. "Our reception room fits about 150, but we have to invite 180. So if everyone decides to come, then we may have to seat people outside in a tent or in a separate room. Yikes.”

Article by Brett Smiley

(Newsfeed, glo.msn.com)

The Double Honeymoon

2011-06-15T11:00:00.000-04:00

Decisions, decisions, decisions. You've just spent months and months planning your wedding. What are you going to do for your honeymoon? Maybe, you just want to take a break and relax. Your partner, on the other hand, is looking to celebrate and party it up 24/7.

What to do? The double honeymoon, or the half and half honeymoon, gives you the best of both worlds. Let me use our honeymoon as an example... my wife and I both enjoy the nightlife, however, after several months of running around planning our wedding, we both agreed that we needed some time to relax.

Our first destination was Jumby Bay in Antigua, a secluded island resort that can only be reached by plane or boat. No television, no cars, no cabs, just bicycles and golf carts to get you around this luxurious private island. While we were honeymooning, fashion designer and daughter of Sir Paul, Stella McCartney, was doing a photo shoot at the resort. The staff greeted us personally each morning at breakfast by first and last name.

After three days of total rest and relaxation, it was time to move on. We jumped on the hourly ferry to the mainland and took a cab over to our next destination... Sandals Antigua. We spent the last four days of our honeymoon with twenty four hours of activities, loud music and fun people. Of course, it wasn't as relaxing and personalized as our first three days in Antigua, but it balanced out our Honeymoon perfectly!

If you budget your money the right way by spending less time at the 'luxurious' destination and more time at the 'commercial' resort, you won't see much of a difference in price. It was only a couple hundred dollars extra for us to stay at Jumby Bay for the first three days, as opposed to staying at Sandals for the whole week. Be sure to look for all-inclusive packages at both destinations if available.

It's your honeymoon... you deserve the best!

Submitted by Joe Tortorello, Site Administrator

Get Married On Miami Beach

2011-06-08T11:00:00.000-04:00

The Ultimate Stress-Free Wedding

For couples looking for a casual and relaxing marriage ceremony, the beach is the perfect choice. By its very nature, the beach is a beautiful place where you can sit back, unwind and enjoy the moment. A place where a sun-dress and shorts are considered dressed up, and a bathing suit with a sarong is the norm.

Imagine having your nuptials in a warm tropical setting. Gentle ocean breezes fill the air, the sounds of waves and seagulls in the background, the sun shining overhead, and soft sand beneath your feet. Next to you is the love of your life, passionately vowing their commitment and devotion to you.

Having your wedding on the beach is a wonderful way to set the mood for a romantic honeymoon. It is an intimate celebration that is convenient and carefree, the perfect way to start a lifetime together.

As more couples plan and pay for their own weddings, they want to have a casual unique celebration and combine it with their honeymoon. This is the concept of a destination wedding. For less than the cost of a traditional wedding, they can have a wedding and honeymoon with funds to spare. Couples can travel to a tropical location; stay in a luxury oceanfront hotel, have a beach marriage ceremony, and still have money left over for restaurants, dance clubs, shopping and attractions.

South Florida is a popular tropical destination for couples who want to combine their wedding and honeymoon, but do not want to travel outside the United States. For those who desire the laid back ambiance of the Caribbean mixed with the exciting energetic atmosphere of South Beach, Miami Beach is the ideal location.

Miami Beach has become a haven for tropical destination weddings because of its beautiful weather and amenities. It has many miles of lovely beaches with a wide range of hotels and accommodations overlooking the warm Atlantic shoreline. An abundance of world renowned restaurants, bars, dance and night clubs for vibrant evenings of food and entertainment. Water sports and activities like jet skiing, snorkeling, scuba diving, boating or para sailing to fill your days with fun in the sun. Trendy stores and shopping malls to satisfy all your shopping needs.

Relaxing by the water and sunbathing is a typical pastime. You may even catch a glimpse of your favorite celebrity during your stay. Centrally located between the Florida Keys and Ft. Lauderdale, Miami Beach is a great place for a romantic casual tropical beach wedding and honeymoon.

Monique N. Gilbert is a Wedding Officiant (Florida Notary) at Tropical Miami Beach Weddings. She caters to couples who seek a romantic and carefree beach marriage ceremony, commitment ceremony or vow renewal. She meets you at the beach of your choice and makes all the arrangements necessary. She even helps out-of-state couples obtain their Florida marriage license by mail.

Submitted by Monique N. Gilbert, www.tropicalmiamibeachweddings.com

Choosing The Perfect Reception Site

2011-05-25T11:00:00.000-04:00

Don't waste a trip to see the location if it cannot meet the basic criteria

The three best ways to search for wedding reception sites are through local publications, the Yellow Pages, local bridal shows and wedding web sites. You can also ask friends about sites they think will appeal to you.

Once you’ve identified several appealing sites, learn the details by calling them:

• Available on the date you want
• Large enough to accommodate your estimated guest count
• Pricing to fit your budget

Once these stipulations are met, if you remain interested in seeing the location, schedule an appointment to view the site. Obtain contact names when setting up your appointments and schedule thirty to forty minutes at each facility you will visit. Then draft a list of questions relative to your reception requirements.

Site selection visits

Bring along your list and a camera or video recorder to document the site. This will come in handy when it comes to decision time, especially if others participating in the decision are unable to accompany you.

An important objective of the appointment is determining what is included in the price quote, e.g., tables and chairs. If a specific amount of time is allotted, are there possible overtime charges? Do they provide catering, require that you use an approved caterer, or can you bring in your own caterer? Moreover, if you want to have the ceremony onsite, verify that is possible and the added costs. Will yours be the only wedding that day or will other events go on simultaneously?

Tour the site to look for adequate guest parking, bride and groom changing areas, restroom facilities and wheelchair accessibility. Inquire during the meeting about liability insurance, music restrictions, access for taking pictures and whether setup and cleanup times are included in the allotted time on the contract.

If you want to consider a Sunday, mid-week or off-season wedding, ask if there are discounts at those times, as well as for prepayment. Be sure to understand when final payments are due, and if there are any hidden or extra charges that are not listed in any of the contracts. Before leaving, request an event packet that will include costs, contracts, rules and regulations.

Finalizing your decision

Review contracts carefully to be sure you understand the language before signing on the dotted line. Most deposits are non-refundable and non-transferable. Should you decide to move your wedding date, facilities generally will not transfer the deposit to that date, so pay close attention to disclaimers, deposit requirements and payment schedules.

It is important to remember that signing a site contract means that you’ve agreed to all the rules and conditions stipulated by the site. Make sure all specific details for your reception are written into the contracts before you sign. If it isn’t specifically addressed in writing, you can’t expect it to be covered.

The site staff prepares for numerous weddings and have knowledge of what works well on their site—and most aim to please. During your site evaluations, ask yourself whether the staff seems to enjoy what they do and whether they seem interested in helping you create special memories that will last your lifetime. If not, don’t hesitate to move on to another site.

“Stress Free, Leave the Details to Me,” is the tried and true philosophy of Robbin Montero, California Wine Country wedding planning expert and owner of A Dream Wedding. Robbin is the premier wedding planner in the Northern California Wine Country, transforming any vision into the perfectly designed wedding creation. Robbin and her weddings have been featured in The Knot, Brides, Elite Magazine, Your Wedding Day and Vine Napa/Sonoma magazines, and ImportantOccasions.com. Travel & Leisure magazine calls Robbin, “The expert wedding planner in the California Wine Country.”

Submitted by Robbin Montero, www.a-dreamwedding.com

8 Wedding Hairstyles Ideas

2011-05-18T11:00:00.000-04:00

If ever there was time to make the most of your hair, it is for your wedding. Your bridal hairstyle can look like a million with imagination and the skills of a good hairdresser. Wedding hairstyles range from a more coiffed version of your everyday hair to an elaborate and dramatic style.

Perfect wedding hairstyles flatter your face, your wedding gown, and your veil. They suit your personality while accentuating your best features and minimizing your weak ones. Here are some suggestions for different kinds of hair.

- Hair swept back or up shows more of your face and profile. This style can be especially nice for formal or evening weddings.

- A wedding up-do will accentuate your neck. This look can range from a simple French twist to a stylish mass of ringlets.

- Hair worn down or loose has a more casual look, perfect for daytime, outdoor, and informal weddings.

- Long hair can be worn back, loose, braided, or entwined with beading or fabric that matches your gown.

- Medium-length hair is nearly as versatile as long. It can be curled, straightened, tucked behind your ears, or brushed loosely down.

- Even brides with short hair can have a long, thick wedding day hairstyle. Clip on hairpieces and extensions are available in a variety of colors and styles.

- Short hair can be versatile, from sleek styles to curly. Tiaras, decorative bobby pins, combs, and hair clips all look stunning worn in short hair.

- Bangs can be worn several ways: soft, fringy, angled, or textured. If you’ve never had bangs, experiment with them well in advance. If you’ve always had them, this is not the time to sweep them aside and bare your forehead.

Current styles are important, but should be secondary to what is right for you. Something may be "in" but all wrong for you or your dress. Whatever style you choose, have practice sessions in the week before your ceremony. Do this and your wedding day will most certainly be a fabulous hair day.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more about wedding hairstyles and beauty at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/beauty

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Wedding / Bridal Makeup Instructions

2011-05-11T11:00:00.000-04:00

Great wedding makeup ideas from makeup artist Kandee Johnson!

Submitted by www.kandeej.com

Hold The Microphone For Wedding Speeches

2011-05-04T11:00:00.000-04:00

As a DJ since the mid 1980's, I've been to well over 1,000 weddings. Unfortunately, time and time again, I always run into the inexperienced microphone users.

You can find it all over the internet. Pre-written wedding speeches, what to say, what not to say, when to say it, say it in Chinese, etc. But, even more important, is how to properly hold the microphone while making your speech or toast. More than 80% of the time, the person making the speech has no idea how to handle a microphone. Very understandable since most of you have very limited experience using a mic. In most cases I see, people hold the microphone way too far away from their mouths.

The mic should be held approximately 1 - 4 inches away from the mouth at a 45-degree angle while you are speaking. If the microphone is more than a hand's width away from your mouth, it is way too far. Don't scream into the microphone, but project your voice a bit higher than you would speak to someone during a normal conversation. Hold the mic at a constant distance so the volume of your voice doesn’t keep changing. Don't touch the microphone to your chin or lips. Holding the microphone too closely to your mouth will produce muffling and popping.

Submitted by DJ Joey Tee

Bridesmaids 2011 Movie Trailer

2011-04-29T11:00:00.000-04:00

The official movie trailer for Bridesmaids from Universal Pictures. In Theatres on May 13.

North Jersey Minister Goes To Times Square

2011-04-27T11:00:00.000-04:00

Photo Credit: Veronica Yankowski, Chiarascuro Photography

ABOVE: Rev. Mitchell Maged of Oakland officiating at the wedding of Christina and Jason Allentoff in Spring Lake last year. In a televised stunt tied to the wedding coverage of Prince William and Kate Middleton, Maged will preside over three consecutive weddings in New York City Friday, April 29.

Rev. Mitchell Maged is not your everyday knot-tyer.

"Mitch the Minister" - as he's known colloquially - said he has officiated at more than 1,200 weddings since becoming ordained on a whim at an interfaith ministry in Bound Brook 12 years ago.

It's an odyssey the former accountant said he never saw coming.

"Talk about a change of venue," said Maged, who has lived on Oneida Avenue in Oakland with his wife, Kathleen, and daughters, Patricia and Rachel, for almost 20 years.

But when it comes to venues, Maged is open to just about anything.

Museums, national parkland, a yacht on the Hudson River - even a hot-air balloon - Maged said he's done it all and that he considers himself a "mobile minister."

On Friday, April 29, Maged will officiate at three consecutive weddings at his biggest -or at least most visible - venue to date: Times Square in New York City.

The ceremonies are planned as part of the culmination of a week of programming The Learning Channel is broadcasting to celebrate the wedding of Prince William of Wales and Catherine Middleton, which will happen simultaneously at Westminster Abbey in London.

The Times Square weddings will take place at 7:40 a.m., 8:30 a.m. and 9:10 a.m. and will be broadcasted live on a JumboTron. Meanwhile, the royal wedding will be broadcasted live on a second JumboTron and on TLC beginning at 5 a.m.

The couples who will be married in Times Square were selected after undergoing an application and screening process that began in February, said TLC publicity coordinator Niki Kazakos. More than 45 couples applied, she said.

Among the couples are Marie Grace Singgo of Clifton and Jesse Chao of Jersey City. The other couples are from Connecticut and New York.

Kazakos said the perks include wedding cakes from Carlo's Bake Shop - of "Cake Boss" fame - in Hoboken and wedding gowns for the brides from Kleinfeld Bridal - of "Say Yes to the Dress" fame - in New York City.

Kazakos said Maged was selected to officiate at the weddings primarily because TLC, a cable TV network that caters to viewers interested in cooking, fashion, home design and parenting, had employed his services for "Four Weddings," a program that pits four brides against one another for the "honeymoon of their dreams."

Maged was the frontrunner for the project, Kazakos said, because he specializes in nondenominational weddings.

The genesis of Maged's compassion for interfaith couples was his own interfaith nuptials in 1985. On Oct. 20 of that year, Maged, who was born Jewish, married Kathleen, who is Roman Catholic.

In fact, according to Maged, if it wasn't for the trouble he and his future wife went through to find a wedding officiant, he wouldn't be one today.

Eventually, Maged said, the priest from Kathleen's parish agreed to preside over the wedding. But, he said, he and his future wife still had to find a rabbi in the telephone directory.

"Back then it was a rarity for two people of different faiths to get married without one of them converting or going to the mayor," Maged said. "When I heard about the opportunity [to become a minister], I knew the time was right to help couples going through the same aggravation I did."

As for the weddings on April 29, Maged confessed he may be the one with cold feet.

"I've done pretty good in front of large crowds," Maged said, "but the reality of being viewed by thousands of people is still setting in."

Article by Philip Devencentis, www.northjersey.com

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Royal Wedding May Spark More Traditional Ceremonies

2011-04-20T11:00:00.000-04:00

Bridal media and marketing guru Leila Khalil of Be Inspired PR shares her thoughts on how Prince William and Kate Middleton's upcoming "I do's" will affect the wedding industry.

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With all the hype and build-up surrounding the nuptials of Prince William and Kate Middleton, you'd think the royal wedding is the final event. But in reality, it's just the beginning. I have no doubt their wedding will influence the bridal industry for years to come in every possible way -- from design, fashion and customs. It will be the start of Kate's legacy as a trendsetter.

For the past few years, the industry has veered from the classic and luxe, experiencing a move towards vintage-inspired details and D.I.Y. weddings. We anticipate the regal affair will return our business to opulence, traditions and timeless fashions.

The British monarchy is rooted in ritual, and the royal wedding will inspire a new generation of brides to follow in their footsteps -- with more ceremonies held in churches, incorporating family heirlooms and traditional vow exchanges.

How The Royal Wedding Will Inspire Bridal Trends

From flowers to food, dresses to diamonds, this event will be imitated, replicated and reproduced for years. In my opinion, fashion will be most affected business aspect. Kate's dress, hair, makeup, accessories and bridesmaid dresses will surely spark new trends and renditions. She's already started fashion frenzies with her dapper stylistic choices -- from her classic Burberry trench coat to her silk sapphire-blue engagement dress by Issa, which sold out within 24 hours of her appearance! It's safe to say Kate's wedding look will launch her as a style icon, mirroring greats such as Jackie O., Audrey Hepburn and Princess Diana.

In addition to ushering in new styles, their wedding will be a day that brings love into many people's hearts and lives, and will renew the world's hope in the sanctity of marriage.

Article by Leila Khalil, www.beinspiredpr.com

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Play on Curls

2011-04-13T11:00:00.000-04:00

Fresh Waves for a New Generation on the Fall/Winter 2011 Bridal Runways

Amid all the anticipation surrounding how Kate Middleton will wear her hair on her big day with the Royal Wedding right around the corner, we wanted to share with you our own inspiring styles from Fall/Winter 2011 Bridal Fashion Week in New York City last week. These fresh styles can be interpreted to make any bride feel like a princess!

The Fall/Winter 2011 Bridal Fashion Week hairstyles took a fresh approach to embrace a modern, youthful bride. Redken Session Stylist Giovanni Giuntoli created the distinct looks at the Christos, Kenneth Pool, and Amsale collections, taking each in its own direction.

End-of-Day Waves – seen at Christos

“This season the traditionally preppy Christos look evolved for the next generation, and the hair embraces this edgier attitude,” Giuntoli said. “The look is down, when it is typically up, resulting in a youthful, casual after-wedding look that’s flattering and flirty.”

To achieve the look, prep hair to add texture and extra hold with Redken wool shake 08 gel-slush texturizer and then layer on spray starch 15 versatile ironing spray. Part the hair wherever it best reflects the face shape, whether it be left, right or center. Set the curls with a 1-inch curling iron and pin in place until dry. Let the curls out and pull until you have soft waves, finishing the style with fashion work 12 versatile working spray to achieve a silky matte finish. “These waves are not tight, they’re fresh. We’re trying to get away from the corkscrew,” Giuntoli explained.

Cutting Edge Pleat –seen at Kenneth Pool

"This up-do reflects the high-end Kenneth Pool look, with a luxury finish to the hair. This line is more avant-garde, more high-fashion, and so we created a striking, contemporary up-do that pushes the envelope,” Giuntoli said.

To create this look, prep the hair by blow-drying with aerate 08 bodifying cream-mousse, applying at the roots and through the ends for all-over body and texture. Then fold all of the hair except for the front section two inches from the crown into a pleat. Curl small sections of the front two inches with a one-inch barrel and pin each up in place atop the head. “The curls add a softer silhouette for height and a light, airy texture that you can almost see through.” Giuntoli said. For added shine and hold, finish the look with pure force 16 non-aerosol fixing spray.

Statement Pony – seen at Amsale

“This season of Amsale reflects another evolution and a new approach, with a natural, youthful ponytail with soft with volume at the crown for added glamour,” Giuntoli said.

Obtain this look by first sectioning off the hair at the crown, misting with forceful 23 super strength finishing spray and then back brushing for height. “Play with the shape and height at the crown to keep it tailored to your face shape,” Giuntoli explained. Next gather the hair into a pony and wrap a one-inch section around the elastic. Leave a natural wave in the pony tail and mist with shine flash 02 glistening mist for a glossy polish.

These fresh takes on waves reflected an edgier, younger bride and can guide you as you search to achieve the perfect look you need on the big day. When choosing your look, Giuntoli advises that you remember that your wedding day is all about you and it may take a few trials to find the right fit. Work with your Redken stylist to create a look that reflects your own personality and makes you feel your absolute best.

Submitted by Christy McCuaig, www.redken.com

Royal Fashion

2011-04-06T11:00:00.000-04:00

A New York Guide To Kate Middleton’s Style

By Julie Parise, CBSNewYork.com

We’re just a week away from the marriage of Prince William to longtime on-again, off-again girlfriend Kate Middleton – and our royal envy here in the States is in full force.

Something else we’re envious of? The future princess’ wardrobe. Middleton gained her position as an international fashion icon long before she claimed the title of fiancée to Prince William – she’s appeared on various “best dressed” lists since 2006. Here in New York City, becoming a princess is a fairy tale most of us can only dream of – but a royal wardrobe can easily become a reality. CBSNewYork staked out NYC to find you the pieces you’ll need to dress like Kate Middleton.

The Engagement Dress

Hours after Prince William and bride-to-be Kate Middleton announced their royal engagement on Nov. 16, the shimmery, navy blue Issa dress Kate wore to the occasion had sold out both online and in stores – and the Internet has been buzzing about the frock ever since.

“Since the announcement of the royal engagement we have been inundated with requests regarding Issa,” British retailer Harvey Nichols’ buying director Averyl Oates told Vogue UK.

Retailers can’t seem to make enough knock-offs of the number, which matched Middleton’s sapphire engagement ring. For a short time, Target even offered a $26 version of the dress, but they sold out quickly and are no longer available.

So what are the princesses of New York City to do? Saks Fifth Avenue carries the Issa line, but not this particular piece (yet). It is reported that online retailer Net-A-Porter.com will receive more stock of the dress later this month – check it out here. To grab a look-a-like dress for less, try Macy’s. They carry a strikingly similar piece by Evan Picone – for $89!

www.net-a-porter.com/product/109781
www.macys.com

Simplicity In Alice Temperley

When dressing for a Christmas gala to support the Teenage Cancer Trust in Fakenham, England, Kate donned a dress from British designer Alice Temperley’s 2009 collection (yes — the future princess wore something from last season – and she looked stunning). The current Temperley line features looks similar to Kate’s black and white silk chiffon Titan dress, though Kate’s nearly $1400 frock is no longer available. A clerk at the now-closed Temperley SoHo storefront wouldn’t dish on whether Kate’s ensemble had any impact on their sales. While the Broome Street Temperley London boutique is no longer open, the British designer will be setting up shop in a new NYC location later this year. In the meantime, shop online to steal the look.

www.temperleylondon.com

The Official Engagement Photos

For her official engagement photo, Kate once again reached into her own wardrobe, donning a Riess dress from the England-based designer’s 2009 line. Due to high demand, Reiss re-released the previously discontinued Nanette dress as a part of their Spring 2011 collection. Check out the SoHo storefront, where you can snag the frock for just under $400, or try on the Kara dress, a slightly simpler version, for $107 — also available online.

www.riessonline.com

Two Wardrobe Staples

Kate has made the suede black high-heeled boots she’s wearing here, at England’s Royal Military Academy, a staple of her wardrobe – and if we only take one piece of fashion advice from this future princess, it would be to do the same. Knee-high boots can make even the simplest jeans-and-t-shirt combination look sophisticated. Better yet, the look won’t ever go out of style, making boots a smart investment for the Big Apple fashonista. Luckily for us New York City girls, it won’t be too difficult to snag a boot that fits your princess-inspired style perfectly. Check out the Jess boot from Bandolino (For New York locations, click here) or the Steve Madden ‘Fabulus’ Over The Knee Boot available at Steve Madden (multiple NYC locations) or Nordstrom.

Kate’s outerwear is another example of a piece worth investing in – you can’t go wrong when you have a long, tailored coat in your closet. For one similar to Kate’s, check out New York & Company’s Red Label Wool Coat in red or Michael Kor’s double-breasted peacoat in the same color, currently in stock at the line’s NYC storefront. You can also check out this Michael Kors double-breasted collared coat from Macy’s for a version of the coat that’s a tad bit longer.

The Jewelry

Looking for the earrings Kate wore in her official engagement photos? You better act fast. The Hope Egg Earrings are made by Links of London, and between the two locations here in NYC, there’s only one pair left. The Park Avenue location has been sold out of the baubles, which will set you back close to $500, since the engagement photos were made public. And while a representative from the store told CBSNewYork that they’re expecting more of the dangly diamond duds, they’re not sure when they’ll be coming in.

A representative at the Madison Avenue storefront said Kate’s jewelry choice has had a significant effect on sales. “[The earrings] weren’t flying off the shelves before,” the clerk told us. The closest store to have them in stock is actually in Massachusetts, but you can have them shipped to the Big Apple directly.

www.linksoflondon.com

Oh, was it the engagement ring she’s rocking that you were looking to replicate? Well, if you don’t have a prince in your life to offer you an oversized sapphire, you can buy the CZ version here for about $50...

www.jewelrypayless.com/Kate-Middleton-Princess-Diana-CZ-Diamond-Sapphire-Engagement-Ring-P106899.html

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Which Wedding Tiara or Headpiece Should You Choose?

2011-03-30T11:00:00.000-04:00

Is a jeweled princess tiara right for you or some other headpiece? It depends on your personal taste, your bridal hairdo, your veil, and your gown. Choose the one that best complements your look and you will walk down the aisle in style.

Tiaras

A tiara is what most people envision when they think "headpiece." Traditionally, tiaras are worn in very formal weddings. The variety of styles available today, however, makes them an option with any hair style, dress or veil. Simple, low profile pieces work well with a veil. More elaborate princess or crown tiaras are stunning without a veil.

Hats

Bridal hats can add character to your wedding and dress. Sizes range from large, flower-adorned varieties to small, pillbox hats. Historically, birdcage veils were popular choices to wear with a wedding hat, but they also look stunning without a veil. Skullcaps are a different type of hat. They fit very close to the head and serve to secure the veil.

Headbands and V-Bands

The single headband is most common, but there are double and triple headbands as well. They can be decorated to match your shoes or bouquet, or can be subtler, depending on how much you want to showcase your wedding hair style. A headband works with all hair lengths, looks equally wonderful with an up do or flowing hair, and can serve as a veil attachment. If you want to draw attention to your face, consider a v-band, which is a type of headband worn across your forehead.

Rings and Wraps

There are several varieties of ring-shaped headpieces. Bun wraps are designed to wrap around a bun. Halos look nice sitting on top of short hair. Floral wreaths, which fit across the forehead, can complement an informal, outdoor wedding.

Combs

These versatile headpieces come in a variety of styles and sizes, and can complement any wedding or hair style. Wear them on the top, side, or back of your head to secure your hair or veil. Combs are often sewn to veils as an anchor.

Barrettes

Small combs and barrettes work well without a veil. These can be simple or flashy, and can be decorated with your choice of crystals, floral pieces, pearls, or rhinestones.

Other Hair Adornments

If you are a nontraditional, second, or older bride you may choose to go without a veil or headpiece. Besides barrettes and combs, there are a variety of other hair gems to choose from. Many stores sell bridal twists or pins made from pearls, beads, or crystals. You can even convert a necklace or other jewelry into hair jewelry. Most stylists are quite adept at weaving these into your hair style.

Whichever headpiece you are considering, ask the advice of your family and bridesmaids. They will help you choose the perfect headpiece - one that will look stunning on YOU!

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more about wedding veils (styles, lengths, colors, etc.), tiaras, and headpieces at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/veils

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Thank You Card Etiquette

2011-03-23T11:00:00.000-04:00

Top 5 Rules to Remember with Thank You Card Etiquette

Whether you have received gifts at a party you hosted or during a hospital stay, it is very important to send a thank you card. Thank You cards are a great way to show your appreciation for a gift of any kind. They can also be sent to those who have helped you during a particular event or those who have sent sympathy letters. It is important to understand Thank You card etiquette before you begin sending your messages. Here are the top 5 rules to remember when writing Thank You cards:

1. To Send or Not to Send

Some instances or events require Thank You cards, others do not. It is important to know which are which when thinking of sending a card. If you have recently hosted a bridal or baby shower, you should always send a Thank You to those who brought a present. You should also send a card if you have had a graduation party or been a guest at someone’s home. It is not required to send a card if you were the guest at a dinner party, but it is still often considered a nice gesture. Always remember: even if a Thank You is not required, it is still a wonderful way of showing your appreciation!

2. Send Thank You cards ASAP

One of the most important aspects of Thank You card etiquette is sending your note in a timely manner. The faster you send your card, the more appreciated the recipient will feel. You should be strict with yourself and set a time within a week of receiving a gift to sit down and write your cards. It is easy to put off but will make you feel much better knowing your Thank Yous are in the mail.

3. Specify the Gift in Your Card

When writing a Thank You card, you should always show gratitude for the specific gift that the person has given you. For example, “Thank you so much for the beautiful set of silverware” or “Thank you for your gift of new baby clothes.” This is an extra way of showing the gift-giver that you especially enjoyed the present they gave. If the gift is money, "Thank you for your generous gift" would be appropriate.

4. Pick the Appropriate Stationary

Another important rule to remember when sending Thank You cards is to always pick the correct stationary. For most cards, informal stationary is fine. For weddings, the recipient of gifts should choose fancier cards.

5. Addressing the Card Correctly

When addressing cards, you want to make sure to only include the name of the person who signed the card. If it was only one person, do not include anyone else in the address. If an entire family signed the card, always include each member in your card. Salutation should also be considered. If you are very close with the person, it is okay to use his or her first name. Otherwise, address individuals with Mr., Mrs. or Miss.

Sending personalized photo Thank You cards is a great keepsake for guests to remember your special day. You can have these cards printed ahead of time, usually using a photo from the big event. Another way to personalize your Thank Yous is to have Photo Stamps made. Photo Stamps are real US postage that have your picture on them! Always keep Thank Yous personal from you to your guest. It’s a simple way of letting them know you appreciate them!

Submitted by George W. Stump, Jr., www.americangreetings.com

Wedding Reception Table Design Ideas

2011-03-16T11:00:00.000-04:00

Some wedding table decorations introduce major changes in the appearance of each table at the wedding reception. A trend in California serves as an example of such decorations. California brides who care to follow that trend must talk with a wedding planner about their desire to have large gold bows on the sides of each reception table.

Those bows are created using gold fabric. The gold fabric contrasts with the white table cloth. The gold bows add a decided air of elegance to the reception tables. The simple fabric bows cover the hanging portion of each tablecloth. They beckon the guests to beautifully-draped tables. Not all wedding table decorations require the use of such large items.

Most wedding table decorations involve the use of small but important additions to the layout on each of the reception tables. Some wedding table decorations use the table lighting to create a more romantic atmosphere. Both large and small table decorations can evoke such an atmosphere.

Some future brides decide to have small, boat-shaped crystal candle holders on each reception table. The lighted candles must then burn throughout the reception. Those lighted candles receive the protection offered by tiny, frosted “sails.”

A future bride must plan to have place cards on her reception table. The cards tell the guests where to sit. Attractive place card holders can add to the attractive layout on each reception table.

What sorts of card holders should the future bride expect to find amid the various types of wedding table decorations? She should expect to find silver bells, small wedding cakes and tiny champagne buckets. She might also find an online merchant with small bud vases, vases equipped to hold a standard place card.

The bride who satisfies all the needs of her guests can increase the number of wedding decorations on each reception table. The guests need napkins. The napkin holders can add to the attractiveness of the reception tables. Some brides like to use napkin holders that look like large diamond rings. Other brides prefer to have napkin rings adorned with flowers or silver hearts.

Sometimes a bride wants to add a touch of color to each reception table. She might have faux rose buds or confetti scattered on the tables. She might also decide to decorate the table chairs. Well-draped and properly tied lace, used to hold a single rose, can add a lovely spot of color to each chair back.

Submitted by Jen Carter, www.my-wedding-blog.com

Wedding Centerpiece Ideas

2011-03-09T11:00:00.000-05:00

Wedding Centerpiece Ideas - Fill Your Space With Flowers

Flowers fill the spaces of most wedding centerpieces. Yet a future bride can be very creative about how she creates those spaces. Wedding centerpieces come in a diverse array of shapes and sizes.

If a future bride hopes to have a very tall centerpiece at her main reception table, she does not need to end her search with the selection of a simple flower stand. A candelabra- shaped stand can elicit many comments from the wedding guests. Some wedding centerpieces turn like a carousel, showing their varied candles and flowers to guests in all four corners of the reception room.

Arches, cake stands and columns can all be incorporated into a wedding centerpiece. Flowers then get stuffed into the many different spaces on those table-mounted structures. A future bride might even want to have a large wire heart on her main reception table. Flowers could decorate the heart in the manner of her choosing.

Some future brides decide to have floating candles in their wedding centerpieces. Here again, the centerpiece can be of any height. It might be a tall centerpiece, one designed to hold a glass bowl at the top. The candles float in the glass bowl, ready for a special touch.

Smaller bowls can be placed on any table where guests will be sitting. The bride can personalize her floating candles by adding to the centerpiece cuttings from her favorite flower. She can also create very unique candles, such as cut citrus fruit that can hold a wick, or butterfly-shaped wax candles.

A future bride might want to reduce the cost of the wedding by combining her wedding favors with her wedding centerpieces. The centerpieces hold a number of wands, wands filled with chocolate and other candies. Each guest at the table leaves with one wand.

If a future bride finds that she needs to cut her costs even further, she might examine the ideas for attractive but inexpensive wedding centerpieces. She might want to purchase some appealing plastic bowls and fill them with candies. She might decide to visit a nearby hobby store and order some silk flower arrangements.

Potted plants can often be incorporated into an inexpensive wedding centerpiece. Balloons too can add color and fun to the reception room. Those wonderful additions do not require a big expenditure on the part of the bride’s family.

Submitted by Jen Carter, www.my-wedding-blog.com

Rethink Your Wedding Party Gifts

2011-03-02T11:00:00.000-05:00

Your wedding is the most personally intimate yet publicly shared event of your life. You need only to close your eyes to imagine what that day will be. And after it is over you’ll need only to close your eyes to remember what it was.

But as solid as that day may be in your mind and memory, will it be remembered as clearly by your family and friends? By the people who matter to you most? Will they remember how important they are to you, and especially how much they meant to you on that very special day?

Let’s face it… you’re entering into a new life. One that will not include them as closely as it did in the past. Help them remember not only that day but the friendship that you’ve shared with them up to and including your wedding day by giving them a more personalized gift.

Select Something That Will Be Appreciated

Traditionally a bride will give her bridesmaids something to wear during the wedding. If you go this route, make sure that whatever you give will be something THEY will enjoy, not something that is self-serving such as a purple tie or a replica of the Hope Diamond to wear in the wedding. These are things that will just be stuck away in a drawer or in back of the closet, or worse, thrown away. Consider instead giving a classic item such as a gold chain, diamond earrings or any item that can be treasured every time it is worn and not just tucked away somewhere and forgotten.

Pick Something That Has Personal Meaning

The best gifts for your wedding party will be something that reminds them of the times you’ve shared. The gift does not have to be expensive. For example, if you spent time together over coffee, you can give your bridesmaids a gift basket with a personalized mug. Get a custom mug made with a photo of the two of you, so every time she has coffee, she’ll be having it with you! Include a single share of Starbucks from UniqueStockGift.com for a gift that keeps on giving.

Personalize Your Gift with Your Own Message

By selecting an item that can be embroidered, embossed or mounted with a plaque, you are able to add a personal message that will make your gift more memorable and long lasting. If the beach was your thing, get a monogrammed beach tote stuffed with beach towels, flip-flops and more.

Expense CAN be Spared When The Gift Has Meaning

One of the biggest benefits of selecting a more personal gift is, it does not necessarily have to be expensive! Select a piece of memorabilia from your friendship and place it in a shadowbox frame with a personalized plaque. You can purchase a small shadowbox and plaque for as little as $40.00 at a craft store or online at www.UniqueStockGift.com

Personal, Meaningful, Inexpensive, and Appreciated

A unique gift that fulfills all these requirements and is especially appropriate for groomsmen gifts is a single share of stock. First, you can select stock in a company which has meaning. For example, if golfing is a sport which your best man loves, you can give him a single share of Callaway Golf. You can purchase it framed with a personalized plaque or in a certificate cover with your message embossed. Other ideas for your groomsmen gifts are shares of Playboy, Heineken or even Harley-Davidson.

Bridesmaids may enjoy a share of Ann Taylor, Chico's, Coach, Avon, Tiffany & Company or Martha Stewart. With over 150 stocks to choose from, you are sure to find something that has personal meaning.

The perfect thank-you gift your flower-girl is a single share of 1-800-FLOWERS. Whether or not the stock appreciates, the value of your gift is never-ending. Imagine the smile on her face year after year when she receive a dividend check in the mail. She'll be reminded of you and your wedding day.

Your Day Will Be Remembered By All Who Share it With You

This is a chance to give them something that will help them remember…not only the day that they stood up for you and shared in the happiest day of your life, but also the memories you shared during your friendship together.

So make it personal. Give them a gift that will jog their memories and keep you in their hearts and on their minds for years to come.

Submitted by Skye Robinson, www.uniquestockgift.com

Annual "Running Of the Brides" At Filene's Draws Huge Crowd

2011-02-18T11:00:00.000-05:00

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NEW YORK (CBS) - They came, they divided, and the lucky ones conquered the Filene’s Basement “Running of the Brides” Friday.

Legions of brides-to-be lined up outside Filene’s overnight, and when the doors opened Friday morning for the annual “Running of the Brides” sale, they raced inside for huge bridal gown bargains.

At 8 a.m., nearly 2,000 brides and their entourages from the Tri-State and beyond, began rifling through the 2,400 gowns on sale in search of the perfect wedding dress. Even more are expected until the doors close at 10 p.m.

“Just grabbing everything we can find and hopefully something works,” said mother of the bride Sherrie Ying.

“We were a little aggressive,” admitted bridesmaid Imani Holman.

Designer, even couture dresses, regularly priced up to $10,000, were available for the bargain price of anywhere from $249 to $699. For many, it’s a deal too good to resist, if you can handle the competition.

“Who doesn’t want to save money? But it’s also fun. This is my sister-in-law and my mom, they both don’t live here, so it’s like a bonding thing too. I mean, who doesn’t want to steal a designer dress?” said another bride.

“This is it, yay!” exclaimed bride Helena Henley of East Strausburg, PA.

Prior to the doors opening on Broadway and 80th St., some of the brides had a strategy in mind. Most groups had team colors, team names and specific tasks for each member.

“My job is to barter. I’m finding new dresses,” said matron of honor Erin Fenton.

“Came in, grabbed armfuls, which was not too easy but we came to this corner, started trying on and in half an hour she found the one she wants,” said bridesmaid Shalazar Brooks of Mt. Olive, N.J.

“My plan is to have my mom hold up the signs, while my bridesmaids go and run in every direction possible, just to grab whatever they can,” one bride said.

What do you think of the “Running of the Brides?” Leave a comment below

Filene’s Basement has been hosting the iconic “Running of the Brides” since 1947.

One bridesmaid described her role before the doors opened: “To grab as many dresses as I can and throw them in the pile and go for more.”

Most brides forego the dressing rooms, opting to wear a swimsuit or sports bra and just strip down anywhere, trying on any and every dress they can get their hands on.

I have leggings on under my jeans, and a strapless bra,” said another bride. “I can strip it all off.”

The bargains were incredible but most brides said they came for the experience as much as anything else.

“For me it started out as the bargain. I’m a med student and definitely can’t afford an expensive dress. And then it turned into an experience because you got to get your friends involved,” said May Elansary of New Haven, CT.

Though while your options may be a bit more limited, store managers said there will be plenty of dresses left for those who didn’t want to rush the doors.

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Elaborate DIY Centerpieces For Any Budget

2011-02-14T11:00:00.000-05:00

The key is you do not want your centerpieces to look cheap but you are limited on the amount of money you can spend. I could not tell you how many cheap looking silk centerpieces that I have seen in these 15 years of Wedding Planning. Here are some great ideas for any budget even if you do not have a tight budget these centerpieces are spectacular and very easy and fun to make.

These elegant centerpieces are sure to please.

1. Go to your craft store and purchase tall and large vases. These clear vases are priced around 8-10 dollars. They should at least be 2 feet tall and up the taller the better for a more dramatic look find 4 feet vases.

2. You want to fill the vases, here are some examples that you can choose from that would look great; glass stones any color to match your theme or use clear stones, clear stones look nice because it captures different colors from the lights, marbles, silk pedals, rocks any color or choose natural for the ECO look, coffee beans, fruit; lemons, limes, oranges, apples, clear water or you can use food coloring in the water to match your theme.

3. Search the craft store for the isle that has the plastic silk flower bowls these bowls vary in prices you can get one for $2.00. Purchase a large bowl and you will glue that bowl onto the top of your filled vase. I suggest you use a strong glue that will adhere glass to plastic.

4. Purchase a foam floral arrangement ball or flat form to fit your bowl, cut to size.

5. Begin to build the floral arrangement. Use dripping flowers for edges at least hanging 12-40 inches outside bowl and secure glass crystal shape string of beads with floral pins into the foam do not crowed the bowl just use corners for dripping flowers and glass crystal strings between alternating. Then you can begin to cut stems to fill in bowl with silk flowers.

For the table, purchase a pack of square tile mirrors, they usually come in packs of 8. Set one on each table and place your tall centerpiece vase on top. On the four corners of the mirror tile place coordinating votive candles.

Finishing touch, depending on your budget you can use real rose pedals or thin rubber or silk pedals of any flower to sprinkle along with a metallic confetti on the table, some craft shops have confetti letters, you can use that blended with the pedals it makes for a nice conversation amongst your guests.

Using this same idea for your centerpieces you can create the vases and have your florist sit their already made arrangements that you chose with your florist on top of your pedestals for a more dramatic affect on any table.

Note: Some florists have vase stands for rent. It is much cheaper to make them yourself. They can be as high as 900.00 each to rent or 200.00 low balling it. If you create these pedestals yourself you are saving a lot off money and getting the same results.

I rate this DYI project as easy. Fun for you and your wedding party to create.

I hope this has inspired you to create your own spectacular centerpieces easy and elegant.

Submitted by Carolyn Fairley, CWEP, www.premierweddingplanning.net

Finding A Cheap Wedding Dress

2011-02-12T11:00:00.000-05:00

Your dream is to walk down the aisle looking gorgeous wearing the perfect wedding dress. Whether it’s a long or short, formal or informal, it must be special. It must be YOU. And it must be CHEAP because you are on a tight budget.

Shopping for the perfect inexpensive dress is a time-consuming process. So start early, at least eight to 12 months ahead of time. Your dress will be on display during the ceremony and reception, set the tone for your wedding, and be immortalized by the photographer. It has to be cheap, but it has to look stunning. How do you buy the dress of your dreams when you’re on a budget? You will be amazed at the possibilities. Here are some suggestions:

1. Be prepared to compromise. You will no doubt fall in love with a gown far more expensive than you can afford. Take the opportunity to discover what features you love. What is it about the dress that makes you look wonderful in it? The high collar? Plunging back? The bell skirt? Note those features and look at cheaper dresses in similar designs.

2. Try on dresses with someone who knows you and your style and has a good eye for fashion. Her mission is to help you choose a style that showcases your best features while steering you away from the expensive gowns.

3. There are often outstanding bargains in regular bridal shops. Some stores in our city carry a selection for $100 or less. Always ask about discounted gowns when you are in a dress shop.

4. As popularity of destination weddings increases, so has the selection of cheap ivory and white dresses in department stores. Look in the dress sections of department stores like Dillards, Macy's, or Nordstrom for clearance or sale-priced dresses. Even full-price formals are cheaper than many wedding dresses.

5. Look in upscale consignment stores. The better shops carefully screen incoming dresses for tears, stains, and other signs of wear and have like new inventory. They also tend to carry more brand name dresses and gowns than less discriminating stores. Some cities even have bridal consignments. Check the online yellow pages for options near you (www.yellowpages.com).

6. Cheap wedding dresses in like-new condition are plentiful on eBay. There were over 5,000 bridal gowns listed as of this writing.

7. Free is wonderful relief on a budget. Make your wedding dress the "something borrowed" in your wedding and ask a friend or relative if you can wear hers. (There can be a lot of emotions attached to a dress, so consider carefully before asking to wear someone's dress. They may be flattered, or offended.)

8. There are several outlet chains that carry designer dresses at cheap prices. Find Bridal Mart, Cinderella Bridal, JC Penny Outlets and other bridal outlet locations through www.outletbound.com.

9. Samples are another source of cheap designer wedding dresses. With a bit of online research you can find original designer gowns 50% or more off retail. Search Google for "designer wedding gown samples" (without quotes), or something similar, and you will find many deeply discounted wedding dresses.
By researching and carefully choosing a cheap wedding dress, you can walk down the aisle in style without breaking the bank!

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more cheap wedding dress shopping tips at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/cheap-dress

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Creating A Video Montage For Your Wedding

2011-02-11T11:00:00.000-05:00

10 Tips for Creating a Great Slide Show or Video Montage

Creating a captivating video montage or slide show that you can enjoy for years is not difficult, but by taking a few steps prior to creating a slide show or having one created for you can go along way. Here are some lessons that we've learned at DVDPhotographs.com while creating our slide shows.

1. Know who your audience is

Knowing who your intended audience is an obvious, but sometimes overlooked step in the process of developing your slide show. For instance, if you're showing your slide show at your wedding reception, perhaps you'll want to include some pictures of the guests, and not just pictures of you and your fiancé.

2. Shorter is sometimes better

After you've determined who your intended audience is you can start to get an idea as to how many pictures you'll want to include in your slide show. We've found that video montages that are between 8 - 12 minutes in length are ideal for wedding receptions. This usually works out to about 3 songs and 75-100 pictures. While you can certainly display more photos during your slide show, you want to be careful not to overdo it. You may want to create two slide shows, one you show at your wedding, and another you keep for yourself.

3. Choose Quality Photographs

While recent advances in digital photo restoration have allowed torn and poorly developed photographs to be brought back to life, there is only so much that the software can do. Pictures that look great printed (correct lighting, framing, developed properly) will also look great while scanned. Pictures that are extremely dark or grainy, while perhaps improved somewhat, will still not appear the best. Make sure to choose a photo montage company that can make digital enhancements to your pictures.

4. Choose a Variety of Photographs

Even though you may love all the pictures of your dog Rusty, the audience may not want to sit through all the pictures of him. Instead of showing 10 pictures of Rusty, perhaps choose the best 2 or 3. Using a variety of photographs can keep your audience interest.

5. Landscape pictures show better than Portrait pictures

Given the standard dimensions of television monitors, photographs that are in landscape mode (vertical) as opposed to portrait mode (horizontal) show better on a TV. While portrait photographs certainly can and SHOULD be used, you should be aware that there will typically be a black border that appears around the photograph. It's best to use these sparingly throughout the slide show and not clump them all together.

6. Give some thought to music

Choose music that has meaning to you, music whose lyrics go well with the pictures. Also pay attention to how long the music you're choosing is. If you're only showing 30 pictures, you might not want to choose a 8 minute song. The photo montage company should be able to give you some suggestions as to the number of pictures with your selected songs.

7. Add short video clips

Do you have any home videos sitting around gathering dust? Think about adding perhaps a 10-15 second video clip in the middle of the slide show. The video clip can help break up the video montage and is a great way to keep your audiences interest. Make sure to choose a slide show company that can convert your video clips.

8. Add motion to your slide shows

Slide shows developed on PowerPoint and other consumer level software will typically be just static photos that go from one picture to the next. Consider having your slide shows created with the "Ken Burns" effects that Pan and Zoom on each photograph. This can help bring your pictures to life. Make sure you inquire to see if your photo montage company can create motion with your pictures.

9. Add transitions to your slide shows

Transitions such as fade in/fade out, dissolve, and image peel are also an effective way to move from one photograph to the next. Be careful not to get too carried away with transitions as they too many of them can distract from the overall slide show.

10. Test! Test! Test!

An event as big as your wedding requires that you make sure you test ALL the equipment prior to the big day. Make sure the projector or television, DVD Player or Laptop, and sound is all working.

Creating a captivating slide show or video montage can be done successfully with keeping a few of these tips in mind. Pictures that are preserved to DVD can be enjoyed for years to come. Partnering with an experienced slide show company like DVDPhotographs.com can help create a slide show you'll be proud of.

Submitted by Michael Yared, www.dvdphotographs.com

Tips For The Best Man's Speech

2011-02-10T11:00:00.000-05:00

A best man's speech can make or break a wedding but by using common sense you can make sure your toast is remembered for all the right reasons.

A wedding is certainly a nerve racking day for the couple of the day, but the nerves also extend to the best man who has the difficult job of coming up with a memorable speech at the reception.

The main problem people have with their speech is that they overcomplicate things and make things harder for themselves. A good best man's speech should be short and snappy - more than five minutes and people's thought start to wander, longer than seven and people start to get bored. While brevity is important, it's good to use two minutes as your minimum marker.

Confidence is key to delivering a good speech so try to get it written and ready a good while before the day and practice as much as you can. The better you know the key points of your speech, the more relaxed you will be and, remember, the groom chose you to be best man so be yourself.

A good best man's speech includes jokes (good jokes, not dirty ones), a story or two about the couple (how they met, how happy they are together - stories that are appropriate for all ages), a thank you to all who made the wedding possible (such as whoever paid for the event) and, finally, a toast to a successful future.

You should try to make your stories balanced between the bride and the groom, but as you are the groom's best man you may not know the bride as well. In this case, it's always good to talk about the groom's feeling for the bride. This is generally the time to act as a salesman, talking up your friend to the bride's family who may not know the groom - what you tell them may help to form their first impression.

It is always best to err on the side of caution with your speech - being boring or soppy is a lot better than being offensive. Telling dirty jokes or speaking about the groom's ex-girlfriend may get a few laughs from your friends, but the bride's parents and elderly relatives may not be amused and if it's you that's blamed for ruining the wedding with your inappropriate speech it's more likely to be you than the wedding insurance providers who ends up shelling out compensation.

Submitted by Reagan Blackpool, www.marksandspencer.com

Tips For Buying Your Wedding Rings

2011-02-09T11:00:00.000-05:00

As Valentine's Day approaches, please keep these top 5 tips in mind...

1. Get the timing right.

You might have a year or more to buy your rings, depending on how long your engagement is. If you are buying a gold or platinum ring - and most couples do - then remember that the price of these rings can change quite a lot over the course of several months. This is because the price of gold and platinum rings is affected by the world markets in precious metals, and these markets have been particularly volatile lately. If you've got the time to do a bit of research, you can avoid buying at peak prices and save yourself some cash.

2. Know your carats.

Most gold jewellery comes in two types: 18 carat and 9 carat. 18 carat gold has a purity of 75%. 9 carat gold has a purity of only 38%, which makes it a lot cheaper. Most people prefer 18 carat for a wedding ring. Platinum does not come in different carats - any genuine platinum jewellery is almost completely pure. This is one of the reasons why platinum is more expensive than any type of gold.

3. Know your ring style.

Rings can be curved or flat on the inside. The shape of the inside affects the comfort of the ring. If you are not used to wearing rings, you will probably find that a ring which is curved on the inside is more comfortable than one which is flat. Rings can also be curved or flat on the outside. The shape of the outside affects the look of the ring. For a classic look, go for a ring which is curved on the outside. Rings which are flat on the outside look more modern.

4. Check your ring size.

Ring sizes are on a scale from A (smallest) to Z (largest). Larger rings cost more. Some jewellers have a different price for every size, whereas other jewellers have a price for men's sizes (bigger) and a price for women's sizes (smaller). If you are just looking for a plain band, remember that men with small enough fingers can sometimes fit a woman's size. This is often exactly the same style as the man's size ring, but cheaper.

5. Be prepared to haggle.

Some jewellers are prepared to haggle, especially if you are buying the bride's and groom's rings together. It never hurts to ask. If you're uncomfortable with this, start with a standard: "Can you give us a discount for two?" or "Is that the best price you can do?". You will soon know if the jeweller is prepared to play ball.

Submitted by Benjamin Parker, www.groompower.com

Wedding Ideas For The Budget Bride

2011-02-08T11:00:00.000-05:00

Not every bride these days has a Wedding Pot full of Mom and Dad’s money. So here are 20 unnoticeable ways to save without creating a wedding drag.

1. More Intimate Affairs - Smaller weddings of 100 guests or less are more popular than ever. Couples have caught on that smaller weddings lend affordability for more lavish elements. Fewer guests equal options for a smaller venue, a lower food and bar bill and less tables to seat guests. Cozy seating builds intimacy, including long feasting tables and furniture “lounge” seating. Family-style food makes for a sharing atmosphere and requires less wait staff. Every element will equate savings, even invitations. Less guests is win-win! Savings $$$$

2. Destination… Destination Weddings have become more popular than ever as a combined “wedding-moon,” that is part wedding, party honeymoon all in one. Normally these gatherings are primarily family or a small group of close friends and family. Most destination resorts do offer comprehensive packaged weddings with bells and whistles of your choosing. The U.S. dollar exchange rate is fluctuating heavily however, so research travel costs prior to setting your heart on an Italian Destination for example. The travel expenses for your guests can really add up fast if you aren’t careful. The more comprehensive the trip you book, the more locked in and pre-determined the costs will be. Savings $$

3. Save the Stamp- Save-The-Date by email or evites.com instead of sending one out in the mail. If your friends and family are e-mailers, use an email RSVP for your actual invitations too. Keep in mind that if you don’t stamp RSVP cards for guests to mail back however, those choosing to mail their response will have to provide their own stamp. Savings $

4. Get Resourceful - Do it yourself, design and print your own wedding invitations and programs, they will be one-of-a-kind. This is a great place to use the help of friends that have offered assistance with your wedding. Make your own party favors or better yet save more money by skipping the party favors altogether, nobody will miss them. If a friend or family member offers to host a Sunday brunch or other weekend festivities for your out of town guests, take them up on the offer. There is no shame in accepting help from others in order to make your wedding more special. Savings $$

5. Skip the Gift Registry- When guests see that you have not registered they should get the “monetary” hint. Besides, if you prefer to pay off your wedding rather than buy household goods that aren’t a necessity, then why register? Many couples are also registering at Honeymoon websites to save on their travel expenses. Sites with low surcharge % include www.honeyfund.com www.smarthoneymoon.com and www.thehoneymoon.com. Savings $$$

6. Rent or Design Couture- If you’ve got to have that designer gown then rent it. Major cities have boutiques where temporary alterations can be done on the hottest dresses and each dress is only kept in rotation for several rentals. If you need more major alterations however then save on the label. The best dress seamstresses can tailor a gown to look just like a real Carmen Suttera for far less money. Savings $$$

7. Get It ON PAPER- When planning early on, get costs from vendors put on paper. Prices can rise unexpectedly, particularly in an unsure economy, so if you don’t get a quote on paper you might lose out on the current rate! Also be sure to find out up front what the policy is on your deposit if the business were to go under. Savings $

8. Shop Around - Take the time to price shop. The gown you fall in love with may be cheaper elsewhere and you might be able to find a better deal on a limo. Even a specially designed wedding cake may be cheaper to have designed somewhere else. Also keep in mind that dress shops, bakeries, even hotel rooms tend to cost less in lower-priced neighborhoods because retailers have less overhead. So step outside Manhattan and Beverly Hills when shopping for your wedding vendors. Savings $

9. Skip the steak - Less expensive food options such as chicken or pasta will cut dollars. Cocktail hour appetizers such as veggie platters and guacamole/chips are inexpensive yet large portions for guests to nosh on. Savings $$$

10. Simplify Photography - Go with a basic photography package that covers your shooting needs for the wedding day and editing only. You can always order and pay for albums, photo prints and framed portraits after the wedding when your pocketbook is not so tight. Savings $$

11. Order Your Own Pics - If you have the ability to receive your wedding photos on disk from the Photographer, print them on your own through a professional lab just like the pros, but for a fraction of the cost (www.mpix.com). Savings $

12. Ditch valet - Unless you really need valet for parking logistics, skipping the hotel or country club valet will save you thousands. If the weather is poor or women are wearing tall heels their escorts can always drop ladies off before parking their cars. Savings $$$

13. Location Caution - A wedding held at a beautiful chapel or outdoor setting may cost a bit more up front, but you can save on decorations and flowers when your existing setting is already worthy. Savings $

14. Budget Caterers - When times are tough some independent caterers are more likely to noodle prices for you than a country club. Choose a less expensive location where you can bring in your own caterer or choose from a list of affordable (approved) caterers. These same locations that allow outside caterers may also allow you to bring in your own liquor, equaling a significant cost savings. Keep in mind however that rentals (china, flatware, glassware, ovens, etc.) can really add up fast if the caterer doesn’t own them. Also, when a location is more bare bones you most likely won’t have the luxuries of valet, a concierge or on-site wedding coordinator. Savings $$

15. Keep with Standard - Check out what comes with a caterer or location “package”. Do they include table linens, and in what colors? Are tables, chairs and dance floor included in the costs? Are chairs in nice condition, are chair covers included? For the most part try to stick with standard china, glassware and flatware as opposed to upgrading to specialty ware. Truly your guests will not notice a difference. Savings $$

16. Spend Where It Shows - Spend where your guests will be spending their time on your wedding day. If your guests will only spend one hour in the cocktail area then save the money on decorations and music in that space and spend for example, where guests will be eating dinner instead. Savings $

17. Seasonal Flowers - If you love peonies but your wedding is in January you will need to change your expectations. Be realistic. Flowers grow seasonally and they won’t grow unseasonably just for your wedding day. If you love orchids but don’t love the cost, mix them with other less expensive seasonal varieties. Savings $$

18. Re-use - Get a second use out of flowers. Pew flowers can be moved during the cocktail hour to double as centerpieces for guest tables. Large ceremony arrangements can be used as buffet floral pieces. The best part is that nobody will notice they are the same flowers because they are being used for completely different purposes. But remember somebody has to do the work during the cocktail hour! Savings $

19. Avoid Honeymoon Overindulgence - Yes, the honeymoon is important and lately it had become the trend for couples to increasingly spend more on these extravagant getaways. But keep in mind that if this cuts into your wedding budget you do have a choice of where to spend. Even if that means delaying the Honeymoon all together until a later date. Besides, you will most likely want some time to regroup and get organized after the big day. Savings $$$

20. Put Your Life on a Budget - Here are five simple cutbacks for your life the six months prior to your wedding. If cutting back your spending prior to the wedding means Vera Wang bridal shoes you may think twice about purchasing your daily Starbucks. In short, the more you are aware of where your dollars are going, the less you will spend. Remember that men are not always as willing to sacrifice their daily simple luxuries so that you can splurge on one day. Be understanding. But remember, a budget only works if you to stick with it. Savings $$$$

* Cut back! Instead of going out to dinner and a movie, try cooking dinner together and renting a flick at home. See if you can get a better rate on both of your car insurance policies… seriously! Look for a better rate to refinance your student loans and car loan. Have your hair trimmed and manicure done at a beauty college for a few months, or do your nails yourself.

* Replace the gift exchange with your honey (Valentine’s Day, Birthdays, Christmas) and put the money towards your honeymoon or wedding night. Or if you know you will both cheat and buy for one another, then set a $20 limit and stick to it. Tell your friends that you are skipping Christmas gifts this year to pay for the wedding, they should be understanding. For family and other special occasions put together gift baskets and shop around to purchase thoughtful themed gifts. You will find that you can get away with spending less money if you put time, thought and energy into gift giving. When the wedding arrives, purchase small gifts for attendants and don’t go overboard. Any gift of thanks will be appreciated no matter how large or small.

* Grocery shop with a list and don’t give in to temptations that aren’t on it. Cut coupons for the trip, it can add up to substantial savings over time. Buy food that is on sale and remember that if it’s not on sale, it might be next week. Also, buy the generic or store brand products. Make your lunches to bring to work with you instead of eating out or buying fast food every day.

* Carpool, if you and your fiancé live together and drive the same direction, carpooling will give you that added time together each day and save on gas.

* Sell it! if you have stuff you don’t use or clothes you don’t wear, sell them. Have a garage sale to get rid of household items and unwanted furniture, and sell your barely worn/unworn clothing at a consignment store. Between the two of you it might turn out you have a lot of unnecessary stuff to get rid of before married life begins.

$ - Save hundreds
$$ - Save hundreds or thousands
$$$ - Save thousands
$$$$ - Save HUGE

Submitted by Jackie Baird, www.bendedkneeweddings.com

St Barts Destination Weddings And Honeymoons

2011-02-07T11:00:00.000-05:00

Destination Weddings are weddings that take place away from where the bride and groom live. They happen in some of the most exotic and wonderful places in the world. These types of non-traditional weddings provide the bride and groom with dreamy settings, while doubling as an opportunity for guests to experience a place they have never been before.

“Today’s couples are more educated, sophisticated, and better traveled than couples of past generations. More affluent than past marrying couples, 27% of these Generation Y couples (children of the baby boomers and twice the numbers) will pay for their entire wedding, and they want something different for themselves and their guests; they want to be pampered and taken seriously.

“Although women are still the primary decision makers of the wedding plans, men are more involved today than couples of the generation that preceded them, 83% of today’s couples are employed full time; they work hard (they are paying a mortgage and own one or two automobiles between them). Equally, they want to play hard; realizing that they are together rarely, they want to plan events that will bring them closer. As well, they want to create deep and meaningful memories for the family and friends. Since most couples are not getting married in the areas where they grew up, their time with family and friends is all the more precious and important to them. If they can do this in a unique or even an exotic setting, all the more enticing,” Ernst adds.

St Barthelemy, located in the French West Indies, is that exotic setting today’s bride is looking for. It is the Monte Carlo of the Caribbean, without the traffic jams but with the added advantage of flawless beaches. Shortened to Saint Barth in French and St Barts in English it is an exclusive eight square mile (21 sq km) embodiment of 24-carat French chic. It attracts millionaires on luxury yachts, movie stars and French expatriates fleeing the European winter. It is a Caribbean island where relaxation and Gallic style under a tropical sun have been refined to perfection.

Few islands worldwide, can match the unique blend of style, nature and history that is St. Barts. This tiny island has significant appeal where 'quality' is most certainly more important than 'quantity'... an island far away from the normality of life, making it the perfect wedding destination.

St. Barts is surrounded with turquoise waters, situated near the northern end of the Lesser Antilles group in the French West Indies. At a distance of 200 kms from the island of Guadeloupe and 25 kms from Saint-Martin. It is a mountainous island whose only flat area is occupied by the airport’s runway. As the climate is rather dry, agriculture has never been developed, thus throughout history few slaves had ever been employed. For the most part, St. Bartians are descendants of Breton and Norman fisher folk. Many are of French and Swedish ancestry, the latter evident in their fair skin, blond hair, and blue eyes.

St. Barts’ beaches are renowned for being some of the most beautiful and pristine in the world. Many are found in small coves, which have been protected from development by strict environmentally friendly zoning. Unlike many of its neighboring Caribbean islands, it has not been overrun with prefab condos and large chain hotels. There are six 4 star hotels all featuring romance packages for the wedding or honeymoon couple. All are of single story design, some as one building and others as separate single bedroom villas. Four are located on the beach (perfect for reading-of-the-vows ceremony) the other two are high on the hills with magnificent views of the island and setting sun. Each hotel has been uniquely designed, blending into the surrounding terrain. Luxury and elegance is felt in each environment.

St. Barts features some of the best cuisine in the Caribbean. The island has over eighty restaurants featuring culinary styles ranging from classic French to Asian to West Indian.

Many of the restaurants attract gourmet chefs trained in France to oversee their kitchens. These chefs can also be reserved to serve guests in the intimate privacy of their own villa for any special event or treasured evening. Villas on the island offer breath taking views and the perfect setting for your reception, especially with your own private French chef.

Nightlife of St. Barts is diverse as well. Visitors looking for late-night pleasures can listen to live jazz at a café or dance the night away at one of the local discos or after hours clubs.

St. Barts is also a duty-free port, rated as one of the premier shopping destinations in the Caribbean. The capital Gustavia is the principal shopping area of the island. There are boutiques and emporiums for the most sophisticated shoppers, featuring luxury brands such as Cartier, Hermes, Dior to name a few. The island hosts numerous health and beauty clinics and fitness centers catering to the island's upscale clientele.

It is important to realize that planning a wedding in a foreign country still has the usual concerns and worries of any home based event; there is the additional stress that something could go wrong in a different location. Aside from making travel reservations for the group, a couple needs to consider local legal issues. For instance, marriage in St Barts is not a legal ceremony, rather it is viewed as a spiritual ceremony. For this reason and others, travelers planning to marry in any foreign country should give serious consideration to hiring a local, home based Wedding Consultant for guidance and advice as well as an on-site Wedding Consultant at the particular destination. .The on-site Consultant will insure that the hosts of the event have all the required documentation, that every detail is planned long before arrival and that only the most competent, professional and expert wedding vendors with proper contracts will provide their services . These on-site Consultants can also provide any needed assistance if the couple chooses to bring along some of their own vendors (e.g. the photographer, floral designer, videographer, etc.). They will check that each client and guest is properly retrieved at the airport, that they are provided with the planned-for-accommodations, and that they are well rested from travel before beginning the schedule of any local tours and sightseeing prepared for in advance. Moreover, the on-site consultant can also suggest local customs that will make the wedding truly unique, one that family and friends alike will talk about for a very long time.

“Premium IV is truly one of the foremost on-site specialists. Located on St Barts they are members of AFWPI (Association for Wedding Professionals International) and JWI (June Wedding, Inc®). The management team of Premium IV is made up of three experts in service: a successful Canadian entrepreneur, an English expert in receptive tourism and a French restaurateur who have provided magnificent service in the best restaurants and hotels in France, the UK, USA, and St Barts. Additionally, the highly qualified and bilingual staff (French and English) have many years of experience in the island way of life.

They will provide the ultimate in V.I.P. services. Premium IV has brought together, under one umbrella, only the best that St Barts has to offer. With over 120 contracted partners providing approximately 450 products and services. There is virtually no request that Premium IV cannot arrange,” says International Travel Writer, Jesse Nash.

Any special event wedding, honeymoon or other special event that takes place on St. Barts is special and memorable simply due to the Island’s own enchanted ambiance and unique hospitality. The St. Barts experience is all the more enhanced when it is under the direction of a competent Consultant and Director, at home and on the Island. But the Consultant or Director who leaves nothing to chance, who sees to it that not only is the St. Barts experience itself is magical, one that will be treasured forever in the hearts and memories of the travelers, the staff of Premium IV takes the added steps of communicating with the client and/or their home based Consultant before arrival on St. Barts so that every detail is discussed, decisions determined and firmed up in writing, and that from the moment the client and guests set foot on St. Barts, they enter into a well scripted, stress-free atmosphere and they will be completely at ease and confident that all the planning will play out like as closely as possible to their dreams.

Submitted by John Day, President, Premium IV, St Barthelemy, www.premiumiv.com

Celebrity Weddings Are "Destined" For Europe

2011-02-06T11:00:00.000-05:00

Celebrity weddings are "destined" for Europe. Discover tips from a travel insider and a former bride on how to plan your own destination wedding.

As more celebrities tie the knot in Europe, many couples have become interested in having their own destination wedding. Doorways, Ltd. is a travel agency that specializes in European villas. President Kit Burns has planned several dream weddings abroad, including her own daughter's. She offers nine steps with her insider tips for planning your own dream wedding in Europe...

Decide on the location

Burns suggests choosing a country that has personal meaning to the couple. Ethnic ties, scenery, or pure love of a country's culture often guide the couple's choice. Whatever country you decide on, always choose an agency that specializes in your destination.

Calculate your budget and number of guests

Happily, destination weddings often cost the same as or less than at-home weddings because the guest list can be trimmed down to only very close family and friends. Normally a destination wedding is between 12-40 people, including immediate family, best friends and close cousins. This is exactly why destination weddings are so appealing; they are personal, romantic, and surprisingly affordable.

Find the right place to stay within your country of choice

Some areas are perfect wedding spots. Burns recommends newly-restored Villa Buonvisi, nestled among olive groves, mountains, and vineyards in Lucca, Tuscany. The villa is fully-staffed, and its gracious owners offer guests free wine, olive oil, and personalized wedding planning. Doorways also offers properties ideal for weddings in France and Spain.

Locate a good wedding planner abroad

It is important to establish contact with a planner while you are still in the States. When brides call Doorways, Ltd. to rent a villa for their destination wedding, they are matched with villa owners who offer personal service and experience. For Trea Robinson, a Doorways destination wedding bride, the villa owners served as an integral part of the planning process. Robinson says, "The villa owners had everything under control and never let us see them under any pressure if there was any. They recommended restaurants, handled translations, the florist, cook, pastry chef, and numerous details that made our wedding day and week - absolutely perfect!"

Find out the legal regulations of your destination

To avoid a lot of red tape, Burns suggests couples have the legal marriage at home then a symbolic wedding ceremony in the destination country. Some countries, such as Italy offer civil ceremonies that are internationally recognized. Your travel consultant should be familiar with the legalities of your destination.

Notify your family and friends

Send out a "save the date" email as soon as your date and location are confirmed. Keep in mind that some people plan their vacations a year in advance, so you should let everyone know the date and country as soon as possible.

Buy your dress and figure out how you will transport it

Have it fitted in advance. Then, wrap it in tissue paper and pack it in a large box. If you check it with your luggage, be sure to label your destination address and phone number clearly, and insure the dress separately. Some brides prefer to ship the dress ahead and there are delivery services you can use. They are expensive, but can be worth it. Be sure to arrange the delivery and storage of the dress with your villa in advance.

Maintain communication

Create a website where guests can find answers to their questions without calling the bride and groom. The theme of the website can match your invitations. It is also helpful to provide guests with your travel consultant's contact information. This can be your US villa rental company, like Doorways, or it can be one of the other guests who loves to do this as a hobby.

Arrive early and finalize details

For Trea Robinson, it was the details of her destination wedding that were most memorable. "The fields of mint that we walked through to get to the vineyards for pictures were amazing. Guests enjoyed cocktails under the villa's arbor that was brimming with grapes." The magical aura of Europe can make any bride feel like a star.

For information on renting a villa for your destination wedding, vow renewal or honeymoon, visit www.villavacations.com or call 1 800-261-4460.

Doorways, Ltd. specializes in villa, chateau and apartment rentals in Italy, Spain, and France. Since 1994, the company has provided each of its clients with personalized service and genuine care. All properties have been personally seen and approved by the Doorways staff.

Article written by Susan Russo

Submitted by Kit Burns, President, Doorways, Ltd., www.villavacations.com

Simple Things To Help Your Wedding Photographer

2011-02-05T11:00:00.000-05:00

A little help goes a long way. Here are some simple things to help your wedding photographer make your memories last forever.

Let’s Be Friends

First and foremost, understand that even the most professional photographer can only capture that which you portray. They may be able to get great angles and a fairytale setting, but how you feel and what you think will most certainly be evident in you facial expression and level of comfort in front of the camera. It is, therefore, of utmost value to be comfortable with your photographer and their camera. A very good idea would be to get to know your photographer before the wedding in order to achieve this. Many photographers will be more than happy to arrange a pre-shoot to help you and your fiancée become more comfortable with the lens and it truly is advisable to grab the opportunity with both hands. Not only will it help you and your fiancée to become more comfortable, but it should also be a time in which your photographer will couch you in the little things that really matter on the day of your wedding like “chin up, elbows away from your sides, breath” and so on. All in an effort to capture your most precious memories in the best possible way. Remember that your photographer is the one person who will be there ALL THE TIME. They are probably going to be the one calming you when table settings aren’t right or the correct accessories to your dress have not arrived (I’m speaking from experience of-course). Yes, they will be the one standing by with that glass of wine, the cigarette or the calming tablet, whilst still capturing every moment in eternity. In getting to know your photographer, it will offer the photographer a glimpse into your personality and give them the opportunity of capturing YOU in your photos.

A great way of allowing your photographer to get to know you is to invite your photographer to your bridal shower to capture a few shots there. It will also offer your photographer a chance to get acquainted with some of your key guests. Most photographers would love to get to know the couple before the wedding. Make the photographer a friend.

Lighting

Now most photographers will be able to deal with any lighting condition, but the best photos are usually achieved using natural light. Please keep this in mind when planning the time of your wedding. Remember that if the ceremony is scheduled for just before sunset and the ceremony is an hour long, there won’t be much light left for your photographer to work with. Also keep in mind that once you step outside the ceremony venue, there will be a stampede of guests who will want to congratulate you. This is very time consuming and can take an hour or more. You may not expect that it will be so time consuming, but experience has taught me that it always does, so please be sure to cater for this in your schedule. If you are planning a late or evening wedding, your photographer will probably ask to take photos of you and your fiancée before the ceremony or the next day, or they may take a more photojournalistic approach and have no formal shoot with the bride and groom at all.

Also keep your photographer in mind at the reception. Dimming the lights to almost complete darkness when opening the dance floor or cutting the cake, may add to the romantic atmosphere, but may leave your photographer in complete disaster, especially if he/she does not even have enough light to see you through the camera’s view finder.

Event Schedule

Please ensure that your photographer knows what will be happening at approximately what time. Remember that your photographer needs to be aware of important moments at your wedding in order to capture them e.g. Speeches, opening dance, throwing of the bouquet and so on. There is nothing worse for a photographer than sitting down to that well deserved meal, taking a bit bite of that lovely food, and being caught completely off-guard by the announcement of the wedding cake being cut, and having jump up, mouth full of food, hands full of gravy – need I say more?

Event Guide

An event guide is someone who knows the rest of the guests at the wedding, who can help the photographer to get the right people together for the photos of friends and family that you have requested. You have many other things to concentrate on and will probably not have the time to help your photographer co-ordinate this. Besides, you will probably be in most of those photographs and will have to stay put while the rest of the crowd is being gathered. Remember that your photographer is great at what they do, but unfortunately, probably not clairvoyant, and will not know who Uncle Frank and Aunt Sally are. Having an event guide will help to ensure that the process is quick and efficient and that all those special guests get photographed.

Guests and Guest Photography

Usually, most photographers will be more than happy to allow your guests to take photos here and there. I even joke around with the guests who are taking photos and call them my fellow paparazzi and give them some pointers to help them achieve better shots. Unfortunately, time on your special day is precious and rather pricey when it comes to a professional photographer. Try to limit the amount of guest photography during vital moments of your wedding. Keep in mind that your photographer may be using a special lens for low lighting conditions during the ceremony, if it is indoors, to avoid using a flash, and a flash from a guest’s camera may cost you and your photography that great photo of “You may kiss the bride”. It is also very time consuming during the photo shoot of friends, family and the bridal couple if the photographer has to wait for the 10 other people who want to take that same shot and has to fight for your attention while you are looking at the 10 other camera’s clicking away. It may mean that the photographer may not have enough time to get all the desired photos and it may prove to be very disappointing for you.

When it comes to guests, it is rather unfortunate that you will have one or two who will refuse to co-operate with your photographer and who may even be extremely rude. Now, some people will just persist in their behavior no matter what you do or say, but for the rest of the friendly folk, it may be a good idea to add a little sentence to your invitation like “Watch out for the paparazzi. When in there presence, look straight into the lens, be quiet and smile, and no-one gets hurt” or have your master of ceremony just make a short announcement to encourage guest co-operation. I am always friendly with the guests and find that 9 times out of 10 a little courtesy from my side and a bit of encouragement from the couple’s side goes a long way in creating great and fun photos.

Enjoy It

Enjoy the experience. Take that bottle of wine along. Have fun. Chat to your beloved. Laugh. Relax. Remember your photographs can only reflect what you are feeling. Many a bride and groom have said that their photo session was one of the most wonderful, fun highlights of their day, and some have said that it was exhausting and frustrating. You photo shoot will greatly depend on what you make of it. The photographer will do the rest.

Article written by Roberta Strydom

Submitted by Giovanna Clarichetti Photography, www.weddingphotographs.co.za

An Interfaith Minister Can Be An Answer To Your Prayers

2011-02-04T11:00:00.000-05:00

When a couple who come from different religions and backgrounds get engaged and start looking for an officiant for their big day, the task can be daunting and confusing. Many feel that if you are of two different faiths the path of least resistance would be to have a civil or non spiritual ceremony. Many interfaith couples may find that there is parental pressure to have a ceremony that reflects each family’s beliefs and comfort zone. Those couples can feel that they are caught in a game of wedding ceremony tug of war and what should be a happy time starts becoming stressful and problematic. Or many interfaith couples have their family’s support but do not know how to go about having a ceremony that reflects each of their spiritual beliefs.

For those interfaith couples who want to bring their individual backgrounds, religions and traditions into a beautiful and cohesive ceremony finding the right Ordained Interfaith Minister can in fact be “an answer to your prayers”.

You may be confused to what exactly is an Interfaith Minister. Many couples don’t know or understand the background and the education an Interfaith Minister has. An Ordained Interfaith Minister, like myself, who graduated from seminary were taught by respected leaders and teachers of all religions. I spent years working with and taking classes from Rabbis and Priests, Pastors, Ministers, Buddhist Priests and even Monks. We delved deeply in each religion’s rich history and beliefs. We spent many months with religious leaders studying each religion’s bible and Holy Scriptures.

We are taught that to understand and enjoy full spiritual fellowship with all religions of the world. "Never Instead of, Always In Addition To” is the foundation of our beliefs. It would be ludicrous to suggest we have the ability to wholly change the attitudes of the world. It is our desire to transcend the religious and cultural difficulties that those in need have experienced. We wish to extend our compassion, concern, love and caring, which has been the tradition of the Interfaith Minister.

Many people who are not of a Christian background may be put off by the title of “Minister”. They may feel that the title of Minister is always connected to one particular Christian-based belief. This is not necessarily true, the dictionary describes the meaning of a minister:

1. To attend to the wants and needs of others

2. To perform the functions of a cleric

So in actuality an Interfaith Minister performs the functions of a cleric and attends to the needs and wants of people that come from diverse religious and traditional backgrounds.

An Ordained Interfaith Minister will be able to take important pieces from each religions and background and blend them together to create a beautiful and cohesive ceremony. Asking parents and family members to participate in different symbolic facets of the ceremony can also generate a feeling of togetherness as two families become one.

As with any wedding officiant, an engaged couple should find an Interfaith Minister who brings warmth, humor and a willingness to listen, understanding and creatively put into action the individual needs of the couple.

Submitted by Rev Alison Caiola, www.nyweddingclergy.com

Wedding Photographers: How To Choose The Best

2011-02-03T11:00:00.000-05:00

If you are reading this, chances are you are recently engaged. Congratulations! The task in front of you to plan your wedding may seem overwhelming but this article should help you in at least one major area - choosing your wedding photographer.

Hiring your wedding photographer now will have consequences for life, so it is incredibly important that you choose a reputable photographer. If the cake turns out chocolate instead of marble or if daisies are in your bouquet instead of carnations will you remember it five years from now? Will it really matter? Probably not, but what will matter is having bad photographs or video of your wedding day.

Just as soon as you’ve chosen a date for your ceremony, you should choose a photographer. Peter Clayman, senior photographer for NH Images, says his business typically books up to 10 to 14 months in advance. He stresses the importance of booking as soon as possible, “In a perfect world, they should book twelve months in advance. If that’s not possible, they should do it as absolutely soon as possible.” This is because many photography companies that consist of a sole photographer can handle only one wedding in any given day. NH Images, for example, has a team of photographers that can shoot up to five weddings at a time.

After setting the big date, determine your photography budget. Photographers are among the highest-paid vendors for weddings so be sure to plan proportionately. Next, decide on the style of photography you like. According to Peter, there are several photography styles to consider. Photographers may shoot all styles or just one or two. Knowing the style(s) you want will help you select the appropriate photographer.

Photography Styles

Photojournalist-style photography (AKA candids) is a very popular way to document your day in a non-obtrusive fashion while capturing all the emotion and events as they unfold.

Conservative photography (AKA formal portraits) usually consists of groups that are organized and posed. They are usually shot after the ceremony but before the reception but can take place at any point when there is “down time” and the groups can be assembled.

Artistic photography is an unconventional, edgy way of presenting lasting memories. The way the photo and/or subjects are cropped, the use of special filters and creativeness with location are just a few examples.

After you have decided which style(s) you prefer, you can research photographers and schedule interviews. You can find photographers through online searches, regional wedding directories and specialty magazines and books. Before setting up the interview, email or call with these questions first.

Questions to Ask Before the Interview

“Do you have my particular date available?” There’s really no sense continuing if they are already booked.

“What photography style(s) do you shoot?”

“Where will we meet for an interview?” Find out if you will be meeting at his/her studio office or if you will be meeting in a neutral location. It is easier to confirm if you are dealing with a legitimate business when you have seen a physical address associated with it.

“How long have you been in business?” This answer will give you a better understanding of whether or not you want to proceed based on their experience level.
Ask the photographer to send his/her references and any unsolicited kudos of any kind that you can check up on before the interview.

During the interview, expect to learn about the pricing and packages available, see samples of the photographer’s work and get a feel for his/her personality. Liking his/her personality is important because you will all be spending a lot of time together on your special day; therefore, you need to find someone that you “click” with and who won’t pressure or intimidate you.

Take this list of questions with you to ensure you are getting a professional, high-quality photographer.

Questions to Ask the Photographer During an Interview

“How many weddings have you shot in the last few years?” Even though they may have been in business for awhile, ensure they have shot a number of weddings that complement the number of years they have been in experience.

“How many weddings have you booked so far this year?”

“Are you affiliated with any professional organizations?” Although not a requirement, belonging to organizations such as the Digital Wedding Forum and Professional Photographer’s Association to name a few, demonstrate the photographer’s desire to remain current with industry standards and technology.

If you know your venue: “Have you shot at my specific venue?” If so, there is value because he/she already knows the logistics.

If the photographer has not shot at your venue before: “Will we have a planning meeting?” This is a meeting where you and the photographer meet on location ahead of time to go over the specifics of the ceremony and/or reception. This is very valuable because the photographer needs to understand how much space he/she will have to work with as well as an understanding of light and other technical aspects.

Something to consider is whether or not you will want videography. There are at least two benefits to hiring a company like NH Images who offers both stills and video. For one, if you hire the photographer and videographer from the same company, chances are good that you will save money because they often offer package deals. Secondly, when hiring from the same company, you can be confident that the still photographer and videographer have worked together before and will stay out of each other’s way. Hiring the photo/video team from the same company makes for a smoother day and cleaner end result.

Final Steps

Expect to sign a contract and read it thoroughly. Make sure that you understand the policy regarding deposits in the event you must cancel. Also, make sure there is a contingency plan clearly outlined in the event an emergency arises and the photographer cannot perform his/her duties. Oftentimes, there will be a statement in the contract explaining a backup photographer. Make sure this exists and that there is a backup plan in writing. You can also expect to pay approximately 25 to 50 percent at the time of the contract signing with the remainder due by the wedding.

Most of the time the photographer will not be able to “hold” the date for you while you decide to hire him/her. Usually, only a deposit will secure the date. Keep in mind, holiday and long weekends are especially popular and will be the first to book. When meeting with the photographer, if you determine that he/she is reputable, has a great personality and falls within your budget, book that person immediately. Chances are good that if you are planning twelve months in advance, so are other determined brides-to-be.

Candy Osborne is a freelance writer and former photojournalist with experience hiring photographers. NH Images is a reputable wedding photography and videography company for couples planning weddings in the New England area and beyond.

Submitted by Candy Osborne, www.nhimages.com

Make Your Tight Wedding Budget Your Greatest Asset!

2011-02-02T11:00:00.000-05:00

Tight wedding budget got you down? We know what you mean! As planners of our own beautiful wedding on a budget of just $2,000, we understand the challenges facing you.

Planning a wedding on a tight budget need not tie your stomach up in knots. In fact, your tight budget can make your wedding truly remarkable!

Do you want to know how to make your tight budget a major ally instead of your adversary? How would you like to stop hating your budget restrictions and start appreciating the advantages you have over other wedding planners?

To know this freedom, you need to know the positives to planning your wedding on a tight budget. Then, simply make the choice to major on those positives to achieve the
wonderful wedding of your dreams. Focusing on the helpful aspects of your budget will lead you to the amazing side benefits that you never knew accompanied your wedding budget.

In this article, we look at several of the great assets your tight budget can give your wedding planning.

Right at the top of the list we find the value of increased creativity that comes with your tight budget. As the saying goes, necessity is the mother of invention. The needy wedding planner discovers her inventive, creative wedding planning skills. Your wedding will not turn out like another "cookie cutter" wedding. Instead, your budget will force you to think outside of the airtight box that suffocates most
weddings.

So go ahead and let those creative juices flow! Instead of planning an ordinary wedding, plan an extraordinary wedding!

As a wedding planner who must abide by a tight budget, you will not find yourself ordering straight out of the wedding catalog. Instead of simply ordering a pre-made, one-size-fits-all wedding, you will choose to piece together a wedding that truly reflects your personality. Your wedding will truly be YOUR wedding!

Relax, let your hair down! Allow your personality to permeate your wedding planning. Welcome to your wedding! Traditions and magazines know about weddings in general but they don't know about your wedding!

As a wedding planner on a strict budget, you will have good reason to rely on your family and friends for support. Instead of simply plopping down a chunk of change and
letting the professionals handle everything for you, you will benefit from working with your family and friends to bring your wedding dreams into reality.

Every wedding event requires a community for its success. Your budget will help you keep your community involved all the way through the planning process to your wedding day! With your friends and family involved in your wedding planning, you will find your wedding to be extra special to you and your community.

Since you cannot afford the fees charged by the professionals, you carefully plan your event to reflect your personality and keep your family involved. You also put lots of your own creativity into the wedding. Your creativity, personality, and community all infuse themselves into your wedding planning and two more advantages emerge from your tight budget:

A sense of ownership pervades your planning experience. Your wedding really feels like your wedding to you since you created it and poured yourself into it. Your sense of ownership will in turn produce a great sense of satisfaction in you as you realize that you created a great master piece - your wedding day.

In the end, your budget can help produce for your wedding these five assets: creativity, personality, community, ownership, and satisfaction. By focusing on these five positives, your budget will take its place among your most powerful wedding planning aids. You must live with your budget limitations anyway. Why fight it? Let your budget work for you!

Look on the web and you will find many helpful resources out there, such as our blog and book, just waiting to help you make your wedding budget work for you. Do not settle for anything less than the beautiful wedding of your dreams!

Show Your Budget Who Is In Charge! Get Tim and Lisa's FREE eBook, visit their blog for daily advice, and see how they planned the wedding of their dreams for just $2,000.

Submitted by Tim and Lisa Spooner, www.weddingplanningonabudget.com

DIY Wedding Flower Guide

2011-02-01T11:00:00.000-05:00

When it comes to choosing wedding flowers, many brides may know the wedding flower they want in their own bouquet, but are a little mystified about the rest of the wedding flowers needed to fill out the ceremony and reception.

While you can leave all your wedding flower selections in the hands of a capable professional florist and get great results, you may want to take a more hands on approach. We hope this wedding flower guide will help making planning your most special day just a little easier.

Your first decision should be whether you plan to use a professional florist to create a wedding flower arrangement and bouquets, or if you would rather visit a wholesale wedding flower retailer and order flowers to make your own bridal bouquets, boutonnieres and so forth.

If you are the creative type, a simple floral craft book will give you all the tips and tool lists necessary to create your own custom wedding flowers that reflect your personal style. It's a good idea to purchase some flowers to practice with ahead of time to make sure you'll be happy with your results. Whatever you decide, there are some standard traditions and suggestions to help make sure you've covered all your wedding flower needs.

Wedding Flower Guide

Wedding flowers for the church would include:

* Altar wedding flower arrangements
* Pew markers/decorations

Wedding flowers for the reception would include:

* Wedding flower arrangement for the bridal table
* Table centerpieces
* Buffet table decorations

Wedding flowers for the bridal party would include:

* Bridal bouquet
* Small Bridal bouquet to toss
* Groom's boutonniere
* Maid/Matron of Honor bouquet
* Bridesmaid bouquets
* Best Man boutonniere
* Groomsman boutonnieres
* Flower Girl bouquet or petal basket
* Mother of the Bride/Groom corsages
* Father of the Bride/Groom boutonnieres
* Step-parent corsages/boutonnieres
* Grandparent corsages/boutonnieres

A Few Extra Wedding Flower Tips

Maid/Matron of Honor wedding bouquets should be slightly more elaborate or in a different color shade than the rest of the bridesmaid wedding bouquets.

The Best Man boutonniere should be slightly more elaborate than the rest of the groomsmen boutonnieres.

The corsages/boutonnieres for the parents should differ slightly from the step-parents, and all grandparent corsages/boutonnieres should be different as well. It makes it easier for guests to keep track of who's who.

Wedding flower arrangements from the church can be transferred to the reception hall for double duty.

Bridesmaid wedding bouquets could be set in waiting vases and used as decoration for the bridal table.

Remember, these are just wedding flower guidelines. When it comes to your special day, your wedding flower selections and arrangements should reflect your personal taste and style. You can keep things simple or get as elaborate as you like, as long as your wedding flowers help you create the perfectly romantic wedding day you've always dreamed of.

Submitted by Muzrak Maksidov

Informal Wedding Ideas

2011-01-05T11:00:00.000-05:00

Looking to stray away from the traditional wedding? Here are some fun ideas to make your wedding unique and comfortable.

How to Pull off a Jeans-Friendly Wedding

You and your fiancé have a story completely unique to the two of you – how you met, how you fell in love, and how you got engaged. How you get married should also be unique and not every couple is a 5-foot train down the aisle of a cathedral type of couple. If you’re the kind of couple that would like to see your guests wearing jeans and flip flops rather than chinos and loafers, then follow these tips for making your entire wedding a pro-jeans zone.

Have your bridal party wear jeans

Rather than have your bridesmaids wear a dress that they will simply hide in the back of their closet after the wedding, put them in dark skinny jeans with a brightly colored empire-waist mini dress and a pair of black flats. Not only will it set the tone for the rest of the guests, but you as the bride will stand out even more against their fresh and modern look. And how cute will your ring bearer look wearing a pair of dark jeans and Converse?

Don’t have a reception – have a gigantic party

Have your reception at a venue where beach volleyball, croquet, and bocce ball are strongly encouraged and a part of the fun! On the invitation make sure your guests know that your reception will be a full contact sport and they should dress accordingly. No one will wear a suit and tie when they know that the cuisine includes BBQ ribs and that the bride and groom will be initiating a boys vs. girls softball game.

Put the dress code on the wedding invitation

We’ve all received the wedding invitations that say “black tie encouraged” or “black tie required”. Play off the wording and write “board shorts encouraged” or “black tie forbidden.” A few of your guests might get confused and call you asking if it’s a typo, but this will provide you with a chance to spread the dress code word of mouth.

Provide a dress up box for those that want to feel fancy

Photo booths that utilize dress up boxes are all the rage, but why reserve the feather boas, mustaches, and bow ties for the photo booth? Make sure each table has fake pearls, plastic top hats, and tacky cummerbunds so that when the naysayers (like your cousin Janice) scoff at the lack of class that your jean clad bridesmaids exhibit, you can conga line past them – while wearing a sparkly purple top hat. Now that’s classy.

Personalize your wedding

The most important thing to remember is to plan a wedding that encapsulates your personality as a couple. While having a ceremony that is simultaneously planned down to the detail and casual might seem like a contradiction in terms, you and your fiancé get to write the story of your wedding. So be you! It’s your wedding…wear jeans if you want to.

About the author: Suzanne Townsend is a blogging Seattlile with a healthy obsession with denim. She loves helping her friends with wedding ideas that are unique to their couple personality.

Happy New Year 2011

2011-01-01T11:00:00.000-05:00

Happy New Year! Welcome to our new wedding blog, ideas, news for the bride and groom. Stay tuned for weekly wedding planning tips.

Top 100 Wedding Blogs

2010-12-31T13:11:00.000-05:00

Welcome to the Top 100 Wedding Blogs of 2010.

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The Wedding Seating Chart

2010-12-29T11:00:00.000-05:00

Do I need a Seating Chart?

If you have a small, informal reception, you may not feel you need a plan. However for larger numbers, or a sit down meal, both you and your guests may benefit from a seating chart. Guests are saved from a mad panic of trying to find a seat on a table with their friends/family and you can place people where they’ll be happiest! The wedding meal may last for 2-3 hours and is a significant part of the day. If your guests are sitting with people they get along with, it will make a big difference to their overall enjoyment of the day.

There are a number of options for the seating plan:

· No plan at all – best for stand up buffets or small and informal events.
· Assign guests to tables – you allocate guests to tables but the choice of seat is theirs.
· Assign guests to seats – you specify the seats at which each guest will sit.

If you remember only one thing… Do what you think would make you and your guests most comfortable.

The Head Table Dilemma

While the traditional head table (Bride and Groom seated at a long table flanked by the wedding party) is still favored by most, alternatives are often being used. The traditional layout is as follows:

There are alternative arrangements – such as including parents/godparents or clergy on the table. Or you might want to include partners of the bridal party. Alternatively, you may want to avoid the top table altogether and have a romantic table for two.

Top Tips for Other Tables

1. Seating tables with just one family group will let them relax, but won’t do much to encourage mingling. However, a table where no one knows anyone else might be a bit daunting for most people! Try and arrange a mix on each table – so everyone knows a few people. By thinking about guests’ ages and interests you can make sure that each table is likely to get on and have fun!

2. Where to sit singles can also create a dilemma. On one hand you might want to try out a little matchmaking, but on the other, this could be rather uncomfortable and awkward for your guests (it might be very obvious too!). Certainly avoid a ‘singles’ table but generally do whatever you feel is best for your guests.

3. If you are using round tables, the general etiquette is to seat males and females alternately around the table. If you are using long tables, seat couples opposite one another and then alternate male/females along the table.

4. The tables closest to the Bride and Groom should be reserved for the closest friends and family.

5. Give each table a name or number. Table names could be themed - for example people, objects or places that are relevant to you as a couple. Names also remove the perceived hierarchy of tables. You should create a name card for each table (your venue may do this for you) so that guests can easily find their table.

6. If you are assigning guests to specific seats you should create name place cards. These could also show menu choices (if you are offering them) or indicate vegetarians. The waiting staff will really appreciate this and it will allow them to give a more seamless service. You should also give a paper copy of your plan to the venue so that they can see where people are seated.

Creating the Chart

Start arranging your seating plan early. You can start doing this before all your RSVPs have come in as most of your close friends and family will probably be definitely attending, even if they haven’t formally replied yet.

To begin creating your arrangement, get a general idea from your venue how tables will be arranged in the room, determine whether you’ll be using round or long tables or a mixture of both, and work out how many people you can sit at each table.

Arranging the chart can take a long time and might involve numerous revisions. Many people cut up pieces of paper for each guest and table and use these to try out different layouts. Thankfully, over the last few years software (web-based, for download or even Excel spreadsheets) has become available to make the task simpler. It can save you not only hours of your time but also reduce the stress in the lead up to the big day by simplifying last minute changes.

Submitted by Adam Leyton, www.toptableplanner.com, Leeds, UK

If Money Matters

2010-12-29T10:00:00.000-05:00

True enough, a wedding is the most difficult event to plan and prepare for. And it gets even more challenging if the budget is tight. But don't fret, we have come up with some tips to help you stay on track money-wise.

1. Limit your invites to the most important people in your life. Less guests less expenses.

2. The venue eats up a huge percentage of the budget so be wise and practical when selecting your venue. If possible, have both the ceremony and the reception in one place to minimize your cost.

3. Resist the urge to pick foods that are costly i.e. lobsters, steaks. You can still impress your guests with less expensive food.

4. Keep your invitation simple. If you have the time or extra helping hands, you may even want to consider making the invitation yourself. You can get wedding invitation kits from wedding supply stores or even your local craft store.

5. When decorating the venue, keep the use of flowers to a minimum. They are costly. Use candles (they go a long way when it comes to giving life to a venue), tulles and ribbons as substitutes.

6. While it is nice to be entertained by a live band, recorded music will do just fine.

7. Forget about hiring an emcee. Ask a family member or a friend to emcee instead.

8. Ask yourself if you really want your wedding on a film. Will you spend some time after the wedding to watch it? Or will the video end up in your grandmother's chest in the attic?

9. Opt for a less extravagant cake. Get a 2-tiered cake instead of a 4- or 3-tiered cake. Another option is mini cakes arranged in a layered cake rack.

10. Limit the champagne to the toast. Instead of wine, serve less expensive drinks.

11. Forget about hiring a wedding planner. You can still get the job done with the help of family members and friends.

12. Instead of hiring a limousine, look for alternative means of transport i.e. a friend's Bentley, your fathers Mercedes.

13. Always haggle for a lower price with the vendors. Since they expect some negotiations to happen, they would most often give a quote that is higher than what they are willing to accept.

Johanna Docena is the owner of Docena Bridal, an online wedding store that sells bridal jewelries and personalized attendant gifts.

Submitted by Johanna Docena, www.docenabridal.com

Bali A Tropical Paradise

2010-12-29T09:00:00.001-05:00

Bali is to Asia as the Hawaii islands are to the United States: a gorgeous tropical destination whose economy exists almost solely to serve the needs and dreams of tourists. In the 1920s the former Dutch colony began to gain a reputation as a destination for cruise ships, and word of its beauty spread.

Bali's culture is an interesting contrast to the main island of Java. The ethnic Balinese people are for the most part Hindu. The wave of Islam that swept through much of Indonesia bypassed Bali. While the Hinduism they practice is fundamentally the same as in India, the customs and daily practices are unique.

On the island of Bali the cultural differences with respect to Indian Hinduism can be found in their temple styles, ceremonial offerings, rites and rituals. Balinese cultural rites are based on the belief in reincarnation.

The society in Bali is organized strictly according to Hindu caste system. Peoples name grants a special place to them in the society. The Hinduism practiced in Bali is a mixture of Hindu, Buddhist and their own indigenous customs. These Hindu and Buddhist customs would have reached the island centuries ago. Though in the present day the Buddhist population is very less.

Bali was a Dutch colony until World War II, when the Japanese overtook the island. Indonesia gained independence in 1949. Prior to Dutch control, Bali was ruled by its own leaders as well as by Java. People lived on Bali during prehistoric times, so the Balinese people today are descendants of millennia of customs and traditions.

After independence, the communist took charge of the affairs of the islands and progress was little or slow. It was in 1965 that General Suharto came to power and placed the islands on the path to progress. He initiated a long movement against the communists that resulted in the killing of about 50,000 people. It was during his rule that the country progressed and the tourisms industry really grew. The economy of Bali revolves around
agriculture and tourism.

Still, after these cultural interruptions, Balinese culture remains unique and is kind of an oasis in Indonesia. Although neighboring Java has great influence and the Suharto regime uprooted many traditional communities, Bali is still a place of ancient tradition and Hindu culture rooted in agriculture and tourism. However, the Balinese do not take this steadfastness of their culture for granted. They honor it every day, and organizations exist to "conserve" Balinese culture and historical treasures for the future.

Tania Montmon is the operator and webmaster of Bali Inc., which is the premier resource for Bali information.

Submitted by Tania Montmon, www.fptbali.com

The Valuable Stone

2010-12-29T08:00:00.000-05:00

Diamonds are forever - so was stated by James Bond and accepted as truth by all women the world over. Mining for diamonds traces its roots to 800 B.C. in India. Smart mine owners of yesterday spread a myth that diamonds are poisonous; this prevented theft by miners through swallowing diamonds and taking them out of the mine. Initially, diamonds were seen as a talisman to ward off evil and also as a good luck charm.

The formation of a diamond, a transparent form of pure carbon, takes billions of years and takes place under great heat and pressure well below sea level. In fact, each diamond is around three billion years old. Because diamonds crystallize at such high pressures, they are created deep within the earth, up to 200 kilometers.

They come to the surface of the earth along with the hot magna shot out by volcanoes. The oldest part of the continent is the place where they are generally found. Diamonds may as well be found in areas where Red Garnets are found. This is because the Garnet also goes through a similar process to be formed.

Diamonds originate from other places too. Plate tectonics cause collisions between continents that bring pieces of earth's crust up to the surface and, as a result, diamonds. Also, meteor impacts create great pressure and diamonds. Diamonds are strong and unbreakable, the hardest mineral around, hence their name which derives from the Greek: "unconquerable".

A beautiful one-carat diamond comes from 250 tons of ore that has been mined and processed. Today, around 25 countries supply the world with diamonds, with the majority coming from Africa, Russia, Australia, and Canada. South Africa is a great source of luxury diamonds.

Mining for Diamonds

Diamonds may be found in different places and different forms. Some of the likely places where diamonds may be found are:

- Along traces of dried ancient waterways and present rivers (dry diggings)
- In sand and gravel (wet digging)
- Beach and marine deposits
- Open pit mining

Diamonds are extensively used in all walks of life and industry. While about 20 percent of mined diamonds are used in jewelry, the rest are used in the industry. Some industrial uses are as drill bits and cutting tools, in machinery, mineral services, stone and ceramic products, abrasives, construction, and transportation equipment. The diamond is truly a possession that lasts forever.

Submitted by Mandes Dosdia, www.reeds.com

Romancing The Green

2010-12-29T07:00:00.000-05:00

Unite Exotic Adventure and Eco Friendly with a Green Honeymoon.

Golfo Dulce – Osa Peninsula, Costa Rica

Costa Rica’s Pacific coast has been described by National Geographic Magazine as ‘the most biologically intense place on earth.’ This Eden-like setting is an idyllic, remote location for a romantic and adventurous honeymoon and a perfect spot to make it a Green one where you can not only unite two hearts into one, but also show your desire for working together towards a more sustainable planet.

Imagine hiking with your new partner to a secluded swimming hole with a cascading waterfall in the rainforest? Or peacefully kayaking in one of only four tropical fjords in the world? The Golfo Dulce, or the Sweet Gulf, off the Osa Peninsula in Costa Rica offers a unique opportunity for both a beach and a rainforest honeymoon in one location. The gulf is surrounded by protected rainforest preserves, national parks, biological corridors and sanctuaries with hiking trails and a myriad of wildlife easily viewed wildlife.

A Dream Honeymoon

Though teeming with natural beauty, the Osa Peninsula is still far enough off the beaten track so you’ll not be surrounded by hordes of other travelers. Most resorts are accessible only by boat. One such resort, Playa Nicuesa Rainforest Lodge, has the tranquil waters and unspoiled beaches of the gulf at its front door, and its 165-acre rainforest preserve and the lush Piedras Blancas National Park out back. If you’re looking for a private escape for your adventurous honeymoon, this may be the place for you.

The small size of Playa Nicuesa allows for an intimate experience with nature. Its cabins, guestrooms and the main lodge are uniquely designed to create a seamless and enjoyable transition between the indoors and outdoors. The lodge’s five cabins are all very private and great for couples seeking unique accommodation, including a special garden open air shower surrounded by nature.

Playa Nicuesa’s honeymoon package offers intimate rainforest cabins, aromatherapy massages, and candlelit dinners on the lodge’s rainforest terrace, and a selection of adventure activities, such as a private hike with a naturalist guide to a hidden waterfall, kayaking, mangrove river tours, snorkeling, fishing and bird watching. The package includes meals with an emphasis on local cuisine and fresh fish, tropical fruits and vegetables. If you want a little more room, a Cabin Suite is yours for the asking.

Playa Nicuesa’s green philosophy stands out. They understand the fragility and value of the beauty and nature that surrounds them, and have adopted strong environmental practices and policies. They practice sustainable, low-emission living and have adopted carbon neutrality as a way of life.

Their conservation program protects 95 per cent of its 65 hectare (165 acres) rainforest property in an undeveloped and natural condition. They also use clean energy powered by solar panels to run the majority of the lodge’s electrical service, and candles are used throughout the lodge to maintain the natural experience.

Playa Nicuesa Lodge has also earned a FONAFIFO (Costa Rica’s official carbon credits foundation) certification for offsetting their use of fossil fuel by purchasing carbon credits and has begun the official process to be certified a Carbon Neutral Business. Guests can offset the carbon footprints from their flights to Costa Rica by purchasing carbon credits with FONAFIFO that will be used to reforest and preserve the Golfo Dulce/Osa Peninsula.

Honeymoon couples can also plant their own hardwood tree to symbolize their start of their own marriage and contribute to the lodges Osa Peninsula conservation program that donated $10,000 to the Nature Conservancy last year. A perfect combination for romancing the green.

Playa Nicuesa also offers special rates to rent the entire lodge, if you are looking for a wedding venue. This option includes a nature guides, chef, boat captain and housekeeping, as well as unlimited use of preserve trails, kayaks, windsurfers, snorkeling equipment and fishing gear. The lodge can accommodate 22 guests.

If you want to go off on our own adventure the lodge will set you up with a delicious packed lunch, a bottle of wine and some snorkeling equipment to put in your kayak and go off for a day of exploring private beaches and snorkeling spots.

The Golfo Dulce

Corcovado National Park, Piedras Blancas National Park, and private reserves create a protected biological corridor around the gulf, and an extraordinary large trail system for hiking and exploring the incredibly bio-diverse rainforest. The region is only accessible by boat, so you know you’ll be able to experience nature intact complete with howler monkeys, over 250 types of birds including toucans and parrots, butterflies, coati, iguanas, lizards, tree frogs and much more.

Golfo Dulce, protected from the open Pacific by the Osa Peninsula, is home to groups of whales and at least three types of dolphins, as well as sea turtles, sea birds and other marine life. The gulf, the tenth deepest in the world, is a great place for kayaking, snorkeling, fishing, windsurfing, sailing or surfing. Its tranquil waters are pleasant for sailing and windsurfing, and excellent for snorkeling and fishing. The lodge has its own boats and local guides to take you out for a variety of tours including a private sunset boat tour of the Gulf or a variety of fishing trips.

The Golfo Dulce and Playa Nicuesa Lodge are a perfect combination for romancing the green.

Submitted by Margo Malcolm, www.nicuesalodge.com

Wedding Fitness Tips

2010-12-28T11:00:00.000-05:00

Toning up and slimming down for your wedding

Ah, a topic of interest (and possibly trepidation) for many brides … and grooms, too. I know my fiancee has a dress she bought 20 years ago that she wants to fit into by our wedding day. And although I don’t have a certain outfit I need to squeeze into, like most guys, I have an unspoken vanity about my body and weight and would love to be able to take off my shirt without sucking in my stomach.

My fiancée and I are getting married in November, and we both are trying to tone up for the wedding. A few years ago, we both decided that we were getting a bit too lumpy (we both work 10-hour days and are almost obsessively busy) and decided we needed to make a lifestyle change or we were going to end up like some of the contestants on The Biggest Loser (which, incidentally, is a fantastic and inspiring TV show). So we signed on with a personal trainer friend of mine.

Within a few months, we both were in the best shape of our lives, but not without some sacrifice and fatigue. Over the last year, we have stuck with the program pretty well, but have fallen off a bit recently. But the great thing is that we have the tools and knowledge be learned from our trainer and are putting them to use to start toning ourselves for our wedding.

So what did we learn from our training regimen? If I was doing it all over again, here’s what I would do:

1. If you can afford it, hire a trainer to set up a program for you and then have them work you out for a month or two - After a couple months, you pretty much know the routine and can do it yourself once you start to see results (a motivating factor).

2. If you can’t afford to hire a trainer, consult books written by trainers and create your own routine – Often people go to the gym with the grand intention of putting in a long, sweaty workout but instead walk on the treadmill for half an hour. This won’t get it done, so make sure you have a strenuous routine mapped out before you hit the gym, and vary it up (see Step 3). You need to at least have 20-30 minutes of high-intensity cardio and another 20-30 minutes of weight/resistance training to start to see results … and don’t let anyone tell you any different.

3. Don’t starve yourself while working out - There’s lots of places online where you can find healthy meal plans. Just make sure you get enough to eat, because your body won’t burn off as many calories if it’s in starvation/conservation mode. And take it from us … not eating enough while you are working out strenuously makes you very, very grumpy (also bad for a relationship). We found smaller mealtime meals and lots of protein-heavy snacks helped keep us happier.

4. Mix it up - We found that doing the same exercises every time you work out makes the gym seem like a task. So mix up your exercises … take an aerobic or boot camp class, ride your bike, take a jog, swim, play basketball, whatever.

5. Incorporate lifting into your routine - I know I’m a guy, and guys are supposed to like lifting weights, but I’ve always hated it (and I never had an aspiration to be one of those muscle-bound steakheads you see at the gym lifting like 500 lbs over their heads). But I started lifting lower weights at higher reps, and it makes lifting more of an aerobic activity. And lifting weights is proven to help drop fat and increase muscle mass.

6. Do it together - I think this was the main reason why we have stuck with our program. We started exercising together, learned all the routines from our trainer, ate the same healthy kinds of food, and generally were there to kick each other’s butt when somebody said “Screw this. I’m sore, so I’m going to skip today.”

Jeff Kear is co-owner of My Wedding Workbook, the next-generation free online wedding planner and organizer that’s comprehensive, easy-to-use and helps brides-to-be easily organize and manage all their wedding details, including budgets, guest lists, calendars, RSVPs, gifts and more.

Submitted by Jeff Kear, www.myweddingworkbook.com

Planning A Green Wedding

2010-12-28T10:00:00.000-05:00

6 steps to planning an earth-friendly wedding

Global warming. Holes in the ozone layer. Extinction of species. Climate shifts. The side effects of our use of fossil fuels and a century of conspicuous consumption are readily apparent, and only by changing our ways can we begin to reverse the process that brought us to where we are today.

Many people are already doing what they can to preserve the environment by recycling, composting, using green or recycled products, buying natural or organic foods (or even growing their own) and cutting energy consumption through a number of means. If you’re a green-leaning bride or groom and want to extend your conservation efforts to your wedding, here are a few things you can do to ensure the only mark your wedding leaves is on the minds of your guests. Call it wedding planning with a decidedly green perspective.

1. Reduce your paper usage
Elaborate printed wedding invitations and save-the-dates are a time-honored tradition in announcing weddings, but they are also resource intensive. Now there are many e-mail programs and services available that allow you to send creative e-invitations from your computer, saving paper as well as the fuel required to deliver all those printed missives.

In addition, there are many paper products used at weddings and receptions (programs, napkins, table coverings, etc.). Find out if there are viable alternatives to these products or if you can use recycled versions.

2. Minimize and streamline guest travel
Take a moment to think of all the guests attending your wedding and the distances they will have to cover in getting there. That’s probably quite a bit of fuel. In fact, airline travel is one of the most fuel-intensive methods of travel period, and if your guests are travelling one or two people to a car, that isn’t exactly efficient, either.

One way you can cut down on the energy consumed through guest travel is to arrange carpools for your guests travelling from the same areas. In addition, you can contract vans or shuttles to haul groups of guests from your hotel, ceremony and reception locations to mitigate having everyone driving separate cars to each destination.

3. Use recycled or re-useable items whenever possible
Instead of buying decorations that will be thrown away after one use, rent your decorations from a local rental vendor so that they can be reused. Or instead of wasting rice or releasing helium balloons when you leave the church, use biodegradable confetti that will quickly turn to compost. Whatever wedding product you need, there’s probably a green alternative now being offered.

4. Take a green approach to wedding gifts
Unfortunately, many of the gifts on the typical wedding registry come enclosed by lots of earth-unfriendly packaging, and sometimes the gifts themselves may not have been made with eco-friendly processes. When filling our your registry, take the extra time to make sure your desired gifts are as kind to the environment as you are. In addition, forego all the fancy wrapping paper and instruct your guests to either leave your gift unwrapped or to wrap it in newsprint.

5. Select green vendors
Many green vendors often have earth-friendly practices that will make a big difference when it comes to conserving the environment. For example, photographers can shoot with digital equipment instead of using film, and they can also preview your shots electronically instead of printing them all out for your initial review. And caterers can use organic or naturally grown produce and range-fed meats.

6. Offset your carbon footprint with carbon credits
No wedding is going to be completely off the grid, and it’s virtually impossible in your wedding planning to eliminate all consumption. So for the amount of carbon that you will use, you can purchase what are called carbon credits to offset your wedding’s carbon footprint. Carbon credits can be purchased from organizations that invest in carbon reduction products, so every credit you purchase goes to counterbalancing the carbon you have used or will use. TerraPass is such a company and has a calculator for determining the carbon usage of a wedding at www.terrapass.com/wedding/.

Jeff Kear is co-owner of My Wedding Workbook, the next-generation online wedding planning software that’s free, easy-to-use and helps engaged couples manage every wedding detail, from your engagement to your honeymoon and everything in between.

Submitted by Jeff Kear, www.myweddingworkbook.com

Wedding Magician

2010-12-28T09:00:00.000-05:00

Weddings are magical occasions for all involved but to bring that extra spark of enchantment, you should look into hiring a magician" to perform at your wedding reception. Here are 5 great reasons to hire a magician.

Wedding Entertainment Ideas: Why have a magician at your wedding?

When it comes to organising your wedding party, you have a wide range of options. You could have a simple event or a themed party, perhaps featuring 60s, beach, Bond, or medieval themes. Or you could have a casino or celebrity look a like. As for decor you could feature an ice sculpture or chocolate fountain.

You'll need music of course and you have the choice of a live band, jazz band or a DJ laying down disco beats. Or your might prefer a string quartet, harpist, singer, piper or pianist.

You could employ a toastmaster to be the master of ceremonies and keeps the event moving along. And on the all-important entertainment front, you could hire a caricaturist or silhouette artist. But for a wedding party that really goes with a bang, you can't beat a magician.

When we say magician, we're not talking about a man on a stage pulling a white rabbit out of a hat. We're talking about a modern interactive close-up magician. This magician moves among the tables or groups of people and entertains them with a sophisticated magic routine. Here are 5 great reasons why having a magician at your wedding reception will make it a rousing success.

Firstly, nothing gets a wedding party swinging quite like a magic routine. It provides an immediate spark to the atmosphere, creating a genuine buzz of excitement. Along with tucking into the food, swilling down the champagne and dancing to the band, your guests will be be delighted to find you've arranged something special. Imagine their cries of surprised joy when the magician begins to weave his way through the tables and groups of guests bringing that special touch to the occasion. By personalising his act for each group, the magician is perfect for building and maintaining the relaxed atmosphere that makes every wedding party a success.

This means that magic acts are great for breaking the ice and bringing people together. Many of the magician's tricks require audience participation which further delights the guests. It often creates an ambiance of friendly competition and results in copious laughter and a flow of playful banter. Enjoying and participating in magic tricks forges a sense of community and shared experience that is possible in few other ways. And it also draws people out of themselves so that even the shyer guests start participating and enjoying themselves more.

On a purely practical level, your magician can fill in if things get off schedule. Wedding parties are complex affairs and many things can go wrong. Perhaps the guest of honour is delayed in the traffic. Or if the best man is late for his speech for example, the magician can keep the guests enthralled while waiting. Or if the food's delayed, what better way to keep your guests happy than with a magic routine? In this way he can take a lot of the stress off the host and hostess by keeping the guests entertained as needed.

But ultimately, the real magic of the magician is to create that unique ambiance and the feeling that anything is possible. And on your wedding day, that's exactly the mood you need to make it perfect.

So make sure you get a magician for your wedding and you'll be sure of the event of a lifetime. Everyone loves a magic act. Your magician will appeal to guests of all ages and both genders. Getting a magician for your wedding reception is surprisingly affordable and in addition to the benefits above, will make your wedding party the talk of the town.

Submitted by David Willmott, www.davidwillmott.com

Wedding Dress Trends – Top Styles For The Modern Bride

2010-12-28T08:00:00.000-05:00

Reflecting the overall trend of breaking away from tradition and steadfast rules, modern brides are choosing wedding gowns that reflect their personality and vision, not necessarily their grandmother's. The only rule for wedding dress style these days is to choose one that suits you. Whether that means wearing a gold wedding dress, trouser suit or sundress, go with it! And even if you are more traditional and have always envisioned yourself as the fairy princess in the white satin ball gown, you needn't worry about being perceived as old fashioned or "not with the times." The modern "rule" for wedding dress style is to choose something that makes you feel comfortable and beautiful on your day.

That said, although certain traditional dress styles are always popular, bridal fashion does follow mainstream fashion to some extent. If you are looking for something a little more contemporary or "now," consider turning to the catwalks for inspiration.

The currently popular 20s-and floral-style dresses can be easily incorporated into a wedding dress. Accessories, such as chandelier earrings, can also transfer from the catwalks to comprise your wedding look. Try to avoid fashion that will date quickly, however, as you will want to display your wedding photographs for a long time. As a general rule, keep your wedding ensemble fashionably forward, not overly trendy.

Today's Hot Wedding Dress Trends

Add Some Color

Using a wedding dress to bring out a colorful personality, modern brides are not afraid to add a splash of color to the traditional white gown. Whether that means adding a colored ribbon or piece of jewelry or foregoing the white wedding dress all together, today's brides find inventive ways to incorporate color into their wedding attire. Particularly popular shades are blue, pink, cappuccino and champagne.

Lace Up

Lace has made a recent comeback, exuding a look vintage romance that is feminine, yet not overdone. Many brides are enchanted by lace, envisioning a majestic day in a lush green garden.

Magnificent Embroidery

For an ultra elegant, opulent feel, glamour girls savor wedding gowns adorned with intricate hand-embroidered details. This look warrants grand chandeliers, candlelight and an isle of red roses.

Ultra-Feminine

As seen on the runway, feminine details are making a big impact. Ribbons, ruffles, flowers and bows are finding their way back onto wedding dresses and taking femininity to a new level. Brides who envision themselves floating along the cobblestones of a historic mansion will love this look.

For more advice on planning your wedding day look, visit the complete wedding dress, attire and accessories guide at Elegala.com - Elegant Galas Made Simple.

Gala Weddings Magazine
Cori Russell, Editor
500 Carol Way NW, Atlanta, GA 30327
P 678.705.9407; F 603.610.0532
Offices in Portsmouth, NH and San Francisco, CA

Gala Weddings Magazine guides brides through the first months of engagement with a regional directory of the best venues and vendors in New England, along with planning articles and tools to help brides get started.

Submitted by Cori Russell, www.elegala.com

Slashing Wedding Food Costs

2010-12-28T07:00:00.000-05:00

The cost for food and drinks for your wedding can easily climb to several thousand dollars, but it doesn't have to. Here are several tips that will save you money and still provide you with the classy wedding you've dreamed of:

1. The biggest cost saver, whether you are using a caterer or planning the food yourself, is to schedule the wedding and reception at a time of day when a full sit-down meal won't be expected by guests. An afternoon/evening cocktail or dessert reception can save you thousands of dollars when compared with an elaborate dinner.

2. Next, be smart when planning beverages for your reception. An open bar can break the bank. Consider a classy champagne punch or a wine instead (or even an alcohol-free punch). And remember that it is always less expensive to purchase and serve the drinks yourself than to pay a caterer or bartender to do so.

3. Second to alcohol, the biggest food and beverage expense is usually meat for the wedding reception or dinner. Keeping meat to a minimum is another easy way to trim your wedding food costs. Choosing a vegetarian entree, a dish whose main ingredient is not meat, or a less expensive cut of meat are all wise decisions that will positively impact your food budget.

4. Another easy place to save money is on the wedding cake. Bakers and caterers often charge anywhere from $2-6 per slice to make and/or serve the wedding cake. For about $1 per slice, you can purchase a nice cake at a bakery and have a friend cut and serve it at the reception.

5. If you are well-organized and have a good support system of friends and family willing to help, you may wish to consider planning and making your own food for your reception. You can save several thousand dollars by doing so. And it's not as difficult as you may think. Food for a dessert reception, for example, can be made ahead and served cold the day of the wedding with little effort on anyone's part. For many brides, the extra work is worth the savings if it means more money to spend on the honeymoon or being able to afford a designer wedding gown.

The food for your wedding is one of the easiest expenses to slash, while still allowing the smart bride and groom to host a very nice affair. Be creative, ask questions, don't be afraid to ask for cheaper menu items, and do as much yourselves as you can handle, and you will be able to trim hundreds (if not thousands) from your wedding food costs.

Submitted by Kelly Howell, www.wedding-reception-food-ideas.com

8 Tips For Finding Cheap Wedding Jewelry

2010-12-27T11:00:00.000-05:00

If you are like most brides you have unplanned wedding expenses and must somehow reduce the budget. Fortunately, you can find a variety of wedding jewelry for less than you thought possible. Here are eight tips for doing so:

1. Buy replicas. From a distance and to the undiscerning eye, cubic zirconia and crystal are indistinguishable from real stones. If you have fallen in love with a piece of fine jewelry you cannot afford, a similar piece made with these less expensive materials can look exquisite.

2. Opt for silver or gold-plated jewelry instead of solid gold or platinum. To a casual observer, the difference in quality is not obvious.

3. Consider inexpensive pearls (freshwater cultured pearls are generally cheaper than other types). Or, buy pearl-shaped crystals.

4. Ask for a discount if you plan to buy several pieces. Also, it cannot hurt to make an offer on a piece. Designers, online stores, and other independents have some latitude when pricing their goods.

5. Buy on eBay. There is always a wide variety of inexpensive pieces available through auction or eBay stores. Inventory changes constantly, so return often if you do not find the right piece on your first visit.

6. Rent jewelry for your wedding. If you must have fine jewelry but cannot afford it, rent pieces for the ceremony and reception.

7. Make your own jewelry. You will enjoy the added benefit of complete customization. Craft stores like Ben Franklin and Hobby Lobby have aisles dedicated to jewelry-making supplies. You can also purchase supplies on eBay.

8. Consider borrowing. Wearing a piece from Mom, Aunt Ellen, or a special friend can add sentimental value to the wedding while doing wonders for a strained budget.

There you have it! Eight ways to ease budget strain and still wear the perfect jewelry ensemble on your big day.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more about wedding jewelry (shopping tips, tradition, lengths, stones, etc.) at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/jewelry

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Choosing Wedding Jewelry That's Right For You

2010-12-27T10:00:00.000-05:00

Whether you are going for subdued glamour or sparkly pizzazz, the right jewelry can add magic to your wedding day. Here are several ideas for choosing an ensemble that will enhance your wedding day look.

Heritage

If you are proud of your cultural heritage, family history, or religion, then show it. Whether it's a simple cross, Star of David, your grandmother's locket, or other special piece of jewelry, it will symbolize what's important to you and help make a wedding uniquely your own.

Jewel size and shape

The shape and size of stones can drastically change the look of a piece. Large, faceted stones create a formal look when set in silver or gold. If you are going for a sparkly, fairy tale wedding consider smaller stones, which reflect more light. For a traditional look, you can rarely go wrong with white, ivory, or pastel pearls.

Color

Color scheme is another consideration. Pearls, precious or semi-precious stones, Swarovski crystal, and cubic zirconia (CZ) are all available in a variety of colors.

* Most of us are aware of white, ivory, and pale pink pearls. Did you know you can also find pearls in lavender, coffee, black, gray, apricot, and other colors? Prices range from very inexpensive to exorbitant, depending on type, grade, and other factors.

* An elegant, formal wedding calls for diamonds, emeralds, rubies, sapphires or other precious stones.

* Semi-precious stones are also appropriate. Peridot, turquoise, moonstone, topaz, aquamarine, opal, azurite, agate, amethyst, bloodstone, coral, jade, garnet, and others are options.

* Swarovski crystals are another alternative to precious stones. The faceted crystals are available in 80+ colors. Swarovski also makes round pearls in several hues.

* CZ can add sparkle to a wedding and are very economical for those on a less generous budget. If you haven't considered cubic zirconia, look at some pieces. You may be pleasantly surprised. Quality has improved in recent years, and you can find most any color online.

You can also show off your personality by mixing colors. Pearls combined with other jewelry are gaining popularity. Try twisting a gold or silver chain with a pearl strand. Or, create a pennant for your pearls by attaching a cameo, pin, or even a clip-on earring. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination.

Metals

Platinum, white gold, silver, and yellow gold are all options. Platinum and white gold are nice, but if they are beyond your budget, silver is a wonderful alternative. Similarly, 10 karat or gold-plated jewelry looks very nice on a less-than-14-karat budget.

With so many options to choose from, you are sure to find exactly the right combination to make your dream wedding even dreamier!

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more about wedding jewelry (shopping tips, tradition, lengths, stones, etc.) at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/jewelry

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Your Dream Dress… Affordably

2010-12-27T09:00:00.000-05:00

For many brides, the entire bridal experience boils down to one thing: The bridal gown. People may forget about the food poisoning at the reception, the candles that almost set the church on fire and even Aunt Gertrude’s adventures at the open bar, but everyone remembers how a bride looked when she walked down the aisle. It’s a classic first impression. Unfortunately, in today’s economy, it’s an impression that’s becoming harder to make.

One affordable option is wedding dress rental. Granted, it’s an unconventional idea that may seem a bit shocking at first, but in reality wedding gown rental is the ideal way to achieve a million dollar look for a fraction of the cost. Think of it as the bride’s version of a tux rental. Wedding gown rental shops are specialty stores that make their money by offering repetitive high quality. Therefore, when you rent, you are only paying a small portion of the cost of the items. So that $3,000 gown that you had your eye on may only cost a few hundred dollars to rent.

Most bridal rental stores are very accommodating. Many don’t mind ordering a brand new dress for a client because the owners know that they will recoup the purchase price on future rentals. Also, if, after you wear the gown, you find that you can’t bear to give it back, most stores will put your rental payment towards the purchase price.

If you do consider renting, be wary of the less than reputable shops. These stores aren’t as concerned about the cleanliness of their products and they may try to force brides into purchasing a dress simply because alterations were required. Respectable rental shops know how to clean their gowns so that each one looks brand new regardless of how many times it has been rented. These businesses will also contract with a seamstress who is skilled at making temporary but flawless alterations that can be reversed for future clients. Additionally, most rental retailers are full-service shops. Many offer petticoats, tiaras, veils and all manner of accessories to complete your wedding ensemble.

Remember, it’s a wedding dress not a financial funeral dress. With a little unconventional ingenuity you can make a beautiful first impression the right way!

Submitted by D. Middlebrooks-Bernal, Budget and the Bride, www.budgetandthebride.com

Which Wedding Jewelry Pieces Should You Wear?

2010-12-27T08:00:00.000-05:00

As a bride, you want the elements of your wedding ensemble to complement and enhance your natural beauty, not compete for attention. That is why most experts recommend wearing simple wedding jewelry sets. What should your jewelry ensemble consist of? That depends on your hair and dress. Here are some tips to help you pull it all together.

Earrings

Keep your dress and hairstyle in mind when you choose earrings. Chandelier or dangly earrings can look wonderful with an up do, but can become tangled if you wear your hair down. If your dress is elaborate, keep the earrings simple. Popular choices for a formal wedding include pearl studs, diamonds, and crystal solitaire earrings.

Hair Jewelry

Tiaras, hairpins, combs, and decorated headbands can all add interest and glamour to your wedding hair. If you choose an eye-catching piece, such as a crown-like tiara, let this be the central element in your jewelry ensemble. A subtle piece, like a pearl comb, can complement more elaborate jewelry.

Back jewelry

You can enhance the look of a backless or low-cut gown by wearing a back drop, backwards strands of opera-length pearls, or lariat. This also adds more interest for the guests during the ceremony.

Necklace or pearls

The necklace can be bold (to complement a simple wedding dress) or delicate (to balance the look of an elaborate gown). If your gown has an interesting neckline, you may want to go without. Keep in mind that different lengths work best with different necklines. Generally, leave a gap between the neckline and necklace. Alternately, you can wear long pearls or a necklace below the neckline if your dress is unadorned.

Wrist wear

Unless your dress is strapless, the general rule is to keep hands and wrists unadorned (except for the wedding ring set, of course). Or, wear a delicate bracelet as an accent piece. Too much "going on" around your wrists or hands will distract attention away from you and the gown, and fragment the look. The strapless gown is the exception. A cuff or other substantial bracelet can enhance bared shoulders and arms.

Earrings, necklace, hair jewelry, back jewelry, and bracelet. Wear all, some, or none. But keep in mind that together they should create a balanced look. Most importantly, the jewelry ensemble should reflect you and your personal style.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, and tutorials. Read more about wedding jewelry (shopping tips, tradition, lengths, stones, etc.) at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/jewelry

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

NJ Wedding Industry Event December, 2010

2010-12-27T07:00:00.000-05:00

The festivities at New Jersey's wedding industry networking event for the 2010 holiday season at L'Affaire Fine Catering in Mountainside, NJ were fabulous. Next event is May 25, 2011 at The Westminster Hotel, Livingston, NJ. Video by Celeste Studios.

Merry Christmas

2010-12-25T11:00:00.000-05:00

Managed to find the original image we used on our site for our first holiday season back in 1997. We hope everyone had a great Christmas... wishing all a very happy and prosperous New Year!

Congratulations to all the newly engaged holiday brides-to-be!

Couture Bridal Look On A Budget

2010-12-19T11:00:00.000-05:00

The rumors are true… you don’t have to spend a fortune on a wedding gown to look like you did!

The details that make couture style so expensive can be recreated on a simple, inexpensive gown. For instance, some of the trends right now are draped fabric, ruching, sashes, broaches, and unique accessories.

You can start with a simple, strapless satin dress with little or no embellishment. (Search online for “simple wedding gown” or “informal wedding dress.”) Add a wide satin sash in a fabulous color, tied either in a bow or square knot, and place a broach in the middle of it. Why not dye your favorite heels to match the sash color? Top it off with a matching satin bolero jacket for a little coverage in case the air is chilly at your reception.

If your wedding is going to be held in an informal location such as a beach or garden, consider a dress in a lightweight, flowy fabric such as chiffon. Complete your look with a satin ribbon around the waist in a beachy color like turquoise or coral, and adorn your feet with footless sandals (or foot jewelry) made with pearls or crystal beads. A long veil is always beautiful blowing in the sea breeze. Imagine those gorgeous pictures!

Another idea for an unembellished dress is to keep the focus on your accessories. A sassy birdcage veil (think Reece Witherspoon in Sweet Home Alabama!) and vintage chandelier earrings give a sophisticated, elegant look to any simple gown.

Remember, your wedding is all about your individual style. So get creative, look for accessories that show off who you are, and make it your own!

Submitted by Shanell Bledsoe, www.bledsoephoto.com

Wedding Dress Savings – How to Dress to Impress, For Less

2010-12-19T10:00:00.000-05:00

Your wedding gown - arguably the most important garment purchase in your lifetime. No other dress comes with more anticipation – and will be more photographed - than this one. But that doesn’t mean you have to spend like royalty to look like a princess on your wedding day. With these smart strategies, you can still walk down the aisle feeling like a million bucks (without having to spend just that).

Something Borrowed

Today, anything retro screams chic. So consider donning your mother’s wedding gown. You’ll not only honor a family legacy, you’ll save a pretty penny too! With vintage lace overlays and crystal embellishments making a comeback, you won’t have to worry about looking dated. With a few simple (and inexpensive) alterations, you can make it your own.

Avoid Added Adornments

Beading, pleating, stitching, embroidering…all of these trimmings add up and are going to cost you extra. Consider a dress that is simply embellished, yet still elegant.

Shop Savvy

Be on the lookout for sample sales, trunk shows, and outlet bargains. Bridal shops are trying to rid their racks of the previous season’s styles to make room for new ones in the late-summer/winter months. Get ready to brave the crowds for super savings.

Don't Name Drop

Sure, designer duds are nice – but if you’re on a budget – you may want to skip the sought-after label. The good news is that you won’t have to sacrifice on style. If you find a look you like from a high-end dress designer, you can almost always find something similar by another name in your price range.

Be Honest

Just because your wedding dress budget doesn’t match your elaborate vision doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice the look you want. Approach this shopping decision with an open mind. When stepping into a bridal boutique, tell them exactly what you can realistically spend, and let them take care of the rest. They are the experts, and you might be surprised to see what they can come up with—the perfect wedding gown exists at every price point.

Think Outside Traditional Tulle and Lace

There’s no written rule that says your wedding day attire has to be an official bridal gown. The look you are going for is often available through another avenue. For instance, many bridesmaids’ dresses come in white or ivory, offering a less expensive, less fussy alternative to the traditional wedding dress.

Get started finding the perfect wedding dress

Now that you’re prepped with some money saving tips, it’s time to start browsing. Look no further than our interactive Wedding Dress search. Here you can search thousands of wedding gowns by price, designer, fabric, silhouette, hemline, sleeve style - you name it.

Cori Russell is Editorial Director for Elegala.com and Wedding Advice from Industry Insiders blog and Editor for Gala Weddings Magazine. Elegala is a new wedding planning resource offering a comprehensive national directory of superior wedding reception sites and wedding services, along with planning articles, photo galleries, expert advice and checklists to keep brides current on today's wedding trends and styles.

Submitted by Cori Russell, www.elegala.com

Ten Wedding Blunders To Avoid

2010-12-19T09:00:00.000-05:00

On Bended Knee Wedding Coordination out of Los Angeles wants to help you avoid these common wedding pitfalls.

10. Don’t Rock the Cash Bar

When it comes to alcohol at your reception, what you serve is entirely up to you. Whether you choose to serve a full bar, limited cocktails, Beer and Wine, or no alcohol at all will be based on various factors including budget. The one option that is not recommended is a Cash Bar. Your guests should be gracious enough to accept what is being offered to them. If however a guest feels the need for a drink selection that is not offered, chances are that he or she will be resourceful enough to find it.

Also, request that bartenders not put out tip jars. If you are hosting the bar, tell your catering contact that you are happy to pay gratuity to the bartender(s) but that you do not want your guests to feel obligated to tip.

9. Go flat!

A huge number of brides give feedback that they wish they had worn flats, having kicked off their heels during the reception. As a bride you can expect to be standing for 8-12 hours on your wedding day. Be sure to break in your shoes well in advance. Even when wearing flats, unexpected blisters can form after a few hours on your feet.

8. Have a little faith

D.J.’s are perhaps the wedding vendor most micromanaged by couples. Too many song requests may actually impede the flow of your party. You hire your D.J. to judge when to play what music. You wouldn’t instruct your Caterer step by step on how to prepare food, or your Photographer on what angles and lenses to use. Limit your D.J. request list to a few favorites and a do-not-play list of only the songs you cannot stand. Do not get carried away and have some trust.

7. Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize

What really matters most to you, the photographer, the music and dancing, the food and wine, the decorations, or being able to accommodate a large guest list? Put your money towards what you care about. You will have regrets if you skimp on what really counts. When you, the Bride and Groom are not footing the bill yourselves however, you may have to forfeit some financial decision-making. If this is the case you will need to compromise on certain priorities or if you really want that pricey photographer offer to pay for one yourself.

6. Bibbity Bobbity Boo

Wedding Dress shops are notorious for having your dress shipped in at the last minute. Think about it, if you owned a Wedding Dress Boutique you wouldn’t want every brides dress held at your shop for nine+ months before their weddings. Schedule your first fitting well before your wedding. Your final dress fitting should be no less than 1 week prior to your wedding so that alterations can still be made.

Tuxedo rentals for all attendants must be tried on, that includes Dad. Whether the Tailor seemed to take precise measurements or not, too many men still show up at weddings with high waters or baggy tuxes.

5. Don’t hit the road, Jack

Your wedding day is one of the biggest, most important days of your life. You will be exhausted and a bit disorderly the following day. Going away is the last thing you will want to worry about. Wait at least a couple of days before venturing on your honeymoon. Your wits will thank you.

4. Last night of single life

DO NOT hold your Bachelor or Bachelorette party the night before your wedding! This may seem like a no-brainer but many brides and grooms still practice the archaic ritual of drinking all night on that fatal evening. It is simply not worth it, as the Bride/Groom and your attendants will no doubt feel tired, look tired, have a hangover, or worse be sick walking down the aisle. If necessary, request that any out of town attendants arrive a day earlier to help you to prepare and celebrate a different night.

3. No Guidance

With no Director there are too many details left to too many people at your ceremony. Having a Wedding Coordinator allows for one person to coordinate your wedding party processional, music, minister, seating guests and to resolve any unexpected last minute complications. A Coordinator will ease the stress level of everyone, including you, tremendously on your wedding day. So if your location does not include a Wedding Day Coordinator who also directs your rehearsal, hire your own. A Wedding Coordinator may be much more affordable than you think.

2. Stretching yourself too thin

As the bride you will make everyone around you crazy by waiting until the last minute in planning and finalizing details. If you have a hard time planning and prioritizing on your own then get help. You don’t want to be remembered as “one of those brides” that put everything off and then expected her friends and family to pick up the pieces, do you?

Do not commit yourself to social events the day before your wedding. This day is meant for you to wrap up loose ends, beautify yourself, attend your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner in many cases, and most importantly get some amount of rest for the day ahead. You are going to need it!

1. High demands

Try to keep in mind that although your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen may offer you extra help, these friends can become taken advantage of. The only "official obligations" of wedding party members are emotional support, the financial expense of wedding attire and travel, participation in the rehearsal and the obvious role on your wedding day. In the case of the MOH or BM, reception toasts are traditional as well. Other help that these individuals may offer should not be viewed as duties, but rather as acts of kindness including: setting up/tearing down, transporting ceremony goods, throwing a bridal shower or other party, distributing gratuities, and any other help that is offered.

Remember to be thoughtful towards your attendants. Bridesmaids may not be comfortable in 4 inch heels, purchasing new jewelry or paying to have their hair or makeup professionally styled. Do not forget to personally thank any bridal party members for taking part in your wedding, as well as family members who gave you assistance. A small thank you gift is always appreciated.

Submitted by Jackie Baird, On Bended Knee Wedding Coordination, www.bendedkneeweddings.com

Wedding Planning With Less Stress

2010-12-19T08:00:00.000-05:00

Beginning to plan a Wedding can be overwhelming! With a little help it can be less stressful than you think and you can actually have fun during the process. At AFavor4U, we help plan weddings everyday and we'd like to share a few key planning elements with you.

It is crucial to keep the right attitude.

Don't let the importance of the day overwhelm you. Yes, it may be the most important day of your life, but something will inevitably go wrong and if you keep your sense of humor everything will be beautiful! It can only be the perfect day if you relax and let it be.

It helps to start your planning as early as possible.

Nothing will stress you out more than having too many last minute details to deal with. Having all of the little details planned well in advance will give you luxury of time to pamper yourself on the day of the wedding.

Set a budget and stick to it.

Wondering how you are going to pay for everything will suck the joy out of your wedding and WORSE your honeymoon!

Decide on a tone and style.

Do you want a traditional or contemporary wedding? Formal? Casual? Deciding on these issues early will help with Gown selection, color selection, reception location, flower choice... well everything! Important Tip: Don't be afraid to include contemporary, traditional, formal or casual elements to suite your personalities and style. It's your wedding, it should be about YOU not a rigid set of rules.

Share some tasks with trusted friends and relatives.

Lighten the load a little, you don't have to do everything.

Find good service providers and suppliers.

Look for quality as well as price. Also, look for good service and the willingness to work with you. Check references, better business listings, get recommendations from friends. Quality dependable providers will reduce your stress tremendously.

Finally, remember to include exercise in your daily routine. After a day filled with tasks and decisions you deserve a little time to yourself. Set aside at least half an hour to do an activity that best suits you. This can involve going to the local gym, swimming, sports, yoga or even walking around your neighborhood. This will help relieve much stress and help you feeling fit, trim, and beautiful.

We hope these suggestions help to reduce the stress and set you on your way to happy planning. Please feel free to visit www.afavor4u.com, call 1-877-346-7439 or email if there is anything else we can help you with.

Submitted by www.afavor4u.com

Saying iDo: Weddings, The iPod, And You

2010-12-19T07:00:00.000-05:00

Like you, I knew long ago that iPhones and iPods were becoming popular. But after I recently became engaged and started to plan my wedding, I was shocked to find that the iPod has become one of the hottest wedding accessories today - iPhones and iPods are now being used at every stage from initial planning to your eventual honeymoon on a beach.

Preparing for your wedding can be overwhelming: in the past, a busy bride-to-be had to set aside different times for reading wedding books and magazines, planning, and keeping herself in shape for the big day. Today, she can work herself into shape and listen to a wedding podcast at the same time. Sharon Naylor, a wedding expert and author of 30 wedding books, including 1000 Best Wedding Bargains, told iLounge just how popular the iPod has become as a wedding tool. “It’s given brides and grooms a whole new world of information, accessible at times they didn’t have before,” explained Naylor, “during commutes, while working out, while doing housework. They can tune in at any time, which is a big change from the days when brides and grooms sought information on their work computers, or when they come home exhausted from work.”

What options are available for iPhone and iPod-toting brides? Here are just some of the great things we’ve come across:

Wedding Planning Podcasts

Thanks to the iTunes Store, you can bypass the bookstore entirely with a few quick clicks of your mouse: a quick search for “Wedding” yields a massive variety of books, suggested music and Podcasts, covering wedding planning, reception ideas and honeymoon guides. Podcasts are the best free options, with over 30 downloadable options out there: New York’s Wedding Planning Talk Radio has eight free episodes, Queer Eye has a nine-episode wedding series, and Brides Magazine even has a four-episode podcast. Not surprisingly, many of the other options are little more than promotions - there’s a video podcast from BrideAccess, “brought to you by some of the most respected vendors in the wedding industry,” and lots of podcasts from local wedding photographers.

Wedding-Themed Audiobooks and Videos

If you’re willing to spend some money, the iTunes Store offers lots of other options. Besides individual wedding-themed episodes of your favorite TV shows, you can download an entire season of the reality TV show Whose Wedding is it Anyway?, with season 4 and season 5 now available for $18 each. There are also many fictional wedding-themed audiobooks, ranging from $2 to $26, including everything from a children’s book to a Danielle Steel novel. We wish there were better non-fiction options.

Wedding Music

You can use the iTunes Music Store to find several wedding music compilations or use your iPhone to search for the perfect wedding song.

Gifting

Music’s not just important to the bride and groom; members of the wedding party most likely love it, too. That’s why newlyweds are gifting iPods and iTunes gift certificates to their wedding attendants, which means that volunteering to be a groomsman in your buddy’s wedding could score you a new shuffle or nano. “iPods themselves may be the gifts,” noted Sharon Naylor. “From carrying cases to iTunes cards, sound systems, and other accessories, these are becoming the hot gift for bridal parties.” Just being related to an iPod-loving couple can help, too: “Many couples are giving these to their parents, to keep them up to speed if they don’t already have their own.”

The couple may be hoping for a little Apple love, themselves. Major retailers’ bridal registries today are not only filled with requests for flatware and china, but also shuffles, nanos and full-sized iPods. According to Naylor, “We’re seeing more couples registering for iPods and other technology, since they might already live together, or they each own their own homes and have all the linens and blenders they could ever need. Couples love registering for ‘toys,’ but the truth is that they’ll use their iPods every day. Not the blender or the fondue maker. So it’s a smart add-on to any registry, as are the accessories.”

Wedding Photography

For those without iPods in their wedding registries, there’s another option. Photographers like Jeff LaPlante are offering clients iPod-ready photography packages. LaPlante sells the “I Do iPod” package, which for $1000 includes brand new his-and-her 30GB fifth-generation video iPods, loaded with complete wedding and reception proofs.

LaPlante’s Seattle-based photo business is surprisingly progressive in an industry that thrives on four- to six-week delivery times for wedding photos. He not only creates a slideshow of the couple’s wedding images that can play during the reception, but he also has the images ready for the couple to take home with them at the end of the evening.

Using both his Nikon D2x and D200 cameras, LaPlante shoots both RAW (minimally processed data) and JPG files. “The RAW files are used for final printing of albums and portraits, while the small JPGs are used to create the reception slideshows, website slideshows, iPod proofs and other low resolution uses,” he explained. “I’m able to download all of the small JPGs onto an external FireWire disk very quickly the night of the wedding…A few more actions and a batch process later and I have an entire set of proofs ready to load onto the iPods.” The result is instant gratification for the newly married couple. “I can have the couple’s slideshow ready on their wedding night so they can take them with them on their honeymoon.”

LaPlante believes that iPods will evolve into a larger role in wedding photography. “Another application I’m developing is PodProofer,” he said. “It’s currently in beta and allows customers who already own their iPods to download a small Java application to their iPod. This application will automatically connect to my website and download their proofs to their hard drive. This alleviates me from having to do it the night of the wedding.”

While some photographers are promoting iPods as part of their services, other photographers are using iPods as a tool for promoting their work. “Of course, the iPod becomes the perfect promotional tool,” said Lamar Smith, a wedding photographer in Louisiana. “I carry wedding samples on my iPod, to show prospective clients. The uniqueness of the iPod wedding album presentation (is that it) grabs their attention and gives me an ‘instant in’ to presenting more about my wedding photography services.”

Wedding Videography

Still photographs are the “classic” way weddings are captured, but wedding videos have become increasingly popular over the last 15 years. So it’s no surprise that professional videographers are also using the iPod to sell their services. “Podcasts, or iPod videos, are becoming more & more popular,” noted Darcie King of E Video Productions. “We are also starting to sell an option to wedding clients where they can have their recap online as a downloadable iPod video.”

Wedding Cakes

iPod wedding cakes? Seriously? Yes. Some brides and grooms go beyond just having an iPod involved in every facet of their weddings - they want to eat it, too! A talented baker can create a memorable wedding cake, such as the one shown here, or delicious cookies in the shape of your favorite shuffle, nano or iPod. With an unlimited imagination (and budget) the possibilities are endless. Numerous images of iPod-themed cakes can be found on Flickr, including this one of a mini-wedding cake based on the iPod silhouette theme.

As a bride-to-be, I went into my planning thinking that the worlds of weddings and the iPod would rarely intersect, but the array of options is staggering. With Apple having sold over 90 million iPods worldwide, not counting the now more popular than ever iPhone, perhaps it’s not totally surprising that the Apple is infiltrating the wedding industry, and if the examples above are any indication, it’s only going to become more important over time. Have you seen the iPod or iPhone used at weddings in a new and interesting way? We look forward to reading about your experiences below.

Submitted by Christina Easton, Contributing Editor, iLounge.com

Choosing Your Invitations

2010-12-18T11:00:00.000-05:00

What Will Your Wedding Invitations Say About You?

Everything about your wedding, starting with your wedding invitations, should reflect your own personal style. Now, more than ever, couples are doing everything they can to make their wedding day uniquely personalized.

You and your fiancé chose the location, theme and colors of your wedding based on your personal preferences. Since your wedding invitations are an introduction to your wedding, they should reflect your choices and ultimately your personalities and styles.

It used to be that wedding invitations were always very traditional in their color and appearance. Today, wedding invitations come in a vast array of exciting colors, styles, sizes and themes to reflect the creativity of modern wedding couples.

Not to say traditional is out of date, but today your options are truly unlimited. There are choices based on seasons, hobbies, color combinations, themes, ceremony locations, ethnic backgrounds, flowers, etc. Your wedding invitations can have a modern contemporary look or they might feature photos of youngsters sharing tender moments.

Your choices don’t end with the wedding invitation itself. There’s the font style and ink color. Again, there is an impressive selection of font styles to fit any type of wedding design. Just keep in mind you want to choose a style that your guests will find easy to read. The more script the style, the more difficult it usually is to read. Colored ink choices are not quite as abundant as font styles, but there are still plenty to accommodate your chosen wedding colors.

Here are some questions for you to consider when choosing your wedding invitation style:

In what type of setting are you getting married – church, formal, casual, outdoor, destination?
What is the color scheme of your wedding?
Is there an overall theme to your wedding?
Do you want to incorporate a specific ethnic or religious theme?
In what season will your wedding take place?
What type of flowers are you having in your wedding?
Do you want to include your photo on your wedding invitations?
What is your wedding invitation budget?

Another great idea for personalizing your wedding invitations is to include a favorite line of poetry, a beloved quotation, a particular Bible verse, or words from a special song. Many times the company who prints your invitations will also have a large selection of small verses to choose from. Just be sure your chosen wedding invitation style will have enough room for these extra lines of printing.

Your wedding invitations should be both beautiful and uniquely personal, just like your wedding ceremony. With all of today’s gorgeous choices, you’re sure to find exactly what you desire.

Sara Haese owns www.PrintedCreationsWeddingStore.com where you'll find a huge selection of casual and elegant wedding invitations as well as save the dates and wedding accessories. Visitors can also sign up to receive her FREE Wedding Invitation Guide.

Submitted by by Sara Haese, www.printedcreationsweddingstore.com

Professionally Printed Wedding Invitations

2010-12-18T10:00:00.000-05:00

Should Your Wedding Invitations be Professionally Printed?

Today’s brides seem more and more interested in printing their own wedding invitations using home computers to save on costs. Even though you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how inexpensive some styles of professionally printed invitations really are, there’s so much more to the process than just the monetary cost.

Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life, so be sure your wedding invitations match the beauty of your special day! Your invitations will be giving your guests their first impression of your wedding.

The whole wedding invitation process starts with choosing your style. Professional printers are able to provide a great selection of different designs including quality papers, unique colors and trendy sizes. They commonly have a style to fit any theme, budget or colors you have in mind.

Professionally printed wedding invitations are typically created by using a process called thermography. This produces the beautiful raised lettering that makes wedding invitations look so elegant.

When it comes to choosing your font style and ink color, you will appreciate all the choices a professional printer has to offer. They can also print your return address on your outer envelopes and provide a color lining for your inner envelopes if you so choose.

Additional matching items such as response cards, maps, direction cards, reception cards, thank you notes and wedding programs can be easily printed at the same time you order your professionally printed wedding invitations.

There is no doubt that your time is at a premium as you are planning your wedding, and printing your own wedding invitations can be a tedious task. So consider saving precious time and possible frustration by letting the professionals handle your wedding invitation printing. Let them do what they do best…provide superior quality resulting in gorgeous wedding invitations.

Sara Haese owns www.PrintedCreationsWeddingStore.com where you'll find a great selection of both elegant and inexpensive wedding invitations as well as save the dates. Visitors can also sign up to receive her FREE Wedding Invitation Guide.

Submitted by Sara Haese, www.printedcreationsweddingstore.com

How To Choose A Florist

2010-12-18T09:00:00.000-05:00

No wedding is complete without flowers. But finding a florist is not a morning stroll in the park. It takes some doing to choose a good florist. You have to consider several things so that you can make the right choice. It is better if you start the process of choosing well ahead of the wedding. Any florist of some repute will be busy, so you have to make your booking quite early. In order to choose the florist, your first job will be to ask the banquet hall you are having the reception at for the florists they recommend. There are a few reception venues that only allow certain florists in their facilities. Better check out for that. Otherwise, ask your friends and relatives to recommend a few florists to choose from. Ask your married friends who were the florists in their weddings. Do not forget to inquire if they were comfortable working with the florists because you won’t certainly like much fuss on your wedding day. It makes sense to look for a florist with some professional affiliation because of their commitment to the craft and also prompt services. A florist that can offer convenient hours at an easily accessible location with a satisfaction guarantee will be a godsend to you.

After you have collected the names of a few florists, contact them to get price estimates and see their work. It is unlikely that any reputed florist will agree to give an estimate over telephone. When you meet them personally, you should bring some fabric from your bridesmaid’s gowns, so that the florist can help you select colors and types of flowers to use. It is better to look for a florist who is familiar with the venue of your wedding. The florist will know what is suitable and what is not if he knows the place well.

Do not hesitate to tell the florist what you exactly need. And never feel bad about negotiating the price; keep it in mind that you have every right to bargain. Inquire about the cost of the flowers you will need, and also if the delivery and setup is included in the price. Finally, get a contract of what exactly will be provided for your wedding. Wedding planning is no easy thing involving a lot of stress and the process of choosing a florist is no exception. But once you make the choice, say it with flowers.

Jen Carter is owner of My Wedding Blog, and offers tips and advice for people planning their wedding.

Submitted by Jen Carter, www.my-wedding-blog.com

Photography And Video Tips

2010-12-18T08:00:00.000-05:00

How To Choose A Photographer

Choosing a photographer is not like going to a store and selecting some bridal dresses. It is different because you can’t see the photographs before you buy them. You can know how good a photographer is only after he has been chosen and you have received the photos from him. It is therefore evident that your decision will largely be a matter of faith. Those who think price is the sole determining factor are on the wrong track; they should remember that price is important, but you don’t know the quality of the product you are paying for. So it is better if you follow a few general guidelines before choosing a photographer.

In most cases, recommendations of friends and relatives are of great help. After you prepare a list of photographers following their recommendations, you should meet each of them and have a look at their portfolios. You can collect the names of good photographers from other sources also. If you can’t meet all of them personally, visit their websites and review their portfolios. Concentrate on the photographs only, don’t get carried away by the design of the website. After a thorough review, shortlist them and talk to them personally, on phone or through e-mail. Find out whether he will be available on that particular day, which areas are his specialties (candid, traditional, photojournalism, combination, film or digital etc.) and how much he will charge you for the job. In return, be sure what you are going to get from them. While judging the samples, trust your own instincts. It is only you who will know what you like. When you see a picture, you only can say, “Yeah! This is exactly what I am looking for.”

From this interaction, you will have a fair idea of the photographer’s personality. Remember he is going to be with you all day; you will definitely not choose someone who you won’t feel comfortable with. No matter how good his photographs are, a photographer with a bad personality can ruin your day. So select someone you feel good about.

Once you have found a photographer who meets all these requirements, start working the budget back into the equation. Try not to cross your budget. Bargain in those areas where bargaining is possible. Try to stick to your budget without compromising on quality. If you keep your mind open to the wide range of possibilities, you will certainly find the photographer of your dreams.

How To Choose A Videographer

It is not that still photographers have all taken to different professions by now, but today’s couples are more and more going for videography so that even their great grandchildren can have a feel of the moments of their wedding ceremony. Like you did for your wedding photographer, you should take a number of factors into consideration while choosing your videographer too.

To begin with, ask for samples of their recent wedding videos. Watch a number of them so that you can make a fair assessment of their qualities. They will try to show you only their best work, you must insist they show more of them. Check if the images are clear and smooth, the sound good enough or not. If they show samples on their websites, ask for samples off a DVD as well to get a better idea of their work. Inquire whether they are acquainted with the latest trends in videography. It is essential for better picture and sound quality. You should also know if they have good equipment with them. Check if they have professional grade, 3-chip digital cameras which produce great pictures. You should also ensure that your videographer does have good editing equipment like Adobe, Avid or Newtek.

Apart from the technical and aesthetic details, you should ask when you will hear from them again before the wedding day. Find out how they handle communication after you give them your deposit. Your objective should be to ensure that such an important occasion of your life is given the attention it deserves. Try to know how they are going to cover the ceremony and reception. Will visit to the location beforehand if they have never worked there before? Are they ready to give you an emergency or cell phone number in case you need to contact them for any last-minute changes?

Get to know about all the packages and options they can offer and at what prices. Evaluate them and find out if you are getting something that you will want to show your children and grandchildren years from now. Ask them how quickly they can deliver the final product. Never forget to read the contract before signing and inquire about the payment policy. It is likely that most of them will seek a deposit while some will want to be paid fully in advance. Weigh all these things carefully and then only make the final choice.

Jen Carter is owner of My Wedding Blog, and offers tips and advice for people planning their wedding.

Submitted by Jen Carter, www.my-wedding-blog.com

How To Wear A Bridal Tiara

2010-12-18T07:00:00.000-05:00

As you begin choosing a favorite wedding gown style, you will notice a selection of tiaras in most bridal shops. They sparkle, shine, and practically cry out to be modeled. Most brides-to-be cannot resist trying on at least a few of them. Before you make a final choice, however, first understand a few things about the best way to wear a wedding-day tiara.

Tiaras Come in Different Styles

Say the word "tiara" and most of us think of the stereotypical princess tiara -- rhinestones or crystals set in silver or white gold, gaily twinkling to a filigreed, front-and-center point. In reality, there are many variations. Pearl tiaras, with many designs of mixed pearls and crystals, are available. And they are not all set in silver. You can buy yellow gold or gold-plated tiaras, too.

The tiara's shape can vary as well. You can choose a headband style to hug your hair -- with one, two, or three bands -- or an inverted v-band to sit on your forehead. There are also crown-like designs that are a more uniform width than the classical princess styles (and may require a wider hairstyle than peaked versions).

Combs and Bands

Tiara construction can also vary. These different constructions dictate how you secure the tiara to your head. Some tiaras have small combs attached on each side, near the end of the bands, to more easily secure the tiara from the sides. Others -- called comb tiaras -- are mounted on a larger, single comb, so you can slip the comb backward into your hair from the front. Still others are made with loops at the end, or plain bands so you can use your hair or hairpins to hold the tiara in place. Take into account your hairstyle and which type of design will be easier to hold in place when choosing your tiara.

A Princess, Beauty Queen, or Bride? It's About Emphasis.

Princesses and beauty queens wear their tiaras on display, predominantly as a status symbol. It is all about what (not who) they are. A wedding, on the other hand, is about the bride herself, not the status of being a Missus. For that reason, a bride's tiara is given a different emphasis than that of a princess or beauty queens. A bridal tiara accents the bride's ensemble. If you compare Princess Diana of Wales' wedding photos to official photos of her wearing the Spencer Family Tiara, for example, you can see the difference between Princess Diana and bride Diana (for photos, go to images.google.com and type in Diana Spencer Tiara). On her wedding day, the tiara was worn as an accessory, surrounded by the tremendous veil. When worn in an official capacity as a symbol of her status, the tiara was much more obvious.

Aside from surrounding a tiara with a veil, the way you wear the headpiece can also make the difference between accent piece and centerpiece. Balanced atop one's head, the tiara is a showpiece, drawing attention to itself. Integrated into the hairdo, it becomes part of the ensemble. You can wrap the tiara around your bun or a mass of curls. Or, tilt it backwards at an angle -- so it does not sit straight up -- and hide the ends beneath your hair. Puff your veil or hair behind a large tiara to de-emphasize it.

Your Hairstyle Matters

Which size and type of tiara works best for you partially depends on your hairstyle. Large hair can carry a large tiara. Small hair means a smaller scale tiara. Consider the front profile. If you wear your hair in a bun, for example, your tiara may be more conspicuous set against the bun or wrapped around it, but your hair will be more conspicuous as well, balancing out the effect. The same tiara that works with the bun may be too tall for a smaller profile hairstyle. If you plan to choose an inexpensive tiara, consider buying two or more and experiment until you find the best look.

However you choose to wear your bridal tiara, consult others throughout the process. Ask your hair stylist and those who know you, but will be honest with you about their opinions. Do this and you will find a tiara the looks fabulous and reflects your personality.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com -- a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, tutorials, and shopping sections. Read more about wedding tiaras at www.myonlineweddinghelp.com/tiaras

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

How To Make A Birdcage Veil

2010-12-17T10:00:00.000-05:00

Birdcage veils -- sometimes called net or face veils -- have recently become more popular, partially due to movie and celebrity brides wearing them. Most recently, in 2007, Katherine Heigl wore one in her real-life wedding and Jessica Alba's character wore a birdcage veil in the movie Fantastic Four 2: Rise of the Silver Surfer. While it's possible to buy birdcage veils, brides on a budget may prefer to make their own.

This veil is very short -- usually just long enough to frame the face but can also be eye-length -- and typically worn alone, without additional tiers or a separate blusher. You may choose to attach a traditional veil in the back, to a bun or mass of curls. The birdcage is made of coarse-weave French or Russian-style netting rather than typical fine-mesh veil fabrics. Historically, the veil was attached to a hat. The modern bride, however, often prefers to wear her birdcage veil without a hat. Today, most brides attach this short, circular veil directly to their hair with a pin or comb, so that it hangs down around the head. The front serves as a blusher over her face.

Making a Birdcage Veil

Because of the short length and because netting is stiffer than tulle, creating the effect you want when making a birdcage veil can be trickier than when making a regular veil. For this reason, purchase extra netting and plan to make one or two trial runs before the veil is perfect. Also note that the width of the netting will be the length of your veil (from the point where you attach it to your head to the where the veil falls in front of your face).

Materials You Will Need:

- Up to three yards of Russian or French netting.
- Two or more hair clips (the kind used to secure hair extensions to short hair are most stable).
- Sturdy thread the color of the netting (button thread works well).
- Scissors

Step 1: Cut 36" of 9" French / Russian netting

You can make a relatively full birdcage veil, with many gathers, from a yard of netting. These instructions are for making a relatively full, gathered veil similar to Jessica Alba's in Rise of the Silver Surfer. Cut the netting shorter for a veil that lays closer to your head, with fewer gathers. If in doubt, cut the piece long at first. Then shorten it if you find that the veil is too full.

The short, cut ends will be the sides of your veil and the long, finished edges will be the front and back. These instructions explain how to gather the sides and attach them to clips as well as gather the back more loosely than the sides.

Step 2. Sew on two clips, one at each end of the long (finished) edge of veiling.

The clips will go at the front corners of the veil, with the teeth facing the finished edge. The outside, short side of each clip should be parallel to a raw, cut edge. Position them so that, when worn, the clips' metal bars will face outward, but remain under the veiling. The clips should curve against your head when closed.

Step 3. Gather the cut sides of the veil and sew them to the clips.

Using a slipknot, attach thread at the corner of a cut edge opposite a clip. Weave the thread in and out of the diamond patterns along the cut edge between the attached end and the clip then thread it through the hole in the clip.

Pull the thread tight so the entire cut edge is gathered against the clip. Secure to the underside of the clip (the non-bar side, which will be against your head) so the thread will be hidden when you are wearing the veil. You may want to tidy up by clipping off the frayed pieces of netting. One entire side should now be gathered and sewn to a clip.

Repeat on the second side, gathering and sewing the raw edge against the clip.

Step 4. Make the back gathers.

Attach doubled or heavy button thread to the inside edge of a clip. Weave the thread in and out between the diamonds or holes in the netting. Do not secure the thread to the second clip yet. The length of the thread determines how full the gathers and how closely the veil hugs your head. You will want to adjust the length of the thread so the veil looks perfect on you.

Step 5. Experiment with different veil widths.

Looking in a mirror, adjust the thread length between clips. When you are happy with your veil's width and fullness of the gathers, secure the thread by looping it through the inside holes of the second clip and tying it off. With 8" - 9" netting, you will need to attach the veil near the top of your head for it to hit just below the nose. Attach it farther back for a shorter look.

Leave time to practice attaching the veil exactly as you want it, and you will look like a star on your wedding day!

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, tutorials, and shopping sections. For instructions, with pictures, on how to make a birdcage veil visit the website at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/make-birdcage-veil.htm

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Discount Wedding Shoes Do Not Have To Be Cheaply Made

2010-12-17T09:00:00.000-05:00

Wedding expenses are looming, precariously overflowing the budget: deposits, food costs, the dress, jewelry -- the list goes on and on. And those bridal shop shoes cost HOW MUCH? You must walk a fine line when saving on your bridal shoes. You will, after all, be in them for at least most of a day, so they should be comfortable. This means quality materials and construction, which cost. Fortunately, there are ways you can save on these more expensive shoes. Give yourself enough time, and you will find the perfect pair of wedding shoes at a discounted price.

First consider what type of shoes you want. Ones made specifically as wedding wear? Dress or other shoes not necessarily made to be worn as wedding shoes, but will meet your needs? Or do you plan to buy plain shoes to adorn with bows or other decoration? The answers dictate what type of sales and discounts to monitor. If you are set on a pair of "real" bridal shoes, then you'll be searching specifically for wedding shoes. If not, you can widen your search to non-bridal sources.

The Definition of Cheap

You are not likely to find rock bottom $5 pricing on quality-made shoes, but you can find great values. When considering how much you can pay for your bridal shoes, think about how many times you can wear them. If you purchase dyeables, for example, have them dyed black or other dark color and they become evening shoes, to be worn over and over. Paying more for a pair like this can be a better value than paying less for a pair you can never wear again.

If having the superior construction and attention to detail of designers like Vera Wang, Stuart Weitzman, Cynthia Rowley and Filippa Scott is important to you, then "cheap" may mean saving $100 to $200 on a very expensive pair. Understand, too, that the more specific you are about your shoes, the longer it will take to find a good deal on them.

Seasonal Shopping

If yours is a beach, destination, or informal wedding -- or if you are looking for dress shoes -- plan around the seasonal clearance sales. Shoes for a particular season hit the market just before that season. By mid-season, clearance sales begin in order to make room for the next season's new designs. This can mean shopping a year ahead. If you have a June wedding, for example, begin looking for clearances the previous June or July.

Locally Discounted Bridal Shoes

Department stores and bridal shops occasionally run shoe clearances and sales, where you may find cheap shoes you like. To find the best deals, sign up for mailing lists and closely watch local advertisements. You can find weekly circulars online at retailers' Websites or visit ShopLocal to see all of the major retailers' sales in your area.

Discounted Wedding Shoes Online

The best opportunities for finding inexpensive or discounted shoes are online. The selection is much wider than in stores, and you will be able to more easily find your size (especially if your foot is wider, narrower, smaller, or larger than average). Most allow you to sort items by price, so you can easily peruse the lower-priced selections. Many of these retailers offer periodic coupon codes, free shipping, or other discounts. Search online for coupons before purchasing at a particular store and you can save more.

Auction Sites

You can usually find many styles of new and used shoes at a fraction of retail price at auction sites (eBay is the most popular). Some brands are readily available. Others are sparse. If you do not find what you are looking for right away, set up notifications that will monitor auctions and email you when relevant new auctions begin.

Online Classifieds

You can find individuals selling lightly worn shoes on classifieds sites. Craigslist is the most established -- recently reporting 40 million monthly users. Find your local Craigslist and post an "item wanted" classified describing what kind of shoes you want to buy. Also, there are always several brides selling their wedding shoes on Craigslist. (Hint: to search all Craigslists at once, go to Google and type in "site:craigslist.org wedding shoes" for a full list of classifieds from all areas. Replace "wedding shoes" with something more descriptive for a shorter list.) As with auction sites, you may have to monitor for a time before finding the right pair.

However you look for inexpensive quality bridal shoes, you will have more success if you use multiple methods at once. You can walk down the aisle for pennies on the dollar and no one will ever know!

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com -- a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, tutorials, and shopping sections. Read more about finding discount wedding shoes at www.myonlineweddinghelp.com/shop/discount-shoes.htm

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Mantilla, Lace and Scallop Veils

2010-12-17T08:00:00.000-05:00

To a certain extent lace, scalloped edge, and mantilla veils all describe similar types of veils: elegant-looking veils that incorporate lace designs and decorative edges. If you are a bride interested in this type of veil, you will probably want to explore all three styles.

Lace Veils

Delicate, lace veils are the ultimate in femininity and range from all-over to edge-only lace designs. The lace itself can be Blonda, Chantilly, or lace-embroidered tulle. The first two are found primarily on vintage or extremely high-quality veils. Today's bride most commonly wears the last type of lace, because of versatility and lower cost:

* Handmade Blonda lace incorporates designs crafted from two types of silk: A thin thread for detailing and a thicker one to add depth, more details, or color.

* Chantilly lace is intricately embroidered with vegetable, fruit, or floral designs and is named for the town in France where the lace originated. According to Wikipedia (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chantilly_lace), while most Chantilly lace is black, some white veils bear Chantilly designs.

* Lace-embroidered tulle can be sewn to mimic traditional Chantilly or Blonda lace or reflect other designs.

Lace Trim Veils

Another way to integrate the elegance of lace into your veil is through a lace edge or trim. The veil is made primarily from tulle or other veil material, with lace applied around the edges. This look is highly customizable because the specific material, trim design, and other embellishments vary depending on your preference.

Mantilla Veils

When you think of a lace veil, you may envision a mantilla veil -- single-tier with a scalloped edge. Traditionally, mantillas were made from embroidered Chantilly or Blonda lace. Now days, some mantilla veils are made from tulle, with embroidered edging. They are made from a single piece of non-gathered material, which is draped over the head and secured with an unobtrusive comb or pin.

Scallop Edge Veils

The distinctive feature about a mantilla veil is its scallop edge. A veil's edge is usually cut straight or on a slight curve. The exception is the scalloped wedding veil, which is cut with a unique edge. Picture the curvy pattern a row of semi-circles makes placed side-by-side. Or, for visual examples, go to Google Images (images.google.com) and type in Mantilla Veil.

Wearing a Single-Tier, Non-Gathered Veil

Traditionally, lace or mantilla veils are a single, non-gathered oval or round layer of material, to be draped over the head. This creates a sleek and sophisticated appearance, with no pouf or headpiece to interrupt the profile. You can wear this type of veil by pinning or attaching it to your hair with a small comb. You may also want to wear an unobtrusive bow or other hair ornament to hide a pin. If your veil has a scalloped or otherwise unique edge, the traditional way to wear it is so the lace edges softly frame your face and upper body. You may also choose to wear it "blusher style," so the veil covers your face and the edge falls to your bodice. Or, attach the veil to the back of your head so the decorated edges cascade down your back.

Gathered and Multi-Tiered Veils

While you will probably want a single-tier for an all-lace veil (to show the lace in its full beauty), you can wear a lace- or scallop-edge veil the same as any other. Do be careful, however, of the effect when considering more than one tier or heavy gathering. You may inadvertently create a busy or "crowded" look, rather than elegant.

Whichever way you choose to wear your veil, know that it will reflect your unique personality as you walk down the aisle.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com, a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, tutorials, and shopping sections. Read more about wedding veils (styles, lengths, colors, etc.) at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com/veils

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com

Wedding Ring Tattoos - What You Should Know

2010-12-17T07:00:00.000-05:00

Celebrities like Angelina Jolie, Mariah Carey, and Paris Hilton have "partner marking" -- the wearing of tattoos to represent commitment to a spouse or significant other -- popular. As go the celebrities, so go the public. Consequently, there seems to be a growing interest in having the wedding rings tattooed as the ultimate commitment.

True, when you say your vows, the words "till death do us part" have real meaning. This union is intended to be forever, and the wedding rings are one way to demonstrate your commitment. From that standpoint, it makes sense to wear rings that will never get lost, go down the kitchen drain, or even leave the fingers.

Who wears a tattooed wedding ring?

It isn't only the well known and well publicized opting for permanent circlets on their ring fingers. Doctors, construction workers, mechanics, athletes, and others who can't wear metal wedding bands are taking a serious look at this option. Those who are put off by the price of gold, silver, or gemstones are finding that tattooed wedding rings are less expensive.

Why not wear a tattooed wedding ring?

Having a tattoo applied is not painless, and the finger doesn't heal as quickly or as well as other places on your body. The obvious disadvantage is that tattoos are also permanent. If you change your mind about the design or the marriage, the ring stays ... unless you want to go through the uncomfortable and costly procedure of having it removed. On the other hand, tattoos tend to rub off on the underside of the finger from handling objects. One caution: don't go to an amateur. Be sure the person who applies your tattooed wedding ring has experience in this area.

What is involved with removing a tattoo?

I know you intend to be with your fiancé until the end of time, but it's a fact that many couples break up or divorce every day for unforeseen reasons. If this happens to you, realize that your tattoo ring will be a constant reminder of the past. Your choices will be to live with it or have the ring painfully and expensively removed.

There are several options for removing a tattoo. The following is a brief description of each. You would need to consult a plastic surgeon, dermatologist, or other doctor to determine the best choice for you:

- Cut it off. Some smaller tattoos can be cut out of the skin. The remaining skin is then stitched together or a piece grafted from another part of your body.

- Sand it off. You have probably heard of dermabrasion for your face. This is a similar concept, but much more severe. A rotary sander is used to dig out the skin until the tattoo is gone. Expect bleeding.

- Laser it off. Laser light can also remove a tattoo. The light breaks up the tattoo ink and your body carries away the pigment. This procedure takes more than one treatment. While less invasive and not as painful as other alternatives, multiple treatments can become pricey.

In any case, do not expect your finger to be restored to "pre-tattoo" beauty. Discoloration or scarring may remain after the removal.

Things to consider before getting your wedding ring tattoo.

- You will have to have your tattooed wedding ring touched up in five to ten years.

- A tattoo design can be altered, but if you have your significant other's initials engraved on your finger that may present a few challenges.

- An alternative to a tattooed wedding ring is to have matching tattoos elsewhere on your bodies; select designs that are meaningful to you but don't look like an obvious tribute to your loved one, just in case.

- Another way to add meaning to your engagement or wedding ring is to have a custom ring made to your specifications.

Whatever your decision, understand that the choice of having a tattoo ring engraved upon your skin is as critical as the choice to marry. Both have implications that last a lifetime.

Bobette Kyle-Wagner is publisher at www.MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com -- a Website helping engaged couples get the most use from Internet wedding resources. The site includes online wedding tips, original articles, tutorials, and shopping sections. Read more about wedding and engagement rings at www.myonlineweddinghelp.com/rings

Submitted by Bobette Kyle-Wagner, www.myonlineweddinghelp.com